Family & Relationships - 31 December 2007

2007-12-31 02:35:59 · 31 answers · asked by Ladybug P 1 in Marriage & Divorce

He has been cheating on me for almost 6 months, Has called me all sorts of names. I left him two weeks after i found out he was cheating and one week after i found out i was pregnant. I still love him but i have gone through so much to finally make it on my own. I am supposed to start college in the summer, which prolly wont happen if i get back with him. I dont want to break up my family. I know its my own choice and i'm very religious and know what god thinks about divorce but there is a passage in the bible that says "if he strays let him go". I'm litterally in a catch 22 with every moral value i have based my life on. Should we really have to put aside our dreams for love and family? I have three kids not including my 7mo old fetus. He has the kids everyweekend and is a good daddy just made a big mistake. He wants to be a good husband but i don't know how i can let him or tell him no or move on without him. He begged me back crying last night. Opinions only

2007-12-31 02:32:26 · 48 answers · asked by Christine D 2 in Marriage & Divorce

hello.... my problem is like this. my family is really strict about academic. i have an older sister,younger sister n a younger brother. they r really good in academic. last year, my older sister received an award for the best student in state. we all r so proud of her. she inspires me to be more hardworking. but i just don't know why this year i dropped. i was not in the right track. less A's n more B's n C too... my mother is so sad. of course, i am sad too. my father,he passed away. i don't know. maybe that's the reason that affects my studies. he passed away this year. but, the thing is after my father passed away, my brother becomes one of the top student in my country, malaysia. that reaaly bugs me a lot. because, what's my problem?? yeah, my father passed away... so? my brother can get over it. why can't i? my father's death should not be the reason for me to drop. i'm so ashamed of myself... someone.. please help me....

2007-12-31 02:32:22 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-12-31 02:30:21 · 36 answers · asked by winston l 1 in Friends

My wife and I have been married three years; been together for 9 years. We fight everyday. She is overly controlling. She is bipolar. I love her when she is in a good mood, but I feel I can certainly live without her. I am unhappy and do not see myself with her for the rest of my life. We are very very different people.

I HATE arguing but she always seems to drag me into one.

And thankfully, we have no kids. I grew up in a home with lots of arguing and violence and if my kids end up in a household like that, it will break my heart.

It seems I have answered my own question, but I would appreciate input and advice.

Thanks.

2007-12-31 02:29:50 · 26 answers · asked by mike b 1 in Marriage & Divorce

The other day a question was posted about having dreams about your wedding and I posted, "Not yet." Well...last night I dreamed I hated the jacket on my dress and I wanted sleeves put on it. Now, today, that's all I can think about. LOL! I think it's because I tried the dress on the other day and the sleeves on the bolero jacket are tighter than before. Oops. I am going to start working out this week, but my worry is I might build muscle and the arms would still be tight. I'm thinking about buying a wrap that matches my dress as back-up. It's ivory (matching my dress) with beading on the end.

Anyway, my question is what do you like better over a wedding dress: bolero jacket or wrap?

Also, is it a good idea to buy the wrap as back-up or would I just be wasting money?

Thanks!

2007-12-31 02:29:15 · 10 answers · asked by Natty 5 in Weddings

We are friends and I was hoping she liked me more than a friend, but recently she has been talking to me about "hot" guys in movies and "hot" guys who are her sister's friends. Does that automatically mean she can't like me?

2007-12-31 02:28:40 · 31 answers · asked by LT21 2 in Singles & Dating

There's a girl in my school that I really like and I think she likes me back too (she says that I'm so nice it is unbelievable, she's glad I asked for her # because she would have been too nervous to ask for mine, etc.). I haven't talked to her in a while but I was wondering is there any specific time of the day that would work best for calling her? I don't want to catch her when she's in the middle of something, but I don't want to put it off until it's too late.

Thanks

2007-12-31 02:25:20 · 24 answers · asked by HT-5 2 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend is always broke! He barely makes enough for his car payments, insurance, and cell phone bill. I feel that he has obviously put too much on his plate.
We don't live together yet, but we're moving in together in July 2008. I have a severe fear of money problems, and I can't seem to find a way to get him straightened out! I love him to death, and we've been talking recently about getting married, but I'm scared to marry someone who isn't financially stable! Help??

2007-12-31 02:25:09 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm usually extremely busy with work during the day and evenings I spend it at the gym then relaxing at home. My girlfriend calls all the time but I don't usually pick up because I know it'll be a long conversation. However, I do take notice that she calls so every night before I sleep, I call her and talk to her for a good 1-2 hours. Our conversation usually ends with me drifting off to sleep and she would know to hang up when she hears my snoring over the phone. Strangely enough she finds this adorable and I tell her "hey I just want to hear your voice before I sleep". But I hear that some women would actually be offended if their b/f fell asleep on the phone with them. But at least we talk for a good long while before I drift off. I do this everyday. Would you be offended in my situation?

2007-12-31 02:21:57 · 34 answers · asked by Knowing 3 in Singles & Dating

I have posted here before regarding my situation with my mother. I am engaged, have a 5 y/o and have twins on the way (less than 6 weeks). My mother has a house full of shiftless adults that refuse to help her out the way they should. My father passed 2 years ago, left her with nothing. I have an older sister and her 4 kids that live there. She is working part-time(dont ask me why) and none of her kids work...she has a 14 y/o, 18y/o, 19 y/o and a 20 y/o. They all sit around and loaf. In the last 2 years, my mother has re-financed her house to help my older sister pay her bills, she also co-signed on 2 cars for the same sis and they got reposessed. My sister constantly drags my mother further in debt. I have been struggling because I have been helping my mother out financially. Now that I am broke, everyone is mad at me because I dont have anymore to give.I told her all I have is the money to pay for my daughters tuition and they are mad cuz I wont give it to them to pay bills.

2007-12-31 02:21:13 · 6 answers · asked by vivian M 2 in Family

I was with the same guy for 6 years (lived with for 3) and this past August, he finally asked me to marry him. Of course I said yes and for the most part we were very happy. Well on Christmas eve we got into a fight. After much proding on his part (calling me childish) I said the relationship might almost be over and he said it was. So I took off the ring and gave it back to him, all the while not really meaning it. I got the ring back but he says it's still over and he wants me to move out. He says we both have growing up to do and he doesn't want to be a burdon to me anymore. Yet I can't stop loving him and caring about him. He says he doesn't anymore. How could his feelings change so fast? We've been so happy and had many plans for the future.

2007-12-31 02:19:26 · 17 answers · asked by gothicbabe2000 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Let's say you have an opinion about something that you feel very strong about. (we'll use gambling in this discussion) Your significant other knows that you are opposed to gambling which takes away financially from your family. You've expressed yourself and this issue has even caused medical problems for you (high blood pressure) but to no concern (you feel) they continue.
Does this mean to you that the other person basically just doesn't care about your feelings or are you just being too mean?
Answer honestly. I don't use names for my research just answers.
Thank you in advance and Happy 2008!
Please note that I am asking this for research purposes only. I'm gathering information about marriage and relationships in general.

2007-12-31 02:18:36 · 16 answers · asked by okiemom67 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I am currently 17 years old. I graduate highschool in 4 months and I am already dually enrolled in college. My boyfriend is a United States Marine. We met when I was 14 but just got together a year ago. He is currently serving in Iraq and will be home about the same time I graduate. He is 20yrs old. I know he is going to pop the ? when he gets back and I love him and want to be with him FOREVER! We do not plan on getting married until I graduate college (2yrs) but is this too young to be considering marriage. I know deep down I am ready for this with him but I know my parents are going to freak out. What do you guys think?

2007-12-31 02:18:04 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I love my husband I really do but after miscarriging for the second time every little thing is bothering me. I am becoming enrage with jealousy and female friends. I feel overwhelmed always crying and down. I know he tries to understand it's just hard for him. I am tired of crying and being upset I need some sort of help. What can I do to get over the miscarriage and get back to be a good friend, lover and wife.

2007-12-31 02:16:02 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

How old/what gender are you and how many sexual partners have you had.
Why do you feel about the number/s (if any) you have had, i.e do you wish you had had more or less?

What circumstances do you feel are behind the number of sexual partners you have had?

Are you waiting for the special someone, have you been with the same partner in a monogamous relationship for a long time.

2007-12-31 02:11:49 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Can one file a divorce in colorado for a marriage that was performed in New York

2007-12-31 02:10:31 · 13 answers · asked by voodoo 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Just wondering on general opinions about getting married young. I personally plan on getting married around 23-24 after daying my boyfriend for over 3 years. (I'm 22 now.) We personally think that it's not too young at all, and it'll actually be easier on me and boyfriend to be together earlier since we can't live together until we married.

My cousin got married at 19 to a 24 year old guy and they've lived happily together for the last 10 years, no problems.

Recently a friend of mine got married at 22 to a 25 year old guy, and they seem very down-to-earth and happy with the marriage.

A family friend's daughter just got married at 18 to a 19 year old. I feel less comfortable with this because they're practically out of high school, not college.


How young is too young? When do you think someone is old enough to make such an important decision about their life?

2007-12-31 02:09:26 · 24 answers · asked by Evoo 4 in Marriage & Divorce

In november my ex of 2 years told me she just didnt love me anymore and that shed been faking our relationship. As time went on we just kept arguing and gradually now shes been saying that it wasnt that she didnt love me but that she needed to figure herself out. Ever since we graduated college in May i could tell something was wrong but she never told me until now that we're seperated. Whenever i try to telling her we need time apart so we can be true friends again, she always tells me something like oh ive been thinking about getting back together and i stilll have all these feelings for you. I feel like she either means it or just doesnt want me to move on. And i'm just getting tired of all this talk im not sure if shes just toying with me or she means it. Has anybody really need a break because they didnt feel independent, or do you think shes just doing all of this to keep me at her side until she can finally move on? Thanks in advance for you answer.

2007-12-31 02:07:29 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

This is driving me CRAZY! I don't have a car but I am almost to the point where I am going to take the bus over to his house if this continues!

We had a big argument last wednesday.. but we talked friday and saturday on the phone and he said that sunday we will hang out and talk.. i asked if he was mad he said "no.. its all in the past.. i want to work on getting past it and being with you.. i love you".. so i was planning that yesterday we'd be together.. well nope.. no call.. i called a bunch of times.. no call back.. left a few messages saying i was worried bout him.. nothing.

Here is the kicker.. He is on my myspace.. I have sent him 2 messages.. and just now I checked my sent mail and noticed that he READ both of them and didn't even reply back.. WTF?!

I can not for the life of me figure this one out.. when we talked on the phone he seemed fine.. that nothing was bothering him at all.

he claims he gets busy working.. but comon.. can't be that busy to NOT call me.

2007-12-31 02:07:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Last thurs me and my boyfriend were supposed to go out. however, he chose going out with his friends over going out with me. i was very mad and we quarelled over this. he then promised me he would go out with me tomorrow. but now he tell me he would be out with his friends again and cannot be able to go out with me. i am feeling extremely frustrated that he is spending more time with his friends then me. the last time we met was like, 2 weeks ago. and when i call him about that, he shouted at me and said a lot of depressing words such as i being not understanding, reasonable enough. he finally admitted he had planned to drink and get drunk tonight with his friends. so to recover from his hangover, he cancels our date tomorrow. what should i do? i am feeling very disappointed and i cannot tolerate his behavior any more.

but as the saying goes, to love someone, you have to be patient. i feel i am being patient enough. he doesnt answer my calls now. what should i do?

2007-12-31 01:57:03 · 26 answers · asked by thegangygirl 1 in Singles & Dating

me and my co worker were closed, flirting each other until i fell in love,he is 46 (he is single never married)and iam 40...........the story----- i mentioned i am separated...... i said, im in love, i love you...... then left right away....next day he said --what you said same feelings......we cant talk cuz its working time......its our day off, i phoned him 5times, text messages, he never called....my messages are -where are you,just start our relation youre hurting me ,have time for me too.............when we were in the clock in, i asked you are not answering my calls.......he was mad,raised voices.......saying STOP HARRASSING, IM NOT INTERESTED IN YOU.........was like a bomb explode and i was hit........he never gave me the chance to talk and you know what he even reported this to the management for harrassing.......... right now, just like we dont know each other.

2007-12-31 01:56:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-31 01:54:29 · 29 answers · asked by GirlUK07 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

I keep falling for my husbands bull crap why? He left me two years ago. I recently spent the night talking with this guy and had a wonderful time. My hubby found out and started coming around more than he was he was coming around about everyday anyway. He started saying maybe he wants to be married again staying the night. I love my husband and always have. Then after finding out my mom has cancer thats treatable we found out theres a spot on her lung and spine. Then I went up north to help my dad with his brother who is going to die any like minute now. My father and uncle are the best guys in the world I feel so bad for the both of them. I came back down last night and asked my husband what hes going to do tonight for new years eve thinking he said he would be with me. Now he says he doesn't want to spend it with me and he came over christmas slept half the day and left and so I spent christmas after my kids left to family members houses by myself. why do i fall for his crap.

2007-12-31 01:53:16 · 16 answers · asked by youcandoit 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-31 01:53:07 · 27 answers · asked by John N 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok, my mom and I share a room together; I'm 19 and my mom is 37. We have a 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom, 1 kitchen, 1living room home. My sister stays in one room, my grandmother occupys the other, and me and mom are in the same room. My mom is single; anyways, I need my privacy you know? It sucks, because there are times when I want to masturbate and other things; you know?; we bicker and fight like married people; about the t.v., fan, lights, basically anything. Is there a way for me to resolve this problem because I'm on my way headed to the couch in the living room.

2007-12-31 01:50:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-12-31 01:49:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend of 2 years blurted out the other day that he "tag teamed" his cousins ex girlfriend with his cousin....
I know its in the past and I know its not my place to feel jealous and I know he didnt cheat on me because I didnt even know him when it happened.... but am I over-reacting by feeling a bit akward about this?

2007-12-31 01:46:31 · 18 answers · asked by He moonwalked on my <3 4 in Marriage & Divorce

My daughter has a bad head cold. Of course when she is on her cold stuff she is feels better. At my Church we are having a New Years Eve Party and she really wants to go but I am not sure if that is wise because of her being sick. My question is this, what do you think?

2007-12-31 01:43:47 · 24 answers · asked by conny 6 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been married for two years and WE HAVE TWO KIDS but i have never orgasmed with my husband. i have had several relationships in the past, about three guys but none of them could make me climax. Does is it mean i have a problem. I do masturbate and i orgasm on my own, but i want to feel it with my husband. he feels frustrated because he cannot make me orgasm. i dont know if he thinks i am a freak or frigid. he also might start having affairs, HELP ME PLEASE.

2007-12-31 01:43:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce