My son is 16 years and has moved out of my house?

Question

How does he become responsible for what he does? He moved in to my mom's house. He never talks back to me at all. He is not a fighter. He has never been very open. We have tried therapy. Prior to that I did practice spanking , time out, talking in different order depending on action required. As a single parent I have worked and took any schedule for a dollar more. Nothing to show for now as 16 years have gone by and my son' behaviour is still the same. I regret not putting my foot down to employers over the years,,time with my son should have been the number one priority. I am at fault for his flawd character; however still feel he knkows right from wrong. I love him dearly. He is sneaky and a liar. Things always pop up. He found it, or it was given to him. Excuses gallore. He has gotten in trouble in the past for this behaviour. Exiting elementary was a turning point for both of us. Just a struggle, he just listens and cries at my preaches over the year. Now he just tunes you out

Answer 1

i think babies should come with a written warning im cute and cuddly now but im going to be a teeager one day. ive got two teenage daughters one bringing stress to my life everyday the other a perfect angel.
my advice is to continue to love him,support him best you can and hopefully one day it will work out good.dont give up on him i know its hard.

Answer 2

Listen. It doesn't matter how a child is raised to determine what kind of person he is. Obviously your 16 craves independence, why else would he move out? Let him know your trust him and show him by you actions. Doing this will help him know that he does need to step up to the plate and start being a wonderful person. I know that it will be hard at first. You need to remember that you a bad mother and that you tried your hardest to raised being a single mother. First things first talk with him lay it out on the line.....tell him how you feel. Don't make it sound like the sobs story. Tell him you love him!!!! Don't give up you are still his mother!!! ( don't let him forget that too) He could just be going through a rebellious stage.... Good Luck

Good things will come soon. Just have Faith :)

Answer 3

adolescence is not a particularly troublesome period for most however, if there was conflict between a parent and child before the onset of adolesence then naturally, this time of extreme physical and mental growth can be challenging for the child and his/her parent(s). as a student of psychology i would advise that you agree to let him stay at your mother's house temporarily until he can work through the real issues here. i sense that the real issues are more than you being a single parent, working long hours (overtime), and trying to administer guidance without the emotional support of your son's father. his character is not flawed, and it's not your fault that your son is choosing wrong in certain situations and not right as you have taught him. believe it or not negative behavior is one way that some children seek attention from not only parents but teachers as well, and even their friends.

he will become responsible for his own behavior when he has "taken" something one time too many, and he is dealt with more strongly by law enforcement. be patient, i realize this may be asking a lot of you, but time is essential to many components of life, and with raising a teenager my dear, this area is no exception.

you are a great parent, you have worked to provide food, clothing and shelter---remember this is love as well. take care.

Answer 4

First I think that you are being to hard on yourself. There comes a point in every ones life where they have to be responsible for the choices that they have made. You have tried to instill values in your son by being a good employee and providing life's necessities for him. In this way you are teaching him a sense of responsibility and you should be commended for this. We all want to blame ourselves when our children don't live up to our expectations but we have to realize that they must accept some blame for this as well. It sounds like to tried different ways in which to help him, now it is up to him to decide what he wants to do with his life. He is going to be responsible for his actions and maybe these consequences will show to him how hard you have really tried to parent. Don't be too hard on yourself as many children once they grow out of their teens turn their lives around and become responsible and caring adults. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 5

you have obviously done a bad job raising him

does he listen to rap?