Hi My wife and I have been married for 6 months. Before the marriage we been having issues. I migrated to a new country and we were apart for 1 year. She then came to the country and we got married in april 2007 and our marriage has been a nightmare. I thought she was the one for me but then after a couple months we started to have serious problems...well they were always there but I thought I could work it out. I ended up in the hospital this past week for mental health issues. As it turned out I was angry at my wife and my marriage, and started having OCD symptoms I was really scared and still am. She is a christian and so am I but she doesn't make me happy anymore. I think about college, my church, and having children and I don't see it happening at all. My mother warned me before but thought I was right, I thought she was perfect but her personality is not compatible with me at all! She doesn't know how to make jokes and I feel like she is a sponge that just listens to me all day long and acts only, she doesn't respond spontaneously, everything has to be planned out for her..everything! We were both born september, she was born on the 16th and I was born on the 1st she love sex but that's not all. My family has a problem with her they think she doesn't fit in and she feels that way too. I have negotiated a lot, now I am exhausted, she still thinks we can work..I am 23 and she is 26 is it worth it?
2007-11-01 11:53:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you need to tell your family to accept her, or they'll never see either of you again.
Do you have any idea what kind of stress that puts on somebody - to be in a different country and to feel like your spouse's family HATES you?
The poor girl can't win! And you should be standing up for her when all you're doing is whining. Take your OCD meds daily and make your wife your #1 priority, as she should be - then all your problems will disappear.
2007-11-01 12:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You did the crime so now do the time.
Please people. Read this story and accept the fact that whoever you marry will be the same person after the ceremony as before. You cannot change another person. The only person you can change is yourself.
Good luck to you Dre. You have some big decisions to make for yourself. Just know that she is not going to change. Can you live with her the way she is? That is the answer you are looking for.
2007-11-01 19:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have ended up in the hospital after six month, then I would suggest that you disolve this marriage before she "accidently" gets pregnant and your problems multiply. Next time marry someone that you love them the way they are...not thinking you're going to "fix" them.
Cut your losses quickly so it's less painful. Sorry, but not all marriages are made in heaven. Better to find out now then years and kids later. Be more careful next time!
2007-11-01 19:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by LAL 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this relationship is so bad that you have ended up in the hospital with emotional problems then you have your answer.
Life is too short to be miserable with your life mate. It is better to separate now than to hold out and she get pregnant and complicate the situation.
It will be the best for both of you because you deserve someone you can love and respect and spend your life with and she deserves the same.
Good Luck
2007-11-01 19:07:03 · answer #4 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief, get out of there. Don't have sex with her anymore or she may get pregnant to try to trap you. At 6 months you can probably just have the marriage annuled and don't have to go through a divorce, but GET ON IT NOW!
Jeez that's horrible, Im sorry you're going through that. DON'T GET HER PREGNANT, stay away from her that way!
2007-11-01 19:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame your OCD on your wife or marriage...it's YOUR problem. Your need for perfection will never be met by ANY woman. Do her a favor...write her a big check and divorce her. She will be far better off without you.
2007-11-01 19:04:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You both have to try before you just give up. Have a serious talk with her or try marriage counseling...... there is always way for both of you to try, then when you have given it all you got and things do not change then you can leave with a clear conscience.
2007-11-01 19:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by *AntA mAriA* 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
hun, if you're this miserable you need to move on. just b/c you're a christian doesn't mean you have to remain in the mess you made. know what i mean? she seems to be clinging on to something that's not even there...and sex can only carry you so far...i wish you all the best
blessings and luck to you and your future
2007-11-01 19:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by starting over 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋