Family - November 2006

I am in my 30's & engaged to be married. I am from Asia & in my culture we have arranged marraige. For the longest time my mom tried to force me to marry so many men that I was proposed to. She would discuss my marriage proposals with my aunt & would show them the mens pictures. Before I could say anything my aunt & mom would force me to marry them. Many of the men that was propose to me was imature, had bad habits & irresponsible in many ways. But mom said after they get married those men would change & I am being picky. Now I am engaged to a wonderful man I found on my own. My problem is she is interfearing with my wedding plans & discussing my wedding plans with relatives. I went out of town with my mother & my fiance to buy my cultural bridal dress. She discussed about it with my aunt & now my aunt doesn't think I should wear that dress. So now my mom wants to buy another dress. She gets upset when & treats me like a kid when I express to her how I feel. I am at a loss.

2006-11-29 07:29:16 · 8 answers · asked by cluelesschickus 1

growing up my dad's side aunt and there kids always acted like they were better. OK, 10 yrs ago keep in mind I lived with my looser father, who is poor and abusive. They always blames my mom for him being a looser. She had divorced a long time ago and they blamed her. I findly got away and got to have a normal life with my mom. There related to him too. Anyways, they always act like I have do more than them. When I do something better than them they act like they don't see it. There so proud of my cousin who took 6 yrs to finish a 2 yr degree. Then my other 2 cousin need to go to rehab. I live a better life than my cousin now and they act like there still better than me. I don't do drugs and I'm not a idot. I'm wondering if there jealous of me? I'm not rich but I've got more money than my cousin. My husband is highly educated. Keep in mind I did once wear rags. I'm not snobby either. Is it hard for them to beleive it? That I could turn out better compared to them??

2006-11-29 07:15:33 · 9 answers · asked by Monet 6

Last time I went to visit him in the nursing home I walked out with a cool 100 bucks and he didn't know any better. HAHAHA

2006-11-29 07:11:45 · 11 answers · asked by The Governor of the Chapped Star 2

2006-11-29 07:05:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I dont want to make my daughter feel guilty like she did anything wrong - the family is already fighting because of this guy and I dont want my daughter to feel like she will be to blame if she says he did do something to her. The sister in law is already defending the boyfriend even before the mention of anything was made?

2006-11-29 06:58:24 · 18 answers · asked by heartbreak 8-12-06 2

2006-11-29 06:53:50 · 12 answers · asked by laurenluvsu 1

My parents are uber strict. I'm almost fourteen, and I'm not allowed in a house with a guy on our own - even though he's my best friend! I have to lie and say other people were there as well to not get in trouble!

Also, I have to be in bed by ten - im in year NINE - I'm not allowed out when it's dark - these days like half four/fiveish. My parents are more like my prison supervisors - I can't remember the last time either said "I love you" to me, or hugged me, or anything. They forget to tell me when they are getting home, they just walk in the door whenever, and they expect me to get perfect grades and always be on my best behaviour. If i ever get an after school detention, I dread to think what the consequences would be.

Please help - how can I cope or change this in any ways????

2006-11-29 06:42:13 · 25 answers · asked by petite lizzie ♥ 3

this is the first holiday season without my brother and im not very thankful or cheery. you see i found my brother(also my VERY best friend) january he had shot himself now i am raising his son and i also have grown kids of my own(im 36) and a husband i know i need to snap out of this for THEM but i have NEVER been without my bro. it was just me and him left. can anyone help maybe youve been thru simalar loss

2006-11-29 06:29:51 · 8 answers · asked by nightyzz 3

I was very hurt and cried on my way home, and don't know if it will ever not be disfunctional.My visit to my fathers and stepmoms home made me sad. You see my stepmother never seems to ecknowledge my children not even a hi.,strangers have more conversation gush over them than she does. She has two other grandchildren from her daug. and son. and showed them so much attention and smiles but when it came to my kids none of that. My sons older and I can sense that he feel uncomfortable, my daugt.18mos. did her own thing even though the other grandchild is 16mos. , i'm very confused on what to do my dad is great and shows his love, but i feel he holds back in front of my stepmom. I also feel very uneasy with her around, should i let my dad know how i feel, should i stop visiting , and have my dad visit me without her. whats right and wrong in this situation.

2006-11-29 06:22:41 · 7 answers · asked by coco1 1

2006-11-29 06:20:44 · 5 answers · asked by phyllis_gene_levy 1

i am lost here, my son is 21? he did not finsh high school, i have four kids three grils and one son all my girls finsh school and one is in college, the other two work, my son is lost. i don't know what to do. my thing was go to school and finsh, and if you don't get a job or get out. i was married for seven years and i divorce and i move in with his real father, we live together for a couple of years and did not work out again. he started to smoke weed with his stepbrother, and his father was dum to that stuff so his brother got away with it.i had enough and move out.my son stayed with him and he kick him out,when he found the weed. but did not here me when i was telling him. now he came to my home with his friend i tried to help them and got sh**on i put them out, i got money taken, stuff missing,my boyfriend was mad. now he is back same stuff did not change. what to do

2006-11-29 06:20:01 · 9 answers · asked by Tina Z 1

I was born in an estimated 1 in 1,000,000 chance, while my father has a vasectomy. Anyone else out there who was born while your father or mother was not supposed to be able to concieve?

~Kyle

2006-11-29 06:19:07 · 6 answers · asked by Kyleontheweb 5

My children father and I are very close even though we are no longer in a relationship together. We sit and talk on the phone, we take the children out on family outings and we even still help each other with money issues. But for some strange reason people tend to see that as still being in a loving relationship and that is not the case. They also want to say that I had to have lost custody of my children because I choose to let them live with their father. What is the deal with people not being mature enough to understand some people can get along as friends after having a love relationship.

2006-11-29 06:08:27 · 5 answers · asked by jozetta W 2

2006-11-29 06:08:24 · 3 answers · asked by Irishgirl84 1

2006-11-29 05:59:01 · 23 answers · asked by sandra k 1

I am 14 and work for two days a week, fri. and sat. for about 4 hrs. each. I have decided to move to my dad's house and i live with my mom right now. It's going to be a pretty rough weekend and i was thinking about asking my boss (who is very good friends with my dad) if i could have the weekend off because of me moving over and stuff. Is this a good reason? or should i not miss work?

2006-11-29 05:43:36 · 11 answers · asked by tigert92 1

im trying to find a charm for mums birthday, she has asked for this specificly and i cant find one anywhere, help!!!! thank you x

2006-11-29 05:33:54 · 7 answers · asked by julie m 1

I want to get a gift for my sister-n-law and her husband ( just to stick it to them ). They deserve something really really rotten ( too long a story to get into now ) It has to be something that looks nice from the outside ( no bags of poop )..but that really actually sucks. I was thinking of an unactivated gift card. But there has to be other fabulous ideas. help.

2006-11-29 05:33:31 · 10 answers · asked by cheese food product 2

First off, let me say I was homeschooled until graduation and left for college an extremely naive, kinda dorky kid who tucked in t-shirts with a belt.

Long story short, it's now 3 years later and I'm almost nothing like I used to be.

Now here's the problem, there are things my mother does, things I didn't notice when I was younger because I accepted them as common behavior but now they raise some concern.

1) I broke the news to my mom that I'm planning to move into an apartment with some of my friends. Her reaction, she stomped out of the room, and screamed through the house "you've broken my heart!" for the rest of the day. I finally gave in when she started crying. (I'm thinking i should have stayed firm)

2) The pet nicknames, which I can't stand. She calls me things like "butt munches"..."lovey"...."sugarboy"...and has been known to do it in front of my friends.

3) She was yelling at me about something and I was sharp with her. She then locked herself in her room and cried.

2006-11-29 05:30:43 · 11 answers · asked by some random dude 1

My Dad was 60 when he passed. He was a loving, gentle Dad and husband. He was the glue and the life of our family. Funny, larger than life man. He told me before he passed that he wanted Mom to marry again. But he would like to be "cold" first. (off branded humor) My Mom was always the head strong one while my Dad was the loving, family always first one. Mom distanced herself from us (me and my 3 brothers) after the funeral and started going to the bar alot. Then she came over one day and asked if it was ok if she stared dating. I told her I was uncomfortable with it but I knew she was lonely. She married my Dad when she was 17 and she is 52 now. Well it wasn't a week later when my message machine about blew up. It was my brothers calling to tell me she was moving a guy in. I know my Dad would cringe. Even as adults we were not allowed stay overnight at our parents house w/a BF or GF unless we were married,my moms rule. She knows this is killing us, but doesn't care. Any advice?

2006-11-29 05:30:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My father-in-law really gets on my nerves, and creates bad feeling throughout my household, he makes my wife (His Daughter) feel like crap, by criticising everything she does, who in-turns makes my life a misery when he has upset her!! How do I deal with the idiot without breaking the law or offending other members of the family.....

2006-11-29 05:27:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband's ex wife left his kids for a few years til she came back. She and my mom in law still keep in touch. She asked for the kids, but she should have come over to our house instead of keeping in touch with my mom in law. I think it should be between my husband and his ex wife, his family shouldn't interfere us, but my mom in law said she loves her no matter what even though my husband told her to back off. What should I do?

2006-11-29 05:27:06 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-29 05:20:25 · 15 answers · asked by phyllis_gene_levy 1

I'm ugly and no one in the world loves me even my own family ,all they do is pissing me off cause they look good and I don't(my father tells me how ugly I'm and my brother&sister are Embarrassed to go out with me..........I don't have friends in college, I tried but people are so shallow.I have severe depression and I think about suicide a lot.
I'm studying dentistry and wish to become rich and powerful but can I survive till then ??

2006-11-29 05:14:50 · 6 answers · asked by James 2

My husband does not have a relationship with his family. They didn't even do Thanksgiving this year. I know that it bothers him, but when we go see my family, he has a major attitude and really makes my time with my family hard to enjoy. His mother died one and a half years ago and his father has remarried (which he can't come to terms with) His and his fathers relationship has always been a strained relationship at best. His older brother is jealous b/c we have a stable life, so that relationship is strained as well. To say the least, he is from a disfunctional family. What can I do? He interuupts me if I talk on the phone to my family, rolls his eyes, and talks sh*t about them and says that we act stupid when we get together. I had a fairy tale childhood and still have great relationships with my family members. I only get to see them about five times a year so when I see them, I like to share stories about our childhood. Please help me understand why he acts that way.

2006-11-29 05:10:15 · 7 answers · asked by surelycoolgirl 5

Since I have become older, my relationship with my mom has became harder. We do not live together but do live in the same town. Even talking to her about most things causes us both to be irritated by the other. She has said that now that I am more independant that she will back off but she still butts in and gets made at me when I point this out or even when I talk, sometimes. Seems she thinks she is always right!

2006-11-29 05:10:10 · 3 answers · asked by Rosey 2

now I do not have to care for my mother and I would like to move(I own a home) because I am getting where I need help from time to time. I am behind on my health issues and need knee surgery. Knee surgery was cancled because I have no one to stay with me. I just can not go out and say " will you be my friend and help me out"
My daughter said to come live near them out of state. I have had my house on the market, sold furniture and am living in a house that is all packed up now for 6 months.
My daughter is giving me a long set of rules to abide by if I come near her to live. Such as I am not allowed to call her house at all during Monday-Friday because she stays home and that is her place of work..and do not discuss to her inlaws that I like to go to the Goodwill...
I really feel I am not really wanted there. I think I should take my losses with money on a new home I am having built near her and stay put. My medical issues will be on hold again and I will be alone. Move or not?

2006-11-29 05:03:19 · 7 answers · asked by lizr 2

We had family members come over and stay with us, and everyone was in the living room playing some board game. I had a hamper of dirty clothes on top of the washer and everytime I leave it there, my sisters throw their dirty laundry there too. I went to the living room and yelled at them, stop leaving your dirty snail trail stained underwear in my hamper. Since then, they have been really verbally abusive to me.

2006-11-29 04:59:56 · 7 answers · asked by Pimp of the Day 1

My husband works every monday to saturday. I want to spend time with him and our children, but his mother and sisters are upset for not seeing the kids. I told them that we need to spend time together because we havent seen him not that much, we go bed at 8pm. His family used to see the kids every weekends, he was a single father til he married to me last year. I want us to spend time together. Am I selfish that they should see the kids? or should we spend time together? how often should we let the kids see their grandparents and aunts?

2006-11-29 04:59:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Dad has joint custody with the mother of the child and the child stays 2-3 nights a week. In the year the Dad and I have been together the child has slept in his own room a handful of times. I am fit to be tied and trying to talk about it results in a fight. Child does not sleep in our bed but has to be in the room. Dad thinks this is completely normal. Dad has been divorced for 12 years and I believe it is something that they have always done. I also think that Dad does not want the child to grow up. I have stated that the child is almost at puberty and that he needs to start being more independent. No matter what I do I am looked at as the "bad guy" because I think that it is creepy. I get along very well with my fiance and this is the only source of stress between us. On top of everything I am a Social Worker and feel like I should know what to do! Any advice?

2006-11-29 04:44:13 · 30 answers · asked by MSW worker 1