growing up my dad's side aunt and there kids always acted like they were better. OK, 10 yrs ago keep in mind I lived with my looser father, who is poor and abusive. They always blames my mom for him being a looser. She had divorced a long time ago and they blamed her. I findly got away and got to have a normal life with my mom. There related to him too. Anyways, they always act like I have do more than them. When I do something better than them they act like they don't see it. There so proud of my cousin who took 6 yrs to finish a 2 yr degree. Then my other 2 cousin need to go to rehab. I live a better life than my cousin now and they act like there still better than me. I don't do drugs and I'm not a idot. I'm wondering if there jealous of me? I'm not rich but I've got more money than my cousin. My husband is highly educated. Keep in mind I did once wear rags. I'm not snobby either. Is it hard for them to beleive it? That I could turn out better compared to them??
2006-11-29 07:15:33 · 9 answers · asked by Monet 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's funny how people DON'T change but the way we see them does.
Growing up they may have snobed you but inside YOU were jealous of them. You knew you had problems but what you didn't see was that they did too. They just hid it better.
Today, you see the reality. You grew into a better person. Stronger, grounded and happy.. All along you faced your problems and didn't put on an act. That's what allowed you to grow and learn.
They are the ones who never faced their own problem and now it caught up to each one. The cousins who are messed up and they STILL can't face the reality that you have risen and they have fallen.
There isn't anymore you can do for them but pity them.
2006-11-29 15:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If at all possible, stop hanging out with them. Nobody said that family HAD to be friends. You certainly don't need the problems they cause you.
If that is not possible then work on not hinging your self esteem on what people think of your lesser-then-you cousins. We all want to please others. Sometimes we get so lost in trying to please others that we forget who we are. You are someone special in and of your own right. You don't need them to tell you that.
2006-11-29 07:24:49 · answer #2 · answered by whitneysmother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's their own embarrassment and insecurities that disallow them to show that they could ever be less than someone else...they have to keep up the front that they're better or they'd have to realize they're crap...I go through the same thing every holiday season...ignore it
2006-11-29 07:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, they are jealous and feel threatened. the only way to make them feel better is to make you feel worse. only you can choose how you react to them. be sure not to stoop. also make the decision of whether this is a part of your family you can live with or without. in some instances you can choose who you let affect your feelings. don't let them see negative reaction to their snobbiness. rise above it. you will feel better about yourself that you handled it so well and possibly encourage them to step above it as well (if we're trying to be optimistic).
2006-11-29 07:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by Calli G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my family, but guess what? I dont talk to them any more, they see me and ask, how come you dont come over to see us? and I tell them Im too busy with my wonderful family. I just let them go ahead and hate dont worry about what they are thinking of you, if you are saved no weapon formed against you shall prosper!
2006-11-29 07:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by sam a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great point, I'm interested to know more too
2016-08-08 20:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably. Just continue being happy and don't let them get to you.
2006-11-29 07:49:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SNOB them back--who are they--it is all jealousy.
2006-11-29 07:17:48 · answer #8 · answered by Allie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends..
2016-08-23 11:40:29 · answer #9 · answered by theodora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋