Family & Relationships - 1 November 2007

My back ground: I had an affair after 24 years of marriage and my then 11 year old caught me and informed his father!

I married the man I was having the affair with after my 1st husband divorced me!
nearly 3 years later my 2nd marriage is in final stages of divorce and to this day my son wont even talk to me, visit me, send all the letter, or presents I mail him back to me!
As stated above I have no contact with my son because my Ex. got full custody and my son wont accept what I did and calls me horrible names!

I'm 51 now and sadly have nothing in my life worth having so in my case yes I did put to much value in SEX and paid the price!
I learned that lesson and lost everything!

My question to you is this; DO we place to much VALUE on SEX in our society instead of looking at other things that offer us more full lives?

I SAY YES, what do you say?
Please, Please learn from my mistakes it difficult to live with the sham of destroying your childs trust in you.

2007-11-01 11:54:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i dont like this girl but she looks really good and shes thik and i be lookin at her and shell look at me and but wen eva we see eachother well turn away but she keeps doin it every day .i think if she didnt like me then she wouldnt be glancing at me cus i sure woudnt look at some girl that liked me but i knew i would never like and didnt even want to be friends with her

2007-11-01 11:53:50 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hi My wife and I have been married for 6 months. Before the marriage we been having issues. I migrated to a new country and we were apart for 1 year. She then came to the country and we got married in april 2007 and our marriage has been a nightmare. I thought she was the one for me but then after a couple months we started to have serious problems...well they were always there but I thought I could work it out. I ended up in the hospital this past week for mental health issues. As it turned out I was angry at my wife and my marriage, and started having OCD symptoms I was really scared and still am. She is a christian and so am I but she doesn't make me happy anymore. I think about college, my church, and having children and I don't see it happening at all. My mother warned me before but thought I was right, I thought she was perfect but her personality is not compatible with me at all! She doesn't know how to make jokes and I feel like she is a sponge that just listens to me all day long and acts only, she doesn't respond spontaneously, everything has to be planned out for her..everything! We were both born september, she was born on the 16th and I was born on the 1st she love sex but that's not all. My family has a problem with her they think she doesn't fit in and she feels that way too. I have negotiated a lot, now I am exhausted, she still thinks we can work..I am 23 and she is 26 is it worth it?

2007-11-01 11:53:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

The guy is 15 and very sweet

2007-11-01 11:53:36 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Me and her were supposed to hang out Saturday but I have to go to a function where some of my relatives are gathering at. My parents are forcing me to go.

What can I do to make it up to my girlfriend?

2007-11-01 11:51:29 · 36 answers · asked by holybasse 1 in Singles & Dating

As people age, they become more interested in their own sexual satisfaction as apposed to their partner's?

2007-11-01 11:47:19 · 8 answers · asked by happy b 1 in Singles & Dating

I couldn't stand to talk to her for about 8 months and then out of the blue, she called. We went to see her and everything. You know, BIG reunion and all that crap. Well she said she would call at least weekly and I've haven't heard from her in about a year! I've called her and txted her and she won't answer. I've tried to forgive, I've even shut her out of my life for about a year, I've done all I can think of doing.. I've emailed her AND sent her letters. What should I do. Every time I think about her, I cry. HELP!!! I need some advice. Thanks... :-(

2007-11-01 11:43:48 · 26 answers · asked by **kayraa(: 2 in Family

I just got married and am trying to adjust to the married life.Sometimes its hard to get along (of course) with each other and just everything from day to day.Dose anyone have any advice for me or something they have found to be helpfull?By the way I got married when I was 18 my hubby is19. Thanks

2007-11-01 11:41:37 · 10 answers · asked by newlywed 4 in Weddings

2007-11-01 11:41:27 · 6 answers · asked by Hilstir 2 in Singles & Dating

ok so here's the deal i had this pretty cool bf he was nice but we were rlly good friends too!so it worked out pretty good.( hes blonde with green eyes hes rlly adorable!) The only problem was he didnt ever have time to hang out!!!!so we broke up.Well now he still likes me like ALOT and i still love him and he wants to get back toegether this weekend but theres this other boy that i sorta like ( dark black hair bark eyes SOOO CUTE lol) and he likes me but he also likes this other girl and he doesnt know if hes going to ask me out or not. We have plans to hang out this weekend. (we are also rlly good freinds)what if they both ask me out?? what should i do cause i like them both!!ALSO i sorta like being single =]

2007-11-01 11:41:16 · 20 answers · asked by Sabine L 1 in Singles & Dating

My parents went through a rough divorce recently that stretched out over a period of two years. I've lived off and on with my dad, with friends, in dorms, since I was 17 and I'm currently 19 and living with my mom. My mom has an extremely low life boyfriend with a criminal background. He drinks excessively and occasionally does drugs and continues to tear apart the only family I have left. He is also 9 years younger than my mother, but she loves him. He is the only person who makes her happy and she has devoted her life to him. It hurts because I wish she spent time trying to help me out in my life. I openly dislike my mothers boyfriend because I do not like they person he has turned my mother into. Because I've stood up for what I believe, it has become hard to live in the same house as my mother. My dad have disowned me almost entirely and has a new life and girlfriend he doesnt want me apart of. I'm really in a tough situation and I feel like I've run out of option. help?

2007-11-01 11:38:14 · 3 answers · asked by ga 2 in Family

ok i broke up with my boyfriend yesterday and it was cuz i thought him more as a friend not a boyfriend.... and i kinda regret it... and i think i was angry at some people and things were stressin me out so what do i do??

thanks!!

2007-11-01 11:37:43 · 3 answers · asked by Gone30 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-01 11:36:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-01 11:35:37 · 4 answers · asked by lll 1 in Family

what do you do when your alone. i just wanna knwo if people are really that sick and crap. tell me what you do when ur alone, if you know what i mean...

2007-11-01 11:33:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've been seeing this guy for 2 1/2 years. I've been sleeping wit him for a year now. The thing is, I'm so confused with him. I just don't know what he wants. Like, we're friends now cuz he says I nag too much. However, I went to see him for the weekend bout 3 weeks ago - I live an hour away. We had an amazing time, we cooked for each other, had a laugh, just everything seemed so perfect. During this time, he brought up marriage saying he might get married next year, I didn't respond to his comment. Anywayz, got home, he sent me a text saying "Hope ur day is gud, I had fun thanks for comin". Then a week and a half went by & he called me, he didn't have much of an excuse why he didn't call in that time period. But we're friends right?! friends who one of them talks about marriage and asks questions like "What would u say if I asked you to marry me?... This is why I'm so confused...what does the guy want?! is he playing me? I'm thinking that when he calls next, I should ask him straight?

2007-11-01 11:32:15 · 11 answers · asked by Nikita 1 in Singles & Dating

Hi, i received a Happy Halloween txt yesterday from a guy I went on 2nd date with, but i didn't respond to it b/c i wanted to play hard to get. So, now I have decided to respond to it. What should I say to him? it's obviously past halloween. or should i leave a msg on his facebook, saying "thx...i got ur txt" ??

2007-11-01 11:30:27 · 35 answers · asked by angelgirly777 1 in Singles & Dating

Like they need to mature and live life before they end up together...Has anyone seen it happen

2007-11-01 11:26:14 · 16 answers · asked by Melissa 1 in Singles & Dating

ok so i talk to this guy and i dont his name. anyways he seems interested in me but im not sure. what are signs that a guy is interested? when he talks to me i notice he looks me in the eye and he leans toward me. he always offered to buy me breakfast. is he being really nice or is he interested?

2007-11-01 11:25:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-01 11:25:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and i dont know if this is normal but im starting to feel like things are getting dull. Here's the scoop: my boyfriend never knew his dad and his whole life he's lived with his mom, little brother and grandma and his mom was the only sort of income they had, so needless to say they didn't have much money. At the begginning things were okay i accepted the fact that he didnt have much money and most of the time i offered to pay because if i didnt then we would be stuck at home or just doing nothing. now 2 years later he has a great job at the hilton making about just the same amount of money as i do but strangely im still paying for things such as our dinners movies etc. & whenever i bring this up he gets mad and defensive and he honestly expects me to pay. and also he smokes weed alot and ALWAYS has money to spend on that habit. I love him but i dont know what to do. I need help.

2007-11-01 11:24:04 · 12 answers · asked by daniellenlc 1 in Singles & Dating

his knees buckle when she passes by.....all he can think about is her...he'd do anything to make her happy. Do ladies feel the same way when they're in love with a guy?

2007-11-01 11:23:25 · 9 answers · asked by Marky Marc 3 in Singles & Dating

I haven't said a word to him since school started. He's only in one class of mine, spanish, He is good looking but not like all of those jerks that think they are really hot and too good for the rest of us girls. I catch him looking at me sometime. I want to start talking to him but I don't know how? What's a cute way to start talking to him and breaking the ice? He knows my name already. So i dont want to say hi my name is... lol help please. I'm 14 btw if that is needed.

2007-11-01 11:23:05 · 23 answers · asked by omgitstbaby 4 in Singles & Dating

im young, im in highschool and i think that havin a job at diz age might be good for me cuz i dont wanna spend my time at home watching tv, n being bored i have frendz n i love hangging out with them but i want to have money n not ask my parentz all the time pliz if u know about any job dat can allow underage work Pliz send me a message thanx

2007-11-01 11:23:05 · 19 answers · asked by H3Lp Pl!Zz 1 in Singles & Dating

O.K. so my bf is always talking about sex and we are only 15!
I dont want to be like those s t u p i d a s s girls who get knocked up before they are married!!!! But my bf is pressuring me into it!! Wat do i do??!

2007-11-01 11:22:40 · 1 answers · asked by Isabella S 2 in Singles & Dating

I want my boyfriend over on Saturday for dinner, but i have no idea what to cook! He isnt picky at all, please help me! Im bringing him home for the first time.

2007-11-01 11:21:56 · 17 answers · asked by Kelsey 1 in Singles & Dating

My brother had a gf and then made her his fiance. Well after thay were gonna get married she flipped and yelled at his kid for moving 4 little costers that were in a corner(all she did was lay them out in a pattern) well anyway he broke up with her because she called his kids crack heads. well then she called him and said the only reason our parens r still together is beacause we have alot of money(she only knows we have lots of it cause i go to a private school) then she called him a cuss word and just said HORRIBLE things. NOW THERE BACK TOGETHER!!! he's making a HUGE mistake!!! help everyone in the family thought the troubles were over till TODAY!!! its just horrible she treatened us too!! help advice plzz

2007-11-01 11:19:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

OK well yesterday it was my sister's birthday on halloween.So me,sis,cousin,friends and some male friends went to this Arabian resturant that was almost like a club cuz it had a bar and dance floor,etc(and it was also my first time going to a place like that)Anyways so we ordered food there then the DJ played some music so my friend started pulling and asking people to dance.Then my cousin started dancing and also the guys that went with us were REALLY NICE.

But now you know when guys and girls are going somewhere together that to if there meeting each other for the first time there is attraction there so some of the guys were looking at me and it was really fun too i didnt feel like going but juzz staying there all night long.But my question is...if your going to some place like that clubs,dance bars,etc will you get addicted to it?I mean will you want to go again and again?Cause now i feel like going there every night! : )

2007-11-01 11:17:40 · 12 answers · asked by BlossomMe 5 in Singles & Dating

He is hotttttttttttt

2007-11-01 11:17:27 · 44 answers · asked by ryan 2 in Singles & Dating

penis - c*ck? I just dont get it.

2007-11-01 11:17:26 · 1 answers · asked by Monica B 1 in Singles & Dating