Family - November 2006

My fiancee and i been together just over a year nowa and we have a 7mth old daughter. We live in his parents house to save money for a house however I find it hard living herea as they have two bull terrier dogs who have run of the house except downstairs where we are, his whole family smokes upstairs and the house is filthy no matter how much i try clean it. He is now 25 and been living with his family all his life and is very lazy due to the fact his mother does everything for him. I pay for all our daughters needs so as he can put money away for the house deposit and have regularly had to remind him to play with her etc as he is so wrapped up in his xbox. recently i just found that we have no savings only $500 and he just bought a $170 lego for himsellf. then in the last 3 wks i met a guy who is very stable financially secure etc and wants to have my daughter and i with him, we did sleep together but it was something we both wanted so badly.SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY PLEASE

2006-11-08 10:15:23 · 6 answers · asked by Spastikus 4

I loved him dearly but I disliked his drunken company and antics but I can't get over the fact that I never said goodbye or maybe didn't look after him properly but I really found it hard to see him. Most of all I constantly torture myself over what he went through on his own the night he died. I am now unhealthily obsessed with the death of my remaining nearest and dearest and don't know what to do. I am 39, my sister(who has the same probs) is 31.

2006-11-08 10:15:09 · 22 answers · asked by mojo 2

When he is good, he is very good, sweet, romantic, helpful.

But more times than not, he is lazy, doesn't communicate, unmotivated, self centered, and moody. I am having a hard time differentiating the swings from sheer laziness. I am responsible for everything solely on my own, I work, cook for the family, take care of the baby, grocery shop, laundry, clean house, etc. He does nothing. Some nights he will warm the baby's bottle between watching football games. I feel like leaving. I want to get a boyfriend who can care and unserstand and listen to me. I feel like hurting myself. I feel all of those things yet I would do none of them. I feel like a jack in the box waiting to explode from the box. We have a son. I feel sorry for him and do my best to spend time with him and make him think everything is ok. But it's not. I have never felt so alone in my life. I almost think being abuised would be better than his silence. I feel, as if I am literally, losing it. He maxed all our ccards.

2006-11-08 10:09:43 · 12 answers · asked by bjsmama 4

my brothers only seen my 5month old son 3 times since he was born, he didnt come to visit me in the hopital (i had a caesarean so i was very sore), he didnt even ring me, its always me ringing him up or visiting him, ive lived in my current house since january and he hasnt even been here.
The last time i saw my brother was last week for his birthday and he kept wondering why my son kept crying and hes a happy baby always smiling. it breaks my heart because ive always done alot for my brother, but he really doesnt care about anyone rather tahn himself. my sister is great with my son I cant stop her from coming round, and I dont want to. Its not that my sisters broody and my brothers not, neither of them want kids for a good 5 years.
my brother just wants to spend time with his girlfriend, and go out.
hes the oldest 25 youd think hed be more responsible. im only 21 and my sister 20, but youd think were older.

Why wont he see his nephew more?!

2006-11-08 09:59:01 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 15, 2 years ago my relationship with my parents was destroyed. I did some bad stuff, was a bit lost. I agree I was wrong, fought a lot w/ them and my younger sister. I ended up getting a kinda harsh punishment, was grounded from everything for 4 months, only school and house work. My dad even spanked me. I changed but got extremely humiliated and in a deep depression. Today I'm an excellçente students, deal with chidren in need, my parents say they are proud of me. But I stopped loving them, so intense my resentment was. I became a stranger, respectful but no love, like I didn't belong to the family. I could never get over hat happened, though they tried to get me back. They decided we should go to counselling. I opened my heart and told my parents and the counsellor, very calmly, and without anger that I don't really like them and intend to leave them forever when I'm 18. That's how I feel, this isn't a teen reaction. They didn't expect that, but I had to be honest.

2006-11-08 09:51:49 · 5 answers · asked by Ana M 1

2006-11-08 09:49:22 · 3 answers · asked by Birgit H 1

She's white, I'm black. We've been dating for a year. We have a close relationship and spend time with each other's children. When I asked her if her parents knew about me (they stay more than an hour away), she became evasive and said, "They know that I am dating." I confronted her again about it and she told me that her Mom knows that she is dating but her Dad doesn't know she's dating and niether of them know I'm black. She then gave me this story of a business deal gone bad which is why her dad has a "thing" against Afro-Americans. I don't like the fact that we share every other aspect of our lives together, but she will not tell her parents about me. Why is she keeping me a "little black secret"?

2006-11-08 09:37:22 · 14 answers · asked by Lou 2

How does he become responsible for what he does? He moved in to my mom's house. He never talks back to me at all. He is not a fighter. He has never been very open. We have tried therapy. Prior to that I did practice spanking , time out, talking in different order depending on action required. As a single parent I have worked and took any schedule for a dollar more. Nothing to show for now as 16 years have gone by and my son' behaviour is still the same. I regret not putting my foot down to employers over the years,,time with my son should have been the number one priority. I am at fault for his flawd character; however still feel he knkows right from wrong. I love him dearly. He is sneaky and a liar. Things always pop up. He found it, or it was given to him. Excuses gallore. He has gotten in trouble in the past for this behaviour. Exiting elementary was a turning point for both of us. Just a struggle, he just listens and cries at my preaches over the year. Now he just tunes you out

2006-11-08 09:32:10 · 5 answers · asked by MIREYA J 1

my bf dumped me on ma bday, becos he sed of age, but i l8r found out it wos because he had feelings for ma big sis, fine fair do's, but i lately found out they may b seeing each ova, i am not sure, ye me n him didnt do much, but what was he expecting? for me to jump in2 bed wit him afta 2mnths?? but still, he is still ma ex? i dunt want them to, cos i av helped ma sista loads over the past few yrs n i cudnt put into wrds, but if i cud tell ya, ud kno it were alot! n i wud feel like she were bein disloyal n she didnt luv me, i sed if she did i wud neva tlk to her agen, what shud i do? i am vry confused, plz help me!!!! n plus i feel like if hes done it to me, will he do it to her? plzz help!!!

2006-11-08 09:20:42 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

As i'm on 1st thing in the morning.

2006-11-08 09:18:35 · 17 answers · asked by Richard C 1

I want to do something for my older brother who has had to make the decision to take our other brother off of life support. He is taking care of all of the funeral arrangements and I want him to know how much I love and appreciate him for all that he is doing.
Any idea's?..... (and not flowers, I'm sure we will all get plenty of those)

2006-11-08 09:07:13 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have already looked on yahoo people search. Are there any other ways that I can search on my own.

2006-11-08 08:59:57 · 2 answers · asked by Chrisy 2

2006-11-08 08:59:21 · 15 answers · asked by bonehead_bobby 1

2006-11-08 08:58:54 · 1 answers · asked by chickadee2624 1

I don't know what to do anymore. I have a sister in law who is such a "hater". Every time somthing good happens for me and I want to share it with her, she completely changes the subject, and does not acknowledge it. I don't know why it bothers me, and I don't know why I let her get to me. I think that deep down she wishes that I would never accomplish any onf my goals. I try to have a good relationship for our kids sake, but it's driving me nuts. I know I can't force her to be happy for me, but with the holidays coming up I know I will have to be around her. Why can't she just be happy for me?

2006-11-08 08:58:04 · 6 answers · asked by CoutureCutie 3

Today is my 26th birthday. Should I be offended that my own mother didn't call and say happy birthday? I called her and she told me that she couldn't talk because she was keeping the phone line open even though she has call waiting. I have great friends that kidnapped me at 2 am this morning to throw me a surprise bday party so its not like I didn't do anything but this is my mother and I would at least expect her to say happy birthday. Should I say something to her?

2006-11-08 08:56:30 · 10 answers · asked by SAChic26 2

, am starting to feel i shold move on now anyone have comments if this is too soon?

2006-11-08 08:53:08 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-08 08:42:56 · 8 answers · asked by space chick 1

2006-11-08 08:32:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-08 08:31:16 · 8 answers · asked by bimbo 1

As I Said In My Question. Her Parents Dont Like Me Because Of Many Reasons. Im Not "Good On Paper" Im 26 And I'm Not A Millionaire. Her Mom Plays A Big Role In Her Life And She Calls Her Crying Becase She Does't Want Her To Be With Me. They Have Never Given Me A Chance. All They Did Was Judge Me. Seeing My Arm Of Tattoos, Singer Of A Rock Band And Driving A Car That Was Made In 1994 Thats Not A BMW. She Loves Me Dearly And This Whole Ordeal Is Stressing Her Out And I'm Afraid That Due To All The Stress She's Gonna End Of Leaving I Don't Know What To Do. Any Advise Please Share Cause I Feel Like Im Losing My Head And If I Lost Her I'd Be So Lost. Im Sad :(

2006-11-08 08:26:17 · 11 answers · asked by lupopunk 1

She will be 67 on the 20th, and won't tell either of us what she wants for her birthday.

2006-11-08 08:25:08 · 7 answers · asked by deeshair 5

I came to check my e-mails last night, I clicked on the mail icon, the window opened, i saw a lot of bulk mail, i pressed "empty", and .... I SAW MY MOTHER IN LAW'S NAME ON THE TOP OF THE SCREEN!!! God! i was freaking out! i freaking deleted all her bulk mail!

do you think she will get mad at me?

should i run for the hills?

Thanks everyone!

2006-11-08 08:22:55 · 11 answers · asked by lost in space 6

I think that my mother in law hates the fact that I talk to my step-mother-in-law. She won't attend any functions like birthday parties for her grandaughter because she does not want to run in to her or my father in law. What should I do?

2006-11-08 08:14:11 · 15 answers · asked by Gina B 2

Is it wired when a grown man doesn't close the door when he is chaning cloths at his parents house?
I am in a serious relationship with a man who is super. He is in his late 30's and is currently living with his folks. His bedroom is right next to his folks bedroom. I have noticed that when is getting ready he never closes his bedroom. This is when his parents are around. One day his mother went to her room while he was changing in his room wich is next to her room. I have asked him but he says no they won't see anything. But could see everything from his living room when he was changing. He doesn't pull down the blinds in the bathroom when he uses the restroom or in the shower. So oneday I went outside to see if anything can be seen and I did see everything. But it doesn't bother him. He's walked around naked in front of meat his house when his parents weren't around and the windows curtin were not fully closed and you can see the busy street through the windows.I was affraid someone is going to see everything. But he doesn't care about it at all. Am I making a big deal of this?

2006-11-08 08:14:06 · 8 answers · asked by Need H 1

well my brother is depressed. i am 14. he is 11. yesterday in the car he broke down crying saying "no one sees me im invisable i just wan tto die. people pick me last to play games. people step on my feet and dont say sorry. people pick on me and call me names. my friends dont talk to me. i just want to die."
he has done this multipul times i just havent really heard him say it.
i've been through what he's been through i want to help him. problem is every time i go to say somthing to him he says you dont care go away. then we aruge. or i make things worse.
then my dad yells at me threatening to beat me up if i dont leave him alone and my mom threatening to ground me for messing with him.
what i want help on is how can i get to my brother. im being nicer to him for the past two weeks and he wont let me talk to him.
how can i talk to him with out getting in toruble and making things worse.
p.s.i dont care about my parents so if i need to do somthing to piss them off then i will

2006-11-08 08:02:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I wish to adopt a child from Guatemala. We do not have the financial means, and we do not qualify for any types of loans or grants. We have heard of people that donate money for causes such as this. Where can we locate people who are willing to help us out? We are a loving, Christian family who wants to give a needy child a home with our family.

2006-11-08 07:56:44 · 3 answers · asked by emmasmom37303 1

His parents are resentful towards me.....because they think we were going to fast. They want us to wait, and they still don't think I'm good enough for him. They were pretty cold with me and even rude. But i want them to like me, I'll do anything (practically). My boyfriend is the man I"m gonna marry. HOw can I gain they're trust back?

2006-11-08 07:53:00 · 7 answers · asked by gstephchuck9 1

What is a concence? And can you not have one? Becouse my mom says I'm heartless and I dont have one.

2006-11-08 07:39:27 · 12 answers · asked by Gracie Gray 1

Does she forgive me for letting my sister take my brother to live with her and does she understand why I couldnt go up agianst everyone else in the family. Does she know how protective they are of Sherritta, and why do they dislike me so much?

2006-11-08 07:39:00 · 12 answers · asked by bellnbensgrandma 1