now I do not have to care for my mother and I would like to move(I own a home) because I am getting where I need help from time to time. I am behind on my health issues and need knee surgery. Knee surgery was cancled because I have no one to stay with me. I just can not go out and say " will you be my friend and help me out"
My daughter said to come live near them out of state. I have had my house on the market, sold furniture and am living in a house that is all packed up now for 6 months.
My daughter is giving me a long set of rules to abide by if I come near her to live. Such as I am not allowed to call her house at all during Monday-Friday because she stays home and that is her place of work..and do not discuss to her inlaws that I like to go to the Goodwill...
I really feel I am not really wanted there. I think I should take my losses with money on a new home I am having built near her and stay put. My medical issues will be on hold again and I will be alone. Move or not?
2006-11-29 05:03:19 · 7 answers · asked by lizr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
better stay away from your daughter.the reason u have to be near her is for someone to look after you after your operation, so what's the sense of moving there if she can't be there for you. bad daughter u have there. i just do hope it won't happen to her when she gets old. as for your operation,well, maybe you could ask help from the hospital or from charitable institutions near your place that could look after you. that would be much better than to be expecting help from your daughter who couldn't even be there for you especially now that you need her most. goodluck and take care.
2006-11-29 05:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by warrior is a child 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be sad if you lost the money on your new home. Maybe you should still move to be near your daughter and find a new life of your own. Join anything and everything, church groups, classes, anything. You really will find good friends if you join in with things. I know you have health issues, so that is the first thing you need to get sorted out. Then when you're established in your own home with your new friends, YOU lay the rules down to your daughter about when you're going to be busy. Hopefully she'll see what a snob she's become. Nothing wrong with goodwill shops, great bargains. That's what they're there for, plus you're helping charities. Good luck. Begin planning your new life NOW !!!! XX
2006-11-29 05:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need someone like me. I do personal care work and work as a live-in.
There are organizations who help in those areas. They will house you or you can hire someone to live with you.
It doesn't sound like a good place for you to be (with your daughter) Since you would have rules you "should" follow. Unless you're mentally challenged and need someone to tell you what to do.
I was trained through CIL and I learned ppl with disabilities should be as independent as possible.
I don't know what state you live in so I couldn't look up sites for your area.
I'd say be independent as much as you can. You'll feel better about life. I don't think you should put your health on hold. You decline if you don't.
Here's some links that may help you.
I hope it all works out for you.
2006-11-29 05:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jeannette B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
other than a sad story I am not sure what you want.Are you expecting your daughter to look after you, she has already told you she works, and her work place is her home.As for building your home near her, did you do your home work? did you look at the sales market in both areas? by your letter you sound like you may do things impulsively, and on the spur of the moment, no thought, or thinking involved, also Why can you not go to a convalescent home for the first little while after your surgery, this is what other people that do not have any one to look after them. to rely on family and or friends is just using them to your betterment. You are more than able to look after your needs you just need to plan and think things through
2006-11-29 05:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Desperate freind,
Don't give up on your mother; if you do and she later dies you'll feel guilty and that alone will compound the issues of your health, and don't destroy your future! Try these, they work: pray and tell God how you feel, tell Him you're sorry for anything you've ever done wrong. For best results, pray in his Son's name (Jesus Christ). Associate with people, go to Church. Read books, read the Holy Bible (Mark 16: 15-18). After the above, do this!Right now, it's a challenge. CLOSE YOUR EYES, LAY YOUR RIGHT HAND ON YOUR KNEE, SAY THIS: YOU kNEE PROBLEM I REJECT YOU IN THE NAME OF JESUS, I SHALL NOT UNDERGO ANY SURGERY GOD'S SON HEALS ME NOW. It's done please write to tell me about it. I'll tell you more
2006-11-29 05:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by domi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the key to this is where will you be most happier at? It's not worth you going there and being unhappy. Take your time with this decision, weigh out your pros and cons. Best of luck to you.
2006-11-29 11:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should move
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2006-11-29 05:05:43 · answer #7 · answered by john doe 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋