Family - November 2006

ive been with my bf 2 years,we have 3 kids (only one he has fathered)we have our own house with and a couple of dog..perfect family mould.but he is a complete ***. he can be nice and when we get along its great and i really thik we have something good,but he has these moods that when he is in there is no etting away from it. he swears shouts and moans about everything and you try and walk away and he follows you getting worse and worse and when you dont argue back he gets meen calling me names ect all for no reason.he does it for about an hour but can linger on for a whole days ..happend about 5 ties a week,mainly when he cant get his own way or things like when his son needs feeding he storms around saying HIS food is more important than his sons.i always tell him its over then he tries for days but it necer lasts...fists have also been thrown by both of us.it gets really bad.i dont want to ed it but im at a loss...how can i stop this and how can i walk away if he just follows me .

2006-11-27 20:29:37 · 8 answers · asked by sammydeea 3

So cruel that even my relatives fearing staying with me. I get annoyed so fast that even my little daughter suffer thorough beatings and to may relatives I'll quarrel them seriousely when they spoil as I wish it happens.

I long to stay with them but they go due to my cruel nature. Surely should I just leave everything in amess and so I stay with them or what can I do?

2006-11-27 19:37:57 · 3 answers · asked by jeyomosh 1

my father is dying he has been more than just a father to me where do i find the strenght to let go of the one man i know without a doubt really love me iam so scared i cant see straight please help

2006-11-27 19:32:48 · 3 answers · asked by jessie l 1

just had a new baby. they asked me to come there to help out with the two yr. old. the new baby is a month early, so is having a lot of health issues and may not even survive. I don't generally work outside of the home, but I have been able to work around the park for the cost of our rent and make a few extra dollars to help with the other bills or what ever. Now here is my problem. We have been planning on me going to help my sons family for the last 8 months, so i have been working my butt off and i have managed to make enough money to take care of decembers rent and pay for my trip both ways on a bus plus have a couple of hundrend to take with me. I am supposed to go this thursday. Now my husband has learned how much i made and tells me that my son should have to pay for the some of the bus fare, which we know that he can't really afford right now. My husband says that it isn't fair that i should be able to take my earnings and spend them on what ever i want because he can't spend

2006-11-27 19:20:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My brother and i compete in kickboxing and most of the time i used to win the games but he is insecure about it....
Recently my girl cousin who is very cute started taking interest in supporting me as she and i have a close relationship which my brother does not like. He had tried to tell her that he loved her but she has rejected his advances. She is interested in me and I too am deeply in love with her. I don't know how to stop my villain brother from approaching her. He hates it when she cheers me up while fighiting with him in a game. please tell me what i shud do to get rid of his advances on her. Even my sisters don't like his attitude. He is younger to me and my cousin is younger to both of us.

2006-11-27 19:15:37 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a brother who can't mind his own business for the life of him, and the only time he comes to me is to get the attention off himself! He is older than me, but certainly doesn't act it!
What is there aside from completely ignoring him that I can do? I have spoken with him, but anyone know of actions that will get the point across better?!

2006-11-27 18:16:33 · 5 answers · asked by charis 1

what would be a good gift for 16 and 13 year old girls? they are so hard to buy for.

2006-11-27 18:02:02 · 4 answers · asked by virginia l 2

My grandpa turns 80 Dec12th 06 I need a gift Idea for christmas

2006-11-27 17:30:25 · 11 answers · asked by pobox01 2

Hi I'm a single woman that loves my neice so much. Sometimes I would call her my love like "come here my love" when I get her out of the car seat or something.

My mom thinks that's weird or something but I just love her that's all and very attached to her.

What u think?

My neice is around 21 months old

It doesn't bother her dad(my brother).

2006-11-27 17:28:59 · 9 answers · asked by Snorty 1

He's always doing drugs - that I can live with, but last night he broke into my house and threatened me and my wife with a knife. I know he was high and desperate so I gave him some money. Eventually he calmed down and ended up sleeping on the sofa, but I worry about him, he's my brother afterall.
The wife wants me to report him to the police. I don't know what to do, I am loyal to her and my brother. Any advice would be a great help.

2006-11-27 17:26:51 · 45 answers · asked by R G 3

When your own mother is mad you and when you called her she would'nt even talked to you on the phone, And she still contiues not to talk to you. What do I do

2006-11-27 17:13:45 · 14 answers · asked by Baby Girl 1

My father was an alcoholic, and my oldest sister (in her 50s) is following in his footsteps. My father never tried to justify his addiction, but my sister does. First she said she had to give it over to God. Then if she took one sip of a drink, she could not control anything after that. When she was pressured to stop, she began to take drugs. She blamed everyone who tried to make her sober for her drug addiction. Then she literally blamed anything for her to get drunk.
Now she claims there is a special gene, and she is destined to always have her addictions. I do not understand it at all, being her sibling. Yes, I could move back in with mom and dad too, and say such things like she does. I do not want to do it. I cannot imagine sponging off my parents while going through menopause.

2006-11-27 17:13:22 · 13 answers · asked by Too Curious 3

My mother asked me if I wanted children and I replied, "Maybe." My partner and I don't want children, but I wanted to see what her reaction was without upsetting her.

She started talking about different ways to have children (adoption, sperm bank, etc etc) and mentioned how no one's life is complete without having a child. She also said that she really wants to be a grandmother. I'm her only child, so therefore the 'grandkids' burden is placed on me.

I know I shouldn't, but I feel terribly guilty, like I'm making her miss out on an important stage in life. How should I deal with this? It's bothering me so much that I'm considering toughing it up and having a kid, despite knowing that I didn't want to raise a family since I was a teenager. Please give any advice that may help...

2006-11-27 17:06:35 · 17 answers · asked by Clare 1

I don't know why, but I really want to "fix" him. He seems so broken. His heart was destroyed years ago by the only woman he ever loved. He refused to get into any new relationships. But he seems like a nice guy, and he needs to get some. I wish I could act as his counselor, but he barely gives me the time of day.

He's uptight, and he treats his brother (my boyfriend) like crap. Even after we bought him a $65 shirt for Christmas last year because we knew he'd love it, he still acts this way.

Why is he like that?!

(I know you can't necessarily answer this question without all of the background. I'm more just venting!)

2006-11-27 17:03:26 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

She doesn't really need clothes, jewelry or handbags. Not much room in very small apartment. She's not able to get out much and can't drive. Also, I need to spend as little as possible as my financial situation not that great. Please help with any ideas.

2006-11-27 16:58:39 · 9 answers · asked by tagsfan 2

up every couple of years to "keep in contact"? how do you think this girl would feel if she wanted a mother, but her mother didn't really want her? how would she show it when her mother came arround?

*note, this isn't my life, i'm writing a novella and i'm not sure how to show the main characters feeling and issues with abandoment because i really wouldn't know...... thanks for any insight :)

2006-11-27 16:50:17 · 4 answers · asked by kiss the cook 4

i have recently taken on my two nephews whom have been in such a bad situation for so many years and now i really have nothing for them...i have a child of my own but she is 9 and most likely nothing of hers will be suitable for them...i don't recieve any kind of assistance for these two boys and they don't ask for much but i am having a hard time getting some things together for them with the holidays arriving soon.....if youi can help i know these boys would be most gracious...thank you for your time

2006-11-27 16:25:27 · 4 answers · asked by mslady28123 1

Me and my sister do get along. I am the most honest sbiling to her, and I have her back but if she is wrong I will tell hershe is. She is always there when I need help, but she always want to make me look bad toward my parents and siblings. I will be the first person she disregard in the family, but I will never do that to her. She claims I do not give her respect, but I think maybe my honesty is misunderstood by her. I sick of tired of being treated this way. What should I do? Should I stop being honest to her? I confronted her about this issue and she will not change. Maybe my honesty is looked as being rude. How can I avoid this conflict?

2006-11-27 16:24:48 · 9 answers · asked by Lisa 1

Well i'm 10. when i get ready in the morning i always wash my face, brush my hair and teeth and get dressed all cute and properly 4 the weather. she has noone 2 take care of her 2 much. i try but she doesn't listen 2 me. she is 4. my parents sent her 2 school 2day and it was freezing. we live in la. it was 55 degrees or something. i don't know. and then she was wearing a longsleeved shirt and sweats. no sweater! and her hair looked like a tornado had hit it. i try to help but i don't know how. wen i do my mom tells me i don't have 2 worry about it cuz i am not her mom. she insists that i stop. what should i do????!?!?!?!? plz help! i feel horible 4 her. she was so cold 2day. wen i picked her up with my nanny her lips were almost completely blue! she feels neglected!

2006-11-27 16:01:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

if so please watch this video and think of going to your local animal shelter 1st these babies need a home filled with Love

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nb4Jcws6VdI#N6rFHhdXkwk

2006-11-27 16:01:19 · 1 answers · asked by katlady927 6

My husband's first wife died 14 years ago and we spend holidays with her family for the sake of their two children. Her mother turns every Thanksgiving into a memorial service for her daughter. I feel obligated to let the children be there for the holidays and if my husband and I choose not to attend, our family will have to spend every holiday apart. She is 75 years old and has many wonderful qualities. I would just like her to stop opening old wounds and live in the present instead of always rehashing the past. I am afraid of upsetting her and the entire family if I confront her about it. After all, I'm not even a family member. I have however raised her two grandchildren for the past dozen years. Her other children don't seem to mind but it is mildly uncomfortable to my husband and extremely uncomfortable for me. I feel like I am a cardboard stand in for her daughter. I feel like I don't even exist. The thought of 20 more years of this makes me insane. HELP!!!

2006-11-27 15:52:02 · 8 answers · asked by Miss Downriver 1

Okay I have tons of problems at home. We're always yelling at each other and nobody knows how to solve their problems in a decent way, including me.
I'm scared that when I get married and have kids, it will be my story repeated all over again- a nutjob house. I don't want that to happen but my mother is always telling me that the way you were raised is the way you were going to treat your kids.
I don't want this to happen! I don't want to fight with my future husband and children, but I also don't want to be stepped on! What should I do?

2006-11-27 15:34:26 · 12 answers · asked by Jellystar 2

I am away studing abroad for college till around Christmas. When I went home for thanksgiving my entire familys dynamics have changed. One reason for this is that my brother and I both live hours away from my parents, while my sister is still local. She just broke up with her boyfriend so everyone is very accomodating.
However, she has gotten out of control.

On the ride home from the airport, my sister was yelling and scolding my our mother because of how she drives. My sister yells at my dad because of he doesnt want to give her money. She yells at me and my brother because we are loud during her television show.

I feel that she has taken this too far. She has become a tyrant in my parents house. I feel less respect towards my parents because they let her act this way. I have lost respect for my sister because she is rude, snobby and selfish. Is there anyway to save Christmas?

2006-11-27 15:33:33 · 10 answers · asked by Charles T 2

This is because they do not want any in return (they "don't need anything"). They are going to get our children gifts, however. I am a little upset about this. I was never consulted about this. It was just "decided". My kids will, of course, be expected to give their grandparents gifts.
I must admit I am a little mifted. I like giving presents and I like getting presents. Am I wrong to feel this way?

2006-11-27 15:23:30 · 20 answers · asked by MizElizabeth 3

I think anything after about 6 or 7 is too old, Santa is for little kids not 11 year olds like my cousin. I told him that Santa wasnt real last week and for some reason people got upset at me. What a crock, I am being honest here unlike people who lie and say it is real

2006-11-27 15:10:27 · 12 answers · asked by sid_swank 1

2006-11-27 15:06:53 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

What would you do if half your family lived in California and the other lived in Oklahoma. I do have a lot going for me right now but I love Oklahoma and the people there want me back.

2006-11-27 15:04:21 · 4 answers · asked by Oky 1

My fiance and I are getting married in the spring. Her oldest daughter is 13. She has been spoiled her whole life by her mother. She lives with her dad ever other week, and is respectful to him. When she is with us, she insults everybody, including her mother, 9 year old sister, myself and my friends and family. I finally got sick of the disrespect and laid down new rules: no TV, computer, phonecalls, friends outside of school, music, nothing unless we say they can. They can earn these luxuries back, but I won't be easy to please. Their mother was all for it the moment it happened, but after a sob session with the oldest, she thinks I'm being too harsh and wants to consult with the oldest's dad. It is our house. I live here too. I think it is fair to remove access to the things that I also pay for. I don't care what she wants to do to other people, but I will not let someone half my age bully me, and her mother should never have let this happen. Am I being unfair?

2006-11-27 14:56:30 · 18 answers · asked by Darkwraith83 2

Example, we were at a family dinner with our infant twins. His sister brought along her dog. Well, the dog does not follow commands, other words, not trained. The dog repeatedly jumped on the chair I was sitting on, holding my daughter. I asked her several times to get her dog because I didn't want the dog to spread germs to my daughter, or even worse, bite her. My sister-in-law became very defensive and annoyed with me for asking her to get her dog. So, I told her that I would punch her dog if he kept on charging at my daughter. She then began to yell and scream at me and told me to get out of her other brother's house. I felt so disrespected and I also felt that she did not care enough for her niece and nephew (my twins). This happened this past summer. I have not brought my babies around my in-laws since. The twins' first birthday is next month and my sister-in-law will be there. I don't have anything to say to her and I don't want her to touch my kids. Please help me!!

2006-11-27 14:52:44 · 10 answers · asked by Sunshine 2

im 17
& im sick of not knowing him
please give me tips

he lied alot about everything
his name might not even be real?

i do know his ssn
but i dont have any money to put out for scam stuff

ijust want to find his number or something?

2006-11-27 14:35:05 · 2 answers · asked by surfwavesx3 1