Me and my sister do get along. I am the most honest sbiling to her, and I have her back but if she is wrong I will tell hershe is. She is always there when I need help, but she always want to make me look bad toward my parents and siblings. I will be the first person she disregard in the family, but I will never do that to her. She claims I do not give her respect, but I think maybe my honesty is misunderstood by her. I sick of tired of being treated this way. What should I do? Should I stop being honest to her? I confronted her about this issue and she will not change. Maybe my honesty is looked as being rude. How can I avoid this conflict?
2006-11-27 16:24:48 · 9 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe you are too honest and open, and it's her way of being manipulative . Don't get a headache about it....
2006-11-27 17:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lisa, you forgot to say whether she is younger to you or elder and your age too matters a lot.
Honestly speaking, the relationship between you and your sister is just more than normal. You don't have to doubt whether or not she has any regard for you. Leave alone the age factor and the hierarchy, she will be your most beloved sibling in future and you too will be her most beloved sibling in future. If you are an Indian, I am sure that she would realise that her behaviours are totally un acceptable and will change to your surprise. There is another way of being honest than telling on her face that she is wrong. You only have to change the negative sentence you use, to a positive sentence of only making her understand the bad consequences of her wrong actions. Just don't mind the way you are being treated by her. She would defenitely change and behave in a most matured way as the time passes. After all she is your sister and you don't have to mind the exterior behaviours of her. If she is able to make you feel that she will always be there in need, its more than a proof that she loves you.
2006-11-28 00:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by sona_d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should quit trying to change her and try changing yourself. Change your attitude. Ask yourself if you are treating
her with love and respect? It is good being honest, but is it perhaps done in a harsh manner? Do you show mercy towards her, fully aware of the fact that she is a fallible human being? Do you not only critize and reprimand but also embrace and comfort? Does she feel free when she is with you -free to be herself and to even err at times?
Perhaps she feels that you are expecting to much from her and it only causes her to rebel against you.
My advice would be that you take a hard and in-depth look at yourself [and I am not blaming you here for I do not know you] and perhaps you will be suprised that the change that needs to take place, needs to take place within YOU!
Perhaps then, and only then, will your relationship with your sister improve.
I pray that the love you have for each other will overcome the differences between you. God be with you as you seek and find the solution to this!
2006-11-28 00:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by godshandmaiden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is good... maybe the timing or delivery needs improvement.
Hold off with saying stuff right away...maybe wait to be asked.
Be more tactful in your approach or wording...maybe you are too blunt and it "hits her on the nose"... sugar coat your honesty a bit to soften the intake of your words.
Use your honesty gently and wisely to be helpful, sounds like it's harmful almost.
Think how you sound to someone else before you speak.
Good luck with your sister.
2006-11-28 00:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by Gigi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your sis. You may not get along now but let her know you will always be there for her. i didn't always get alongwith my sis (for about 2 years the only time we talked was on my bday & xmas) but now I'm 30 & she's 40 and we are best friends. Just don't give up, when she comes to she will see how much you love her.
2006-11-28 00:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by blondie22334455 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know my lil sis and I are the same way she hate when I tell her the truth but I just take as she's a teen and when your a teen you think you know everything at least I did
2006-11-28 00:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by Young and Wise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may be the village fool, but I am very honest, I think you should seek professional help.
2006-11-28 01:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn the art of semantics.
2006-11-28 00:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you post this question yesterday?
2006-11-28 00:27:15 · answer #9 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋