my brothers only seen my 5month old son 3 times since he was born, he didnt come to visit me in the hopital (i had a caesarean so i was very sore), he didnt even ring me, its always me ringing him up or visiting him, ive lived in my current house since january and he hasnt even been here.
The last time i saw my brother was last week for his birthday and he kept wondering why my son kept crying and hes a happy baby always smiling. it breaks my heart because ive always done alot for my brother, but he really doesnt care about anyone rather tahn himself. my sister is great with my son I cant stop her from coming round, and I dont want to. Its not that my sisters broody and my brothers not, neither of them want kids for a good 5 years.
my brother just wants to spend time with his girlfriend, and go out.
hes the oldest 25 youd think hed be more responsible. im only 21 and my sister 20, but youd think were older.
Why wont he see his nephew more?!
2006-11-08 09:59:01 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
mister bill your sick! Have you not got any emotions or feelings - get a life try not upsetting other people ane you might have friends - LOSER!
thats a nasty thing to say i just want a close family because my brothers only been in the country for 2years and we had a crap childhood so i didnt actually see him properly since i was 12. you try growing up with most of your family in one country(my case NZ) and then the rest of us in another (england).
2006-11-08 10:12:21 · update #1
By the way his girlfriends had two abortions in the past year, but i know he doesnt want kids anyway.
2006-11-08 10:14:00 · update #2
He doesn't like kids maybe!
He's too young eventhough he's the oldest.
I know, I have a brother too that is always into himself and has never done anything for his family. My sister and I just stopped talking to him over a year ago as we were always the ones making the effort to call him or meet up. He didn't bring a gift to my sister's bday, but we found out that he bought his GF a X5 BMW!
Sit him down and ask this question from him. Talking always helps and if you don't get anywhere, then just drop him from your life.
2006-11-08 10:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by Shelley S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men just arent gooey round babies, unless it's their own! He's 25, earning a wage, and enjoying life the way a 25 year old should. Phone him up, and say you just realised you've been there since January and he hasn't seen your house yet, and does he want to come for Sunday lunch or for an evening meal (or get a chinese in) with his girlfriend?
He wont be able to say no then, will he? Just set a date. I know every new mother expects everyone to go ga-ga over their pride and joy, but some people are not just not that way. It's not personal
2006-11-09 14:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by Thia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand it can be hard when family isn't supportive. Your brother is just in a different place right now and single people do tend to be a little self-centered at times. Was your brother in charge of babysitting you when you and your sister were younger? That may be part of it too. He may even be jealous. My son had a surrogate grandmother that he loved. He was a beautiful baby with great coloring and a winning smile. But now that he is nine, she isn't interested in spending time with him, and it hurts. Your brother will probably come around when it's him with the newborn. Try not to hold a grudge.
ps. congratulations on your baby!
2006-11-08 18:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by starmoishe 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen you need to talk to your brother and remind him that family comes before all. Right now he might be feeling a little jealous of the baby seeing as he was the only man around before. You and your sister might have been spoiling him emotionally. I honestly don't know all the details. I have 5 nephews and 3 nieces and I love them all to death. Just remind him that you are still a family...he will surely understand.
2006-11-08 18:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by joe r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally know what you mean, I have 4 brothers and I am the only 1 with a kid.
When my lil girl was a baby my brothers weren't very interested either but I think that's just a young man thing ( They are 26, 22,15 and 10) Babys don't have the same 'pull' factor for young lads as they do for us girls.........But, now that my kid is almost 6 my brothers absolutely adore her, they come and take her with them or they buy her lovely gifts.......
So give it time, when the baby is a bit older and doing more stuff ie. waliking and talking your brother will be able to relate to your baby more.
Don't stress this situation will right itself hun, I promise!
2006-11-09 05:06:04 · answer #5 · answered by EMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe seeing you with a child scares him. Esp. if he is in a serious relationship with his girlfriend. Maybe the thoughts of where his relationship is leading and him possibly having a kid makes him not want to grow up. I'd keep on trying with him it sounds like you care a lot about him and he is kinda being ungratful for all your help. Try getting him alone and talking to him when you don't have your baby with you and get right down to whats bothering you, and that your hurt over him not wanting to be a big part of your life.
Good luck
2006-11-08 18:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by Sublimebaby69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darling, I know what you feel. I want to be close to my family too. But everything got time. And we can't always get what we want in this world.
Yes, he is wrong. He should be close to you all.
But be patient. You still got your sister. Why not try to be happy with her present. And try not to think of your brother for now. You deserve to be happy. There must be a good reason behind this, which God create for your family.
2006-11-09 06:28:16 · answer #7 · answered by Tha-zin Punn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you feel better i had a c section too, and my family made me cook easter dinner 5 days after the surgery i passed out half way through and my mom has only taken my baby once. family is supposed to be there for you when you need them the most but in reality only ever depend on yourself.
2006-11-08 18:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've lived here for 6 years my brother has only called at the door (twice) he's never rang only time he's seen my kids is at family get togethers and the last time we spoke(I've stopped telephoning him)was 8 months ago.
Families,who'd have them.
2006-11-08 18:06:32 · answer #9 · answered by manthintall 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's self-centered to me. Some people don't care about what's important to other people. I'm sure you would like closer family ties with your brother but it doesn't sound like that's going to happen any time soon. But keep your chin up and keep trying. Don't say anything you'll regret later....it's then too difficult to fix. Good luck!!
2006-11-08 18:07:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋