I want to do something for my older brother who has had to make the decision to take our other brother off of life support. He is taking care of all of the funeral arrangements and I want him to know how much I love and appreciate him for all that he is doing.
Any idea's?..... (and not flowers, I'm sure we will all get plenty of those)
2006-11-08 09:07:13 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just tell him how much you appreciate him. i wouldn't buy him anything because it will always remind him of your brothers death.
2006-11-08 09:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off let me say I am so sorry for your loss. It is a very difficult time I know. The best thing you can do for your older brother is be there. Go with him to make the arrangements. Be close to him. Lean on him and let him lean on you. Let him know that he has your full support in whatever decisions he has made or has to make now. Love him and he will know how much you appreciate and love him.
Again, I am truely sorry for your loss. May God be with you and your family during the upcoming times.
2006-11-08 09:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by Doug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. Its a rough one to be in and I'm sure it has to be hard on you and your family.
Something he might greatly appreciate is to give him some time off once arrangements are done with. Help him take care of some of the details or help him with things at his house. If he's taking time to do the arrangements, help him keep the house clean or cook dinners and food for him so its one less thing he has to think about.
2006-11-08 09:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by irishgypsy88 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down over a hot cup of coffee and discuss your brother who has passed. At this time you can also let your brother know how important a role he plays in your life and inform him of how grateful you are that he has been responsible for looking after things. Sorry to hear about your loss. Sounds like a cheap remedy but sitting at kitchen table with a hot coffee will be a relaxed place and easy spot to communicate.
2006-11-08 09:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you get through the funeral services right now after the services and everyone settled then do something for your brother ,see if maybe you can find a get away mini vacation ,if you can get a way or thanksgivings is coming ,do something special that day when maybe the family is together,now is not the time to do anything for your brother ,concentrate on celebrate you brother"s life on ther day of the service.My prayers are with you and your family
2006-11-08 09:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by elizabeth_davis28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your brother. I went through it myself 2 yrs ago. The only thing I can suggest is help him make the arrangements. Be there for him to talk, listen or just have a shoulder to cry on. Ask him outright...not IF you can help...but WHAT you can do to help. There is a possibility that he doesn't want help from anyone. It could be his way of grieving. Just be near if he does need a shoulder.
My brother died suddenly at 29. He and my other brother worked together, lived together, and played together. I would go over to their house to do little things like cut grass or cook him a few meals to stick in the freezer. He needed to be the one to go through Drew's things as his way of grieving. And in a way it helped me, too. Making me closer to my brother still living, and closer to my other brothers spirit.
2006-11-08 13:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Older brothers have a need to take care of their little sisters...The best thing you can do for him is tell him you love him. Tell him you're thankful to have him as a brother. Sometimes material things aren't what mean most, it's the words you never forget.
2006-11-08 09:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by Sue A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im very sorry for your loss. But i dont think there is anything materialistic that will matter to him right now. The best thing you can do for him is just telling him how much he means to you and how much you appreciate what hes doing....and of course how much you love him. Words sometimes makes the world of difference especially in a case like this.
2006-11-08 09:11:09 · answer #8 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, im so sorry for your loss. second of all both your brothers sound like they are lucky to have a sis like you. its hard to know how to help someone through a time like this, just be there for him so he can be there for you to. If hes so busy with arrangements then maybe you could cook him tea, make sure his clothes are washed..all the little things count, dont try and out do yourself as im sure you will be needing someone to lean on to.
Good luck ith everything and take care:)
2006-11-08 09:12:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him out to dinner and let him know how wonderful he has been. Write and say something at the service and let everyone know how he has had to take care of everything and thank him in front of everyone. If your talking material give him a gift certificate or something like that. A relaxing time to be alone is always good.
2006-11-08 09:11:30 · answer #10 · answered by calieyecandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. I would keep telling him how much you appreciate all that he is doing. Tell him that you love him as well. Be there for each other through this rough time. If you want to get him a gift...maybe a pocket watch with your other brother's picture in it or one of all of you.
2006-11-08 09:09:33 · answer #11 · answered by lmclear4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋