what should i do or let it be?

Question

Hello
My wife and i have 5 grandkids, 4 boys and one girl shes the youngest (grandpa hearth breaker)
this Christmas one of my grandson gave back her i-pod she forgot at their place.
she thought she lost it and bought a new one 400.00
shes only 11 yrs old and his 17
He replied you should check your stuff when you leave to make sure you have everything.
He keep it for 2 months. She used her saving to buy a new one.
I was boiling but said nothing.
i could have kick is *** so hard that would not be able to sit for weeks for weeks.
Should i mind my own business

My oldest daughter was furious about what happen, but my other daughter ( his mom) said nothing.
it's her baby
like hell baby or not
i will get even when his birthday comes around.
an elephant never forget lol lol

Answer 1

Tell the boy - and his parents - that what he did was wrong. By not returning the girl's ipod, or letting her know he had found it, he was stealing.
He should keep the old one and pay the girl the depreciated cost of the old one. This will help offset the cost of the new one she bought.

Answer 2

At 17, it's a little late for grandpa intervention. Especially if the mother/father doesn’t have any issues with it. Still, you should state your point. While it is important to make it publicly clear that such behavior is reprehensible, beating, as punishment, from either you or his parents won’t help the matter at his age. (Should have done it when he was younger.) Make your speech and hope for the best. Paying for the girl’s new iPod won’t teach her about the value of labor and care. Just speak with her to make her feel better and guide her thinking. If there is anything positive out of all this, perhaps she will be more careful with her belongings in the future, more aware of her surroundings, gain a greater appreciation for money and become a better judge of people’s characters, thereby act and treat each accordingly.

Answer 3

I don't blame you for being angry, I would be too. Did he give her the ipod back? I would talk to his parents about this. I think he should sell the old ipod on ebay and then give her the proceeds (she could do this too) and he could make up the difference.

True, she should check that she has her stuff when she leaves, but she is only 11. He is 17! Basically, one's a child and the other is nearly an adult. Then he kept it for 2 months! That's the real issue here. Of course she thought it was lost if he had it for 2 months...why didn't he let her know? He is in the wrong!

Answer 4

I think you're being a little too hard on the 17 year old. After all, the 11 year old (the heart breaker?) was irresponsible in leaving it behind. Plus, did she properly investigate where she may have left it prior to the purchase of the new one? It sounds to me like she is being set up for a lifestyle as a Princess that no one will want to be attached to for long term relationship. And Mr. 17 year old is probably trying to teach her a little lesson.
Work on not being so obvious in your favoritism of this sweet young girl. It will not be a blessing to her in the long run.

Answer 5

I would have approached the 17 year old and told him that he should help her regain her savings. I would especially let the parents in on this despite their feelings. If he refused, I would help her sell the new one and slip her a few dollars for her own peace of mind. I know it isn't the best solution for a grandfather but it's a lot better that beating some sense into the knucklehead.

Answer 6

Hopefully his maturity will kick in soon. I agree with him to a point. She should learn to keep up with her things at her age, especially something so expensive but that doesn't excuse his behavior. He should not have kept it for so long! I think someone needs to have a talk with him. If he expects her to be "adult" enough to keep track of her things, he should be adult enough to keep his hands off things that don't belong to him. It sounds like he just wanted to use her ipod.

If his parents won't talk with him and let him know how wrong this was, then I think grandpa should get some steel toed boots and have at it. ;)

Good luck!

Answer 7

You need to find a way to punish that young man. It was diabolical for him to do that to a child. He should have to pay her back for the unnecessary money she spent!! and she still get to keep both ipod- her hard work saving pays off.

To teach her a lesson he could have passed the ipod on to an adult and let them have her look for it, save for it etc, but give her it back in a reasonable time.

By doing what he did he has given her an early lesson in dishonesty, unfairness, and possibly hatred (if i was her, i would have been pssed).

Answer 8

You need to say something and to protect your granddaughter. If you do nothing you send her a message saying that it's acceptable for her to be treated like that when it is absolutely not! And it will also teach your grandson a lesson. It sounds like he knew it was hers but decided to keep it for himself anyway. If you really want to teach him a lesson, make him pay for the new one that your granddaughter bought and make him keep the old one! Most importantly, you must do something to let your granddaughter know that she can't be treated like that.....it will give her validation as a young woman that someone is looking out for her...and you will be her hero...nothing can be better!

Answer 9

you need to stay out of it! Maybe she has a habit of not remembering where or what she does with things and this is his way of getting her to be responsible for hre things. SHE is 11 not 2 or 3.

Answer 10

You should quietly explain to him exactly what happened and that he was irresponsible for doing what he did and it cost her $400. Ask him how he'd have felt had it been him that paid out all that money for a new one when the old one wasn't lost.

Also it's not all his fault. She should check to see if she has everything. Even after she got home she could've called him to see if he found it.