just had a new baby. they asked me to come there to help out with the two yr. old. the new baby is a month early, so is having a lot of health issues and may not even survive. I don't generally work outside of the home, but I have been able to work around the park for the cost of our rent and make a few extra dollars to help with the other bills or what ever. Now here is my problem. We have been planning on me going to help my sons family for the last 8 months, so i have been working my butt off and i have managed to make enough money to take care of decembers rent and pay for my trip both ways on a bus plus have a couple of hundrend to take with me. I am supposed to go this thursday. Now my husband has learned how much i made and tells me that my son should have to pay for the some of the bus fare, which we know that he can't really afford right now. My husband says that it isn't fair that i should be able to take my earnings and spend them on what ever i want because he can't spend
2006-11-27 19:20:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
his earnings the way that he wants to. He wants to get me a ticket one way and only give me one hundred dollars for spending. I feel like I should be able to do it the way that i have planned. what do you think.
2006-11-27 19:22:31 · update #1
Considering this baby might die I think your husband should have more concern and be glad your going to help. To me this isnt about spending money to have fun, its about helping family through a very rough time. Your husband is selfish and needs to grow up.
I hope the little one will be ok.
2006-11-27 19:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is acting like a selfish "A." Tell him if he wants extra money to spend then he needs to get a better paying job and work his butt off too. Plus why would he need to spend money while he gets to stay home. He should have everything he needs right there. Now in your case you do need money to spend because you are not in your own home where you normally would have everything you might need. Whether you are staying with family or friends or even strangers if you are anything like me then you rather not have to depend on any one for anything. If you want some thing or need something it's best that you are able to get it for yourself instead of having to ask especially knowing the difficult time that they are having. By the way my prayers are with you, baby and the family. Don't let him change your plans. You do what you think is right. Your heart is in the right place. God bless you and your loved ones!
2006-11-28 03:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is once a mother always a mother, it sounds like your son is in need of you for awhile. To me it sounds like "HUBBY" is jealous of you earning money. I'm sure he doesn't relent every penny he earns. Also he would not be able to afford a full time wife and Mother at today's wages. Take your hard earned money and go help your son. The OLD man will get over it, I'm sure.
2006-11-28 03:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by snowmom 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to help your son? Than help. If your husband has a problem with that he is just going to have to get over it. Don't tell me your seriously going to back out now when you have done 8 months of proportion to go and help your son raise your grand children. DO WHAT YOU FEEL IS RIGHT
2006-11-28 03:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by tesfa_maryam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go see your grandchild. Just pay the bus fare yourself. Remmber the child should come first. Being a grandmother is a great thing you will forget about the money as soon as you see the baby.
2006-11-28 03:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by jm 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you're doing something wonderful and I'm sure that you're son and daughter-in-law would be willing to help you out in the future. right now they need your help. you're husband should get a job if he wants to spend some money.
2006-11-28 03:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by uknowme 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, you earned the money, you make the decision. As long as your family will be taken care of, I say go enjoy your new grand baby.
2006-11-28 03:22:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you need to make him understand that it is something that you want. if you made the money for a purpose and that is what makes you feel good then allow him to know that you are spending the money you made on what you want.
2006-11-28 03:23:08 · answer #8 · answered by DR.PHIL-A-LIKE 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well not bring the two yr old home with you than that way you and your hub and could spaced time with him
2006-11-28 03:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by EVA J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
problem is your husband and you are both right Try and work out some kind of compremise
2006-11-28 03:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by devora k 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋