The problem is the fact that when i was 7wks pregnant with her, he came over everything was going great then from like left field he started beating me and calling out of my name. He left me in a pile of blood and what a coincidence that my bf friend came over. she took me to the hospital . I was in like a trance of how the person that says they love you could do such a thing. Well the police got involved and he went to jail and got two years on probation and our little girl was born during the time. Well i had so much animosity against him and to this day still do even after all the counseling. he had supervised visits. As much as it killed me to let him see her i still did, because i didn't have to heart to hold her from him. My problem is my daughter only spent 10-15days with him threw the 4yrs and still has him on her mind day in and out. I cant make him be a dad but i cant tell our daughter that. Ive tried to get her mind on different things and occupied her more. its not working.
2006-12-27 05:24:43 · 6 answers · asked by Smile Alway's 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Alright, I have a similar situation. My sons father didn't beat me or anything, he has just been in & out of my sons life. My son thinks the world of him, even though he hasn't been there at all. I have never denied him the right to see our child, but do not force it. And I always try to express to our son that his father does love him. The father comes and confesses his love and makes promises to our son that never come true. My son is 8 now, and he is just now realizing that his dad lies. For years he asked questions about why his dad wasn't there. I made excuse after excuse for him, I don't anymore. I can only say I don't know. Don't lie for your baby's father, but for your relationship with your daughter don't bash him either. As far as her wanting him, it's natural.
FYI: Never have I received a penny from this man. He bought our son a Christmas present one time.
2006-12-27 06:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by ~Crystal~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you and this man have had many hardships. He was rotten to you and deserves to be put away for life! I can't tolerate hearing about a man who could do this to a woman! However, your four year old cannot grasp that concept. That is her father and that is all she knows. He probably doesn't treat her like that and she has no concept of time and the ability to track each visit. However, he does sound dangerous and I would not trust him to be with my child. Perhaps you should seek legal advise on how to strip him of his rights as a parent (or at least have supervised visitations) because of his violent past.
I'm sorry you have gone through this and I wish you a great 2007!
2006-12-27 05:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't dad-bash, don't disallow the visits and do everything you can to support your daughter in her want for her dad. It's perfectly normal and expected of little girls to want their Daddy. If he plans something and is a no-show, make an excuse for him, "Daddy had to work." When she is older, she will realize what is really going on, and appreciate you even more for trying and not being the "bad guy." Her little heart is going to get broken by him, just be there to pick up the pieces. It's hard, but in the long run, she has to learn this lesson on her own.
2006-12-27 05:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a very difficult situation but don't say anything about her dad to her that's negative. Little by little she will forget but try not to bring up the subject, change the subject and get her attention on something else when she starts to ask about him or say something about him. She will forget him and when she's older she'll realize by herself that he was not a positive person in both your lives. Be patient and she will forget about him. You can also say sometime that he's busy and can't see her or talk to her but don't say negative things to her about him. You may not believe this but on her own she will realize the truth and respect that you did not speak badly about her father even though he does not deserve it but for your childs well being you did this for her. If all parents in a situation like this were more aware what our children need, there would not be all these disfunctional children and teens.
2006-12-27 06:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by justmmez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-28 11:40:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will learn on her own. Just be there for her in every way and everyday
2006-12-29 03:53:35 · answer #6 · answered by sweethearttina2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋