I've been seeing this guy for 2 1/2 years. I've been sleeping wit him for a year now. The thing is, I'm so confused with him. I just don't know what he wants. Like, we're friends now cuz he says I nag too much. However, I went to see him for the weekend bout 3 weeks ago - I live an hour away. We had an amazing time, we cooked for each other, had a laugh, just everything seemed so perfect. During this time, he brought up marriage saying he might get married next year, I didn't respond to his comment. Anywayz, got home, he sent me a text saying "Hope ur day is gud, I had fun thanks for comin". Then a week and a half went by & he called me, he didn't have much of an excuse why he didn't call in that time period. But we're friends right?! friends who one of them talks about marriage and asks questions like "What would u say if I asked you to marry me?... This is why I'm so confused...what does the guy want?! is he playing me? I'm thinking that when he calls next, I should ask him straight?
2007-11-01 11:32:15 · 11 answers · asked by Nikita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OR should I just get on wit my life & let him call me occasionally so I start liking him again?! I love him, thats the thing!. If I do ask him straight, how should I do it?
I texted him just now saying "if ur in love wit someone then tell me and I'll be coll wit it, I just don't want to play guessing games no more"
2007-11-01 11:34:51 · update #1
He's 39, I'm 23
2007-11-01 11:38:43 · update #2
Yeah you should because it sounds like he is just using you. I mean, if he never mentioned it to you how can he just say that he is gonna get married next year??? and didn't imply or direct it to you. Stand your ground and ask him straight out.
2007-11-01 11:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by coby300 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to know why people play games, and wonder why their life is a mess. You are letting him play all the moves, and you are on the side line wondering when you are going to be able to get involved. Well, you can love someone, but not be right for each other. You should never have to be confused with how a person treats you, and how you feel when he does some of the things he does to you. You need to figure out if this is how you want to be treated for the rest of your life. If he did ask you to marry him, you would be treated the same way, not knowing what he wants or how to make it work so both of you are happy. Yes you could marry him, and make him happy, but what about you.
2007-11-01 18:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can ask him if he's playing you, but be prepared to be lied to. I say, when a person plays this many games they're probably not the right one for you. People who care about you show it.
You've been sleeping with this guy for a year and you still don't know where you stand with him. Of course you're being played. He even told you that the reason why you're friends is because you "nag" him?!! Ugh!
You can cook dinner, have laughs, and talk marriage to someone who actually knows what they want. Don't allow him to constantly disappoint you. Love is all about give and take. Don't end up being the only one who's giving.
Girl, straighten up that backbone and demand the respect you're entitled to!
2007-11-01 18:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by britters621532 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I know exactly how you feel. But i think that you should move on. Oh did you guys have sex when you were there last? If yes he may want his cake and eat it too. But really, you are a young girl who i think should move on. (i think i am going to take my own advice). It seems to me that he is playing games with your emotions. He knows exactly how you feel about him. I think that you should look deep in your soul/heart and you will know what to do. The hard part is accepting what you find out and making it happen. Good sweetie.
2007-11-01 18:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by yayohelpme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him straight.
i would guess that you are not responding to his "fishing" so he does not go any further.
he might be thinking of marrying you and wondering how you feel. he might think you see him as a friend and he does not want to mess up the great sex he is having by trying to take it further.
if he waited a year and a half before sleeping with you, which is like FOREVER in guy years, he likes you. he is not using you.
2007-11-01 18:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jr. is angry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he just wants a friends with benefits type relationship with you, and you obviously want more. If you can't handle this type of relationship, because it messes with your emotions or whatever, then tell him that. Tell him you need to be only just friends with no sex or you need to be in a relationship with him, but the current situation is hurting you. See what he says to that. One way or the other, the games need to stop!
2007-11-01 18:38:15 · answer #6 · answered by Eraserhead 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont play guessing games call him and ask him what he wants it seems he wants to marry u but u never gave ans. which made him feel bad or nervous .call him and talk in his face about his behaviour. dont worry what ever will happen will be for ur best
2007-11-01 18:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by sandeep j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop wondering and just ask him whats up with the weird questions, he is probably just making comments like these so he can get you to respond so he doesnt feel rejected.
2007-11-01 18:39:18 · answer #8 · answered by jen w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love you need to drop this guy he not good for u
u can do soo much better than him
2007-11-01 18:37:57 · answer #9 · answered by Jazzibel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh he's a romancer. He needs the elbow!!
2007-11-01 18:39:40 · answer #10 · answered by Sally Anne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋