His parents are resentful towards me.....because they think we were going to fast. They want us to wait, and they still don't think I'm good enough for him. They were pretty cold with me and even rude. But i want them to like me, I'll do anything (practically). My boyfriend is the man I"m gonna marry. HOw can I gain they're trust back?
2006-11-08 07:53:00 · 7 answers · asked by gstephchuck9 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I had this same problem with my b/F's parents. it wasn't so much his dad but it was his mother. i think moms get so attached to their children that they don't want to give them up to someone else. and it seems so much harder when it is their son. I got through this by being polite. i actually got into some sports in my high school days. they seen what i was doing and felt that i was some what made for their son.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years now and his parents think of me as their own. it takes time for them to understand that you are not going anywhere....
just hang in there. you can do it. i did!
2006-11-08 08:10:39 · answer #1 · answered by acoats2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back? How did you loose their trust? That is not the point though. They will never like you, you will never be good enough for their son and they will just have to get used to the fact that you are there. You can bend over backwards for them but the only way you will gain their respect is if you love and take care of their son. My in-laws did not really start liking me until i gave birth to their grandson. Your BF needs to defend you and that's all you can really do. Give them time and they will come around, just be yourself and the longer you guys are together the more they will respect you. Don't worry about them liking you but respecting you and your relationship with their son. Good luck.
2006-11-08 15:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by micah z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldnt worry so much, parents are going to be parents, and try to protect there son. Just hang in there they will come around when they realize that you arent going anywhere, and start to talk to you. But dont make things worse and get mad at them or say something outta the way. If you really love him stay with him and when the time is right they will start to respect you more. I know its hard and it hurts that they wont accept you but just think of it this way at least they care for there son alot. They want the best for him so prove yourself to them. Make them realize whom this girl is deep down inside. Good luck sweetie hang in there.
2006-11-08 15:57:27 · answer #3 · answered by munchkin0430 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should act very mature when you're around them, and watch every move you do. Make sure you don't do anything that might make them dissaprove of you. Next, try doing something that will make them think better of you. For ex/ around the holidays, give them gifts or maybe a card. Or you can offer them help when they need it.
The most important thing though, is don't do anything stupid and watch what you do. Make sure it is mature, shows you are responsible, respectful, honest, etc.
2006-11-08 16:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to show them some respect for their wisdom and slow down a little, that shows them you care what they think. They will come around if they see you as someone who cares what they think.
You can't make anyone like you, you just have to be nice and not give them a reason to dislike you. Family is very important and will be around forever so be honest about your feelings.
Good luck!!
2006-11-08 16:13:38 · answer #5 · answered by Big Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be natural the person you 're dont try to over react that might turn into some trouble for you.be good towards them try to invite them to your place and do something to impress them,lets see how they react!dont just talk too much bout your BF only,take interest in them too.
try your best.
2006-11-08 16:04:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell his mom you and her could pass for sisters. tell his dad he reminds you of George Clooney and Harrison Ford. Than make "fun" of yourself in front of them. You do that, you're in like flinn
2006-11-08 16:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by cold runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋