We had a Christmas dinner at my brothers house and he has a little boy that is 13 years old and I have a little girl that is 4 years old. Anyways my sister said she saw the 13 year old hugging my daughter and he had one hand between her legs and the other hand on her breasts and was holding her so she couldnt get away and my little girl was trying to get away but couldnt so my sister said she told him to let her go and he did but my sister did not tell me she saw that until yesterday. When I asked my daughter about it she said he did do it and he does it all the time when nobodys looking even during church. What do you think we should do about this. I havent talked to the 13 year olds mom and dad yet and dont know if I should. Or if I should just not let her go back around them but they are my brother and his family. I am stuck here as to what to do.
2006-12-27 06:27:58 · 15 answers · asked by Crystal 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would tell the parents of the boy and never ever leave your daughter alone with him again. Because he'll do it again if he has that opportunity.
2006-12-27 06:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by Believe me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters you are all family. I would talk to the parents of the 13yr old. You need to find out is your little girl hurting and have he tried to go all the way. I would take her to the doctor to be tested. I know you love your family, but your daughter is the one that will suffer. At age 13 he could be sexually active, are he could have been touched himself. Someone has to put an end to this cycle, and if your daughter says he does it all the time, I know you will hate to do if, but if those test comes back that he has attempted to go with her, and the parents fail to get him help. I would press charges and request that make him get therapy She is too innocent......He is 13 A FREAKING TEENAGER.... he knows better.
2006-12-27 14:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by MsTruthful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok as a mother of a 3 year old son I would have to ask you why you haven't done something about this!!!!!!!! If anyone ever touched my child I would go straight to the doctor and have them checked and then get the info to file a report and have this teenager taken to get some help!! He is 13 years old, he is not a little boy!!!! I know this your brothers child but this little girl should be the world to you!!!
2006-12-27 14:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by jessyt01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...that is hard. Hopefully it was only touching outside the clothes. I think you first need to, I'm sure you already have, ask your daughter more questions. I wouldn't let your daughter out of your sight when around that family. You should tell the parents. But it needs to be approached when you are able to not be emotional about it. If they need to know your not mad at them personally or they will just get defensive. It's hard when it's family. You have your sister on your side as a wittness. Tread lightly and good luck.
2006-12-27 14:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by Kristi B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to confront this with the parents and this boy at the same time and also take your little girl for counseling, there are things that might impact her life in the future that might have to do with these events, I know what I'm saying I wasn't that small but was molested and never got counseling and now I'm 30yrs and it still has some effect on me, and if anything stand up to your daughter and be a true mother for her. good luck, it wont be easy but you have to do it for your daughter and dont worry about what other relatives might say or who might get upset.
2006-12-27 16:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by ednaywilliams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, something needs to be done immediately. Not next week or month, now. There is a very strong likelihood that that 13 yr old was sexually abused by someone in his family or a close friend. You should also consider getting therapy for your daughter. Good luck.
2006-12-27 14:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to your brother immediately and let him know what occured. Your cannot ignore this or just stop taking your child around the 13 year old. This would stop him from fondling your child but he needs to stopped from fondling or inappropriately touching any children. Your brother may not be aware of the situation. Let him know so that he can attempt to address his son's behavior with his son. Or he can get counseling for him if necessary. Your brother may initially be upset, but hopefully he will get over it and help his child.
2006-12-27 16:23:58 · answer #7 · answered by Rosebudd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's probably a state law in your state that obligates you to report suspected child sexual abuse to the authorities. The purpose of reporting the abuse is to protect your daughter and ensure that other chn. do not become victims. Many well known experts are of the opinion that most children that abuse other chn. were victims themselves. So I advise you to report the abuse, prevent further contact between the chn., and seek counseling for your own child. The problem with seeking counseling w/o reporting to the authorities is that the counselor has a legal obligation to make the report. That's a tough situation and it will include many awkward moments. It's impt. that you let your own child know that she can disclose such incidents to you, that it's not her fault, and that she will not be punished if she discloses. Read up on the subject--there's plenty of resources available to you, internet, bookstores, and libraries. Good Luck
2006-12-27 14:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get you and your sister together and go talk to you brother and his wife. I don't think this is anything to sweep under the rug, it needs to be taken care of immediately. The boy has to know this is not only unacceptable, but it is very very wrong. If he does this to someone elses child, he could get in a lot of trouble with the law.
Take care of this ASAP!
2006-12-27 14:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by jpgirl0815 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to confront your brother and wife, tell them their son is acting inappropriately and irresponsibly. Convince them to talk to their kid, who at 13 is definitely knowing what he's doing is wrong and make him apologize to you and your daughter. If they think it's no big deal, be adamant about the way you feel and tell them if they don't you forbid them to bring their son to any family gathering. Make the parents take responsibility for this disgusting behavior and have them deal with the problem,
good luck!
2006-12-27 14:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by romasuave1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋