I don't know what to do anymore. I have a sister in law who is such a "hater". Every time somthing good happens for me and I want to share it with her, she completely changes the subject, and does not acknowledge it. I don't know why it bothers me, and I don't know why I let her get to me. I think that deep down she wishes that I would never accomplish any onf my goals. I try to have a good relationship for our kids sake, but it's driving me nuts. I know I can't force her to be happy for me, but with the holidays coming up I know I will have to be around her. Why can't she just be happy for me?
2006-11-08 08:58:04 · 6 answers · asked by CoutureCutie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have EXACTLY that same problme with my sister-in-law. I have decided that the only way to deal with her is not to have anything to do with her. I let my husband do all the contacting and have just accepted that my children will not get to really know their cousins. This has been a great disappointment to me as I had a great relationship with my cousins when I was a child. However, after many years of feeling tormented, I have chosen not to let her have anymore control over my life as she is the one with the problem. I have also explained to my husband that I would never stop him from having time with his sister but I only chose to see her when there are family get togethers. All the best with this one. Remember, it is her problem.
2006-11-08 11:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is because SHE has issues and it's honestly not your fault in any way. I think she may be the kind of person who likes people to admire what SHE says, does, makes or achieves and she doesn't know how to cope when someone else does.
If she were to admire or be glad when something good happens to you, then she has to consciously admit it to herself. That'[s why she would rather change the subject than show appreciation of others good news etc.
I have known people like this. Feel sorry for her.
People don't acknowledge things when it's too much for them to bear....it makes them feel threatened in a way.
You could confront it when she ignores you or changes the subject and say 'what do you think?' or 'Are you pleased...and then just continue talking about your news.
Don't let her get to you, she's the one who must be unhappy.
2006-11-08 17:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you glad she is just a sister-in-law?
I have one of those. Ignore her. That is the best possible thing you can do. Avoid conversations with her and do not, I repeat, do not let it bother you. You are better than her and you don't want to be brought down to her level. You do not need her to be happy for you, you do not need her approval of anything.
That's family life isn't it?
2006-11-08 17:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's that way because she doesn't want anything good to happen to you and then she might be mad because don't nothing good ever happen to her. you should sit down and talk to her about what bothers her when something good happens. another thing if something good does happen to you try to keep it to yourself and not liet her find out
2006-11-08 17:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by PEACHES 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In-laws will always make trouble. just pretend that you're more mature than her (I'm sure you really are) and smile. : )
2006-11-08 17:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tolerate her and that's it. she is overly jealous. and you will never be friends with her . be nice around her and that's it..
2006-11-08 17:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋