My husband works every monday to saturday. I want to spend time with him and our children, but his mother and sisters are upset for not seeing the kids. I told them that we need to spend time together because we havent seen him not that much, we go bed at 8pm. His family used to see the kids every weekends, he was a single father til he married to me last year. I want us to spend time together. Am I selfish that they should see the kids? or should we spend time together? how often should we let the kids see their grandparents and aunts?
2006-11-29 04:59:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i think more often than you can
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2006-11-29 05:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by john doe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
grand parents are a very important part of any childs life... thery are the one who are supposed to spoil the kids... but spending time with family is important... try to spend time all together like get dinner one a week or have a day every weekend where you have a family outing and do something fun! the whole family can spend time toghether and then everyone is happy. I understand where you are coming from wanting just you,, your husband and kids to spend time togehter but there is no reason that can't happen. Maybe limit the time the grandparents and aunts see them to a few times a month... remember that grandparents won't be around forever and if we having nothing else in this world we will always have family!
2006-11-29 05:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by J. P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that if the extended family is nearby, once or twice a month is perfectly acceptable. It's a great deal - the kids get to maintain their relationship with their grandparents and you get a couple of weekends just with hubby.
And this is very important: while it's wonderful that you're taking the role of stepmother very seriously and making a true family, it would be a *very* bad idea to interfere with your husband's family's desire to see their grandchildren. While I don't think that every weekend is necessary, I certainly don't think that 1-2X a month is excessive, and if you become very controlling in this issue, you're going to lose the respect of his family, his children and very possibly him.
You need to facilitate at every opportunity a positive relationship among everyone - and that means that sometimes the kids will be at Grandma's.
I also just noticed that your husband works thru Saturday. How about letting the kids go on Friday night and pick them up Saturday afternoon? That way they're not missing family time.
2006-11-29 05:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make arrangements for them to see each other every other week. I realize you go to bed at 8 pm, but if the kids don't need to be in bed that early, why not take them over to see the grandparents and aunts. That way they won't be so upset. The kids may be missing them as well. Sometimes short little visits are better than none.
2006-11-29 05:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really up to you. In my family we all live pretty far apart and I was lucky if I saw my grandparents once a year, and it didn't affect how much we loved each other. Spending time together with your husband and children is important to keep your family unit together. Perhaps the kids could visit with their grandparents when you run errands, that way you get free babysitting and your mother and sisters-in-law can spend time with you children.
2006-11-29 05:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your spouse isn't overreacting. Your mom did a poor factor, and probable scared your spouse out of her suggestions at a time whilst she desperately needed help. Your mom needs to say sorry. i could tell your mom which you quite desire her to say sorry so which you would be able to spend time at the same time as a family individuals, that what she did replaced into the least powerful factor she would have accomplished interior the 2d and being a mom, she would desire to comprehend that. heavily. A probability to call social centers is so a techniques previous the line that i'm no longer able to have faith you nevertheless opt to talk along with her with out an apology.
2016-10-13 08:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has often has possible I miss my grand parents so much and when they die you'll have all the time left to spend it with your family and it's also great for the kids.
2006-11-30 08:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I´ll say as often as posible
but in your case, I´ll say everyother sunday
2006-11-29 05:04:12 · answer #8 · answered by gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋