My husband and I are in turmoil because his family disrespects me and he defends them and not me.?

Question

Example, we were at a family dinner with our infant twins. His sister brought along her dog. Well, the dog does not follow commands, other words, not trained. The dog repeatedly jumped on the chair I was sitting on, holding my daughter. I asked her several times to get her dog because I didn't want the dog to spread germs to my daughter, or even worse, bite her. My sister-in-law became very defensive and annoyed with me for asking her to get her dog. So, I told her that I would punch her dog if he kept on charging at my daughter. She then began to yell and scream at me and told me to get out of her other brother's house. I felt so disrespected and I also felt that she did not care enough for her niece and nephew (my twins). This happened this past summer. I have not brought my babies around my in-laws since. The twins' first birthday is next month and my sister-in-law will be there. I don't have anything to say to her and I don't want her to touch my kids. Please help me!!

Answer 1

THIS IS SOMETHING THAT YOU HAVE TO TALK TO WITH YOUR HUSBAND..HE SHOULD UNDERSTAND YOU ARE A MOTHER AND IF YOU FEEL THAT YOUR BABIES ARE PUT IN SOME DANGER THIS IS YOUR JOB TO DEFEND YOUR BABIES... NOW IF I WERE YOU I WOULD OF KICK THAT DOG ALL ACROSS THAT ROOM..IM TALKING ABOUT KICKING THAT DOG RIGHT IN THE FACE CHARGING AT MY BABY.. YOU DID THE RIGTH THING AND YOUR HUSBAND SHOULD BE PROUD AND FEEL VERY SECURE THAT YOU ARE A GOOD MOTHER AND YOU DONT CARE ABOUT KISSING FAMILY MEMBERS ASSES YOUR BABIES ARE FIRST.. YOU NEED TO FIND PAPER CLIPS OR WEBSITE SO HE COULD SEE ABOUT MOTHERS THAT DO NOT PROTECT THEIR KIDS AND THE TERRIBLE THINGS THAT HAPPEND TO THIS KIDS.. AND MAYBE HE WILL APPRECIATE THAT HE CAN REST ASSURE THAT NOTHING IS GOING TO HAPPEND TO HIS KIDS WHILE YOUR THERE WITH THEM... NOW HIS SISTER IN THIS GATHERING IF I WERE YOU I WOULD NOT SIT NEAR HER OR LET MY BABIES AROUND HER SPECIALLY IF SHE HAS HER RETARDED DOG WITH HER... AND IF SHE DO AND THE FREEKING DOG GET STUPED DO YOUR THING AND KICK THAT FUCKEERR IN THE *** SO YOU SEE SHE WILL GET THE POINT YOU DO NOT WANT THE STUPED DOG AROUND YOUR BABIES.. TRY TO AVOID HER.BY STAYING AWAY FROM HER. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 2

Sounds tough. Simple. Stay away from them. When they ask, politely mention the dog incident as the reason. Add nothing more. Your problem is you engaged these people to begin with, and offended them by threatening to punch the dog. A mature adult would get up and remove themselves from the situation. Not get in a shouting match. You are doing a LOUSY job teaching the children how to handle confrontation. Probably not what you wanted to hear, but very much the truth. And as far as you husband goes, tell him you will no longer visit those people until he proves he can be your PARTNER.

Answer 3

What did your husband say to her??? I will be on your side about this! For one your husband should always defend you, and if you were in the wrong talk about it in your house on your 2's time! Second off....I treat my animals the same as humans....but for god sakes here.....Them babies should have came first (like maybe she felt her dog was her child too)....Animals can reawlly hurt children (and adults)....I don't blame you for acting the way you did. You were protecting the life you gave, you heart and soul, the reason for living everyday!!!!!!!!! You go girl....you're a great mother for that! She needs to grow up and ur husband needs to take charge, he needs to grow some balls (sorry) but he does! I would NOT let her around your twin till she apology's to you and take responsiblilities for her dog! Good luck....in-laws are hard to deal with!!!!!!!!!!!!!



Hope this has helped you in some way....

Answer 4

Hmm how should I start this. I would be on your side that is for sure. You had every rite to be mad about the dog, come on dogs lick their own butts. Ewwww, I wouldn't want it to lick my childs face. So if I was you, I would make that point. Not just leave it at, hey it has germs. I would say " that thing cleans it's *** with his own tongue, and it is about to be placed on my child." And if this party for your children it at your home, she should respect you. If she doesn't I would state that she really doesn't have to be there, the kids won't remember anyways. But I am ***** and would state my mind like this so do what you want.

Answer 5

The offense in this case runs both ways. While you probably were within your rights to alert the dog owner to the danger it was posing to your daughter, threatening it with harm was not a good idea. Take some time to cool off.

Answer 6

You need to trust that when a situation arises, your husband will step in to defend you. When you married and had children the 2 of you formed a new family and that family has to come first. I think the example you gave is irrelevant. It should not matter what the specifics of the situation are. If he didn't agree with you, the 2 of you could discuss that later. You should not be forced into a position where you are in combat with his family. It is his job to handle disagreements with his family and your job to handle them with your family.

Answer 7

you have children, she has a dog, to some pet owners they are like children, if you are lucky maybe she won;t come to the birthday party, as I am sure she does not care for you or you behaviour either. Mutual apologies are required here

Answer 8

your duty is to protect your kids and if she can't understand that than do'nt let her be around your kids cuz it sounds like she don't care about them and would let anything happen to them it wasn't like you were asking her to save them from a drive by shooting you just asked her to get her dam dogs she is stupid and needs to grow upi would have punched her not the dog

Answer 9

Don't let your in-laws miss out on your twins birthday,just because of your sis-in-law.take them and let them have fun with their grandparents.and ignore you sis-in-law.when someone knows the right buttons to push to get you upset they will keep pushing them, don't show your week points and don't expect your husband to defend you,there are some guys who just don't have the balls to protect their spouse.It is up to us to protect ourselves and be happy.

Answer 10

hello its so amazing to find things when you pray to god no its gods will see im in the same situation my in-laws would rather spit on my grave than to put a flower which is more tradional but that calls for spendin money and honey they dare not but anyway prayer do work i say that to say honey pray on that day dont haVE NO ONE ELSE DO IT YOU PRAY I CANT TELL YOU HOW TO SPEAK TO YOU G0D but i would ask mine to just handle that day and hold all things in his hand for thats not your day sweetie its hers .and you seem to LOVE you children like i mines . you just give GOD that day because honey with him for you who could stand against you .. her hands are definitely too short to box with GOD........through him all things stand true and guess what im not all that religious i may go to church twice a year but i have church in my heart everyday ...i do know when i leave home to visit them people and honey as strange as it seem they are people too i pray to my god and here i stand with him no weapon can ever touch you smile anyway and watch you see satin himself and i say again everybody have **** wih them let me know the outcome [e-mail] if ever you need to talk type it sweetie i got your back cause my man holds everything else feel me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!