Recently I moved to a new city. I also found out that my Uncle and cousins are working in this city (some live here, some fly back and forth every week from another big city). I've only meet them once in my adult life (a few years ago at one of their weddings). They are nice but upper class. They talk about art, culture, their private schools and jobs like it some secret code. (Between the parents and four kids, they are all either lawyers, doctors, and investment bankers). I went to a public university and have some work overseas, but nothing on par with them. I am actualy unemployed right now and have a liberal arts degree. I already feel inadequate and laim. They want to get together but I'm really nervous and feel pressure to come up with interesting topics. I never care with strangers but since its family it is getting to me. How can i behave and make myself chill. I'm not concerned with impressing them but do want them to like me. Help!
2006-12-27 06:11:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you sound like you feel like they are better than you because they are well off financially, i have friends that have everything and they could care less if i have nothing, they are my friends, they like me for me not for what i have or do not have. these people are your family, they need to get to know you. don't try to impress them just be yourself and you are just as important as they are, you have to be confident in your self. when you meet them just be genuine, if they talk about things that you don't know about ask them to tell you about it them listen. and when they ask you about your life tell them. maybe they can learn something from you, but don't be intimidated by what they have or the education they have. they will see that you are honest and real and appreciate you for who you are, if they don't they are missing out. good luck!
2006-12-27 06:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by cvgm702 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it. You're not in the're catagory so don't try to fit in. If any thing show them you are somebody to. A nice gesture would be if you get invited to the're house for dinner, make sure you say something about the dirty silverware on the table. Little things like that seem to enlighten them. I've been there. As a matter of fact I'll be dinning with the DuPonts this evening.
2006-12-27 07:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After being married into my husband's family, I felt the same way too. I just watch my speech in front of them and not saying something stupid that would embarass me or my husband. Other than that, you just have to be yourself. If you're unemployed, say it out when they ask you. There's nothing to be embarass about. It's not like you go out and be a prostitute or something. And just because they're lawyers, doctors and so on, it doesn't mean they're rich. To be successful and rich, you have to be financially free, meaning no debts to carry and enjoying life to the fullest. To fully understand what rich is, go read Rich Dad Poor Dad. Finish the book, and you'll see what I mean.
2006-12-27 06:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel inadequate with no-one,just be yourself and be proud of what you are,its harder making your way in the world on your own its alot easier if you are born into money,so just be you and if they don't like it then its their tough luck
2006-12-27 06:16:12 · answer #4 · answered by NATALIE W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just look nice, put on makeup and dress nice theyll love that, were somthing intresting, it always makes a great conversation starter
2006-12-27 06:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by razorsharpdut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about just being yourself. If they dont like you soooooooo. It will be their loss, not yours.
2006-12-27 10:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself.
2006-12-27 06:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by luckybean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋