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Question

hello.... my problem is like this. my family is really strict about academic. i have an older sister,younger sister n a younger brother. they r really good in academic. last year, my older sister received an award for the best student in state. we all r so proud of her. she inspires me to be more hardworking. but i just don't know why this year i dropped. i was not in the right track. less A's n more B's n C too... my mother is so sad. of course, i am sad too. my father,he passed away. i don't know. maybe that's the reason that affects my studies. he passed away this year. but, the thing is after my father passed away, my brother becomes one of the top student in my country, malaysia. that reaaly bugs me a lot. because, what's my problem?? yeah, my father passed away... so? my brother can get over it. why can't i? my father's death should not be the reason for me to drop. i'm so ashamed of myself... someone.. please help me....

Answer 1

Maybe all the pressure of your siblings having good grades is all over you. And since youe dad's death, that could have a real effect on you because someone close to you died. You need to relax, and spend time on your work. If you worry about it, it will be hard. Just try your best and tell your mom that you are trying your best but it is hard right now.

Sorry about the loss.

Answer 2

I'm sorry for your loss. Your father would not want you to deteriorate academically because he passed away. You do not need to carry all of the stress of others' expectations for you on your sholders....all you need to do is study, and perform to the best of your abilities. You're not in competition with your brother's performance; all you're competing against is your own efforts, and you can improve when you get control of your emotional responses to all that's going on. Focus on what's important...the material you're attempting to grasp. Everything else is a secondary concern. Good luck and Happy New Year.

Answer 3

Hi hon,First of all you should not feel ashamed.Plus I am sure your mother understands.See people deal with death certain ways to get through it.You brother is the type that drives into his work or studies so not to think of what has happen.You on the other hand deal with it a different way.You probably think alot about your father and it is hard for you to concentrate. Both of these ways are normal. You do whatever you do to get through the awful sad times that you have in life. I am very sorry for your dads death.I know because mine has passed too. It was one of the most difficult times of my life.So give yourself a break and look forward to next year.I am sure you will do great. Good luck.