My big sister is so self centered. She was late to my wedding (she was maid of honor) because she was too busy screwing her BF to help me put on my viel. She lies about stupid stuff for no reason. She cheats on her now husband with his boss and previously with his best friend. She is neglectful and mean to my niece. She is unsupportive when I told her about how I was sexually assaulted, and then changed the story to a something about her. When I come to visit she never has time for me. She "forgets" my parents birthdays, mothersdays, fathersdays.. she puts her friends before her family. She even says that having a baby ruined her life - right in front of her daughter. And now, she didn't even send a gift or card for my daughters first Christmas, after I have spent a fortune on her daughter for every holiday and birthday for 12 years, even when I have no money. I love her but she has ruined my family - my parents feel the same. Talking to her doesn't help - she just denies.
2006-12-27 04:20:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unfortunately, it doesn't sound like telling her off will do much good. I would just stop contacting your sister, but for the sake of your neice, please don't ignore that side of your family completely. It sounds like you have taken a great deal of time to make that young girl's life happy, and from what you said about your sister, your neice probably thinks the world of you for actually caring about her. Best of luck and don't lose hope- your sister may eventually come around at some point.
2006-12-27 04:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is when you stop doing things for her. You tell her how you all feel, all at once, and let her take it from there. You don't stop doing wonderful things for your niece, because you don't want her to feel alienated by the family, if that happens it will be because of her mother. I have a brother that is kind of like her, although thankfully he doesn't have children yet. Make sure your niece knows how much the family loves her, and that whatever happens she can always call to talk. But as for your sister, she needs a reality check. Tell her if her daughter ruined her life, find someone in the family to take her. Tell her husband about her extramarrital affairs, it is only right that he know, but suggest counselling to both of them to try and work things out (if he would even want to). My family is important to me, as I am sure yours is to you, so when it gets to this point, if she is not going to change, then she isn't invited to family things, only invite her daughter and husband, don't call her, call her daughter and husband, and wait for her to make the initial effort, which may take years, but she will get the picture if she wants to be a part of the family.
2006-12-27 12:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by ALFimzadi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are not expecting your sister to do the same for you as you have done for her. That will never happen. Your sister is very selfish and seems to have been all her life. You have admitted that talking to her doesn't help so why not do something that will make her change. She needs someone to intervene for her daughter's sake. There is no way that child should feel like she ruined anyone's life, when she never asked to be here. Make that the first step and then talk to your sister about what she is doing.
2006-12-27 12:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bro is just like her,i think you and your parents whole family need to teach her a lesson ignore her from now on, and if she call tell her your busy and will call her back but don;t call her at all if she call back don;t pick it up, no gifts, for her or her daughter keep doing this to her and she will know it for sure who mean alot family or friends but ignore her
2006-12-27 12:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL YEAH I THINK ITS TIME SOMEBODY PUT HER IN HER PLACE. LET HER KNOW HOW SELFISH SHE IS AND THAT THE WORLD DOES NOT REVOLVE AROUND HER. IF SHE THREATENS U THEN U THREATEN HER BACK BY TELLING HER WELL MAYBE UR HUSBAND WOULD LIKE 2 KNOW WHO U R SLEEPING WITH.
2006-12-27 12:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There seems to be one of those in every family... you can tell her off, but nothing's going to change.
2006-12-27 12:24:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
and you asked her to be your maid of honor why?
just ignore her and cut her out of your life.
2006-12-27 12:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by currious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you let this eat you up?
time to end the relationship.
2006-12-27 12:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋