Family & Relationships - 30 August 2007

I've been married for 18 years. We have five great kids, a nice house, stable income, etc. Yet, lately I've gotten the feeling that this is all about him. I've been so busy being super mom, staying up late bartending and then doing homework during the day all the way up until last year when our youngest entered kindergarten. Now I'm back at work, and I'm still doing all the sacrificing when it comes to schedules, chores, bills and errands. On top of this I have a serious health condition that could kill me with too much stress (neck surgery related). The kids have been great helping out, but the hubby...not so much. He just went and signed up for two football leagues again this fall and hasn't touched the laundry in weeks. I'm not the arguing type and I've enabled him in much of his behavior, but it's time to stop. I've asked for help, but he's taken the "as little as I can to get by" approach. Any suggestions?

2007-08-30 13:58:19 · 16 answers · asked by Hollynfaith 6 in Marriage & Divorce

In southern ohio there was an assistant principal that left her 2 year old in the car, behind the school during staff meetings for 8 hours in 100 degree weather. The child died, and they can't figure out weather to charge her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anyhow, just answer honestly, I am curious to see the responses I get on this one.


Do you ever leave your child alone in the car, even for a few minutes?

2007-08-30 13:58:10 · 12 answers · asked by Cassandra K 2 in Family

Dating this gurl for mnths and its serious quick! Played games like talking about kids and moving in. We have fun all the time and sleep together almost every day and love it!! But my gurl gets off on flirts by guys. Always checking out other guys when we're together. I've dumped girls for less. She looks great too. Yay or Nay?

Oh, but I look good and meet girls all the time. So toss her back?

2007-08-30 13:57:16 · 33 answers · asked by BEN C 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-30 13:55:58 · 21 answers · asked by the man 1 in Weddings

1. I was looking at this guy, and our eyes met, does this mean anything?
2. How do you act around people you like?

2007-08-30 13:55:24 · 31 answers · asked by ☼§♫STar_ShINe♫§☼ 3 in Singles & Dating

like when making out

2007-08-30 13:53:16 · 13 answers · asked by chillininCA 1 in Singles & Dating

Like for me maybe, she would need to be young, skinny, white, maybe blonde. So are you up to the task?

2007-08-30 13:51:51 · 6 answers · asked by Gustav 5 in Weddings

Christian names such and John and Willam and Mary and Donna. Instead it was names like Keyshawn and LaToya. Why do you think this happened? I'm not upset by it but it seems to me thats its kind of a way of saying I don't want to be included in your society if I'm reading it correctly. When I hear these names on tv I shake my head. What do you think?

2007-08-30 13:51:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

After being married for 5 years, together 7, I must admit that I've lost that loving feeling a few months after marrying my husband. He said some mean things to me and ever since then the love I had slipped away little by little. We have different interests; I like the outdoors and I'm an active person, but he would rather play World of Warcraft all day long. When I ask him to do something with me such as hiking or canoeing, he would get all upset and we get into the biggest fights. I can't see myself playing WoW all day or even for just an hour a week either.

That's not the only problem. I just don't have any attraction towards my husband anymore, but I would hate to be labeled as a divorcee. I'm only 30, should I walk out now if I'm not happy?

2007-08-30 13:51:47 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I found out that my "boyfriend" was trying to e-mail an escort on his boys weekend in Vegas...add to that the fact that he was e-mailing women on Myspace last year but took it down when he realized I knew about it (he never said anything). He now has another account but hasn't put up a picture nor has he e-mailed anyone. I think he's keeping tabs on one particular person he seemed enamored with before and I am more than fed up with his behavior. I love him completely but truly love myself more. How do I get out of this destructive relationship before it's too late. Emotionally I'm done but, for the very first time in my life, I lack the courage to just walk away.

2007-08-30 13:50:33 · 4 answers · asked by Sam's Golden Lovin Mom 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-30 13:44:16 · 7 answers · asked by 3dgrocks64 1 in Family

A good friend of mine has just had her best friend admit that she is in love with her. She already has a boyfriend and isn't interested in being with girls. And even though she still wants to be good friends with her, it is now really odd for my friend to hang out with her. She doesn't know how to react or what and if she can do anything about. She wouldn't ask the question so I'm asking it for her. Does anyone have an idea of what she should do?

2007-08-30 13:44:13 · 9 answers · asked by Kait 2 in Friends

i met this girl recently in my calc chem and phys classes and we got to know each other pretty well over the last few days. we have tons in common and many diferences that we both like and respect about one another. we talk endlessly about anything and everything which is fun and have acctually talked for hours on end which is also very fun. i offered her a ride home today and she agreed after my insisting it wasnt a trouble. when we got there she told me she wanted to show me her house and introduce me to her folks who seemed to have heard a bit about me and we ended up again talking for a good while before i had to leave o and can someone tell me why when we say bye its a little awkward..............anyhow like the question says.....

2007-08-30 13:42:51 · 7 answers · asked by nascarfan 2 in Singles & Dating

2 yrs ago i found out my dad was cheating with the worlds biggest cougar (aka; old, think theyre hot, mainly talented in bed, rude, all about $$$). a year later he died and i dont see "her" anymore but im still mad pissed about her in general like i just wanna put her in her place. Can anyone relate??

2007-08-30 13:42:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

have a friend who is with a married man and has been for over a year. The guy claims that he is going to leave his wife however about 2 month's ago he bought a house and truck with his WIFE. I keep telling her that he will never leave her because he has to much to lose. About a week ago this same guy hit on and tried to take things further I 1st and foremost told him no because he is married and my bff is his girlfriend also. So what my question is......Is this guy really in love with my friend for is he just using her for sex? Can he really love her and go home to his wife everynight and then hit on me?

2007-08-30 13:39:16 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I just started going out with this guy to make my recent ex bf jealous because i see him hanging around the school with ex best friend all the time. i'm not sure if their going out or not but it really pisses me off seeing them together, i guess i still have hope of us getting back together after all we were together for almost 3 years. anyways i decided to stop looking like a hurt fool in love everytime he ignored me and everytime i seen him with my ex best friend.

so i went out a date with this cute guy from my math class. we went to the movies, i profusely made sure went to the movie theater my ex bf works at. the guy was really nice throughout the date then as we were leaving the movie theater we ran into my ex bf(he looked really cute in his uniform). So i quickly pulled the guy i was with close and made out with him. (he was a really bad kisser) then when i pulled away from him i watch happily as my ex bf walked off mad. th

then when i got in the car with the guy i was with he almost attacked me for a kiss and maybe something else… So I slapped him in his face and scream NO!!! oddly he just smiled then started driving (which scared me) so I text friend telling her I was going to call her and for her to stay on the phone with me because I didn’t feel safe. So I called her and stayed on the phone with her until he drove me home, and he left. That night he text he about 10 (I’m sorry) and the 11th text was one of him telling me about how he wanted to tie me up and do things to me. which was a kind of scary seeing as it was only one day.
Then today I was talking with a group of friends in launch then he just came up from behind me and gave me a hug from behind. Like we were bf and gf all of sudden. I was about to tell him off but my ex bf was sitting a two tables up with my ex best friend. So I played it off for the for the day

Now here’s the question should I continue on with this guys since he is effectively making my bf jealous even though he’s creeping me out?

2007-08-30 13:38:11 · 15 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

My ex broke up with me about a month ago. Actually we came to a mutual agreement to give the relationship a temporary break. We were together for about four years. She said she wanted to breakup because she's wasn't happy,but I wanted to breakup for personal reason. She said she love's me but then she goes on and says she needs space. I get the feeling she doesn't want to be with me anymore, although she did buy me some colonge for my birthday a couple of weeks ago. I'ts like she sending mixed signals. what should i do?

2007-08-30 13:33:55 · 2 answers · asked by atboney 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

So I just got a boyfriend now...with one of my friends. And now he's showing me a bit of his immature side that i've never seen before. Like...smelling farts or whatever it is sort of thing. He's a really sweet guy though, romantic...telling me i'm his one and only angel and such. So wanderful. And...I thought I would mind the immaturity but I don't...but at the same time I do. Are all guys naturally immature? how do you deal with it?

And like he'll make these random fart noises....so far that i've known him it's really rare though when he does it. But a few times i'm just like.....woah...didn't see that little immature side coming.

2007-08-30 13:30:01 · 1 answers · asked by SweetCocoaAngel 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

im 15 & i usually call my grandma every few days. everytime i called, no answer. she is busy & hanging out with friends. i sit by the phone everyday for her to call. she doesnt call. i feel like my life is being wasted. everyday is wasted cuz she doesnt call. so now i havent called her for ten days. i never go that long without calling her. i dont want to be needy. i want her to call me for once. do you think she is wondering why i havent called? i usually call more than every ten days. now im crying right now cuz i miss her. i want her to come to me. now im stuck here waiting for something that will never happen.

2007-08-30 13:29:23 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-08-30 13:29:20 · 2 answers · asked by Haroldian 2 in Weddings

My ex always looks at me and then I look at him and we both look away. I still like him...alot! Sometimes he laughs when we look at eachother. I'm wondering if he likes me...and also if I should tell him how I feel. HELP!!

2007-08-30 13:29:14 · 1 answers · asked by Niki 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband was extremely verbally abusive, mentally abusive, and sometimes physically abusive. I am a pretty 5'8 125 pounds latina woman and today I asked him for a divorce because I found condoms in his shoes and that was the last of what I am willing to accept. Although, I am not looking for another relationship I am wondering if what he said is true. He said that no guy out there is going to want me because I am 37 years old and been married twice. Is this true? First marriage we were both too young. I don't have any children. Yes, my husband has done a lot of damage, but will I be labeled the scarlett letter? Be honest if my husband is right about no one ever wanting me.

2007-08-30 13:22:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

If your just going to answer without reading the quesiton and answer "say hi how are you" then don't answer.

I'm in 10th grade and I just moved to a new school district. School doesn't start until the 6th of September, but since I do X-Country I have to go to practice which started on the 13th of August. Anyway our X-Country practices in the track most of the time. On the other side of the track the cheerleaders practice there. Well when we usaully run around on the track we pass by them everytime. There is this one girl that I think I have a crush on, but I don't know how to start anything. No one on the X-Country team knows who she is except for that shes in 9th grade. I want to try and get something started before school starts, because once it does I won't have a chance (9th grade is a seperate building for 10-12).

I want to go up to her and just start talking, but that kind of seems weird but I don't know any other way.

2007-08-30 13:21:26 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am very extremely curious about this! What kind woman or girl is she? To go out with a Married Man, either for sexual fun [OR] just plain dating only!! I don't get it! But!!! Since my wife DOES NOT like to go out with me DANCING, SHOOTING SOME POOL, CLUBBING, RIDING THE KAMIKAZE CARNIVAL RIDES, DRINKING, BAR HOPPING, TO THE MOVIES, BOWLING, HIKING, ROCK CLIMBING, PARACHUTING, Big Parties, Halloween Costume Parties, New Years Parties, etc,etc. [One of each, at least once a year] I wouldn't mind dating a much super high energy woman/girl-someone who can keep up with me at times. I am NOT a grumpy, old fashion, old gizzard, old fart, couch potato, at home tiresome man. I am 40 and I still enjoy having super blasting good good times more than a 18 yr old teenager guy.

2007-08-30 13:20:06 · 19 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-30 13:19:29 · 31 answers · asked by Gabs2Much 2 in Singles & Dating

So I just got a boyfriend now...with one of my friends. And now he's showing me a bit of his immature side that i've never seen before. Like...smelling farts or whatever it is sort of thing. He's a really sweet guy though, romantic...telling me i'm his one and only angel and such. So wanderful. And...I thought I would mind the immaturity but I don't...but at the same time I do. Are all guys naturally immature? how do you deal with it?

2007-08-30 13:18:51 · 7 answers · asked by SweetCocoaAngel 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-30 13:18:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

We were both 22 he was a virgin I had two children already, he is from Africa but been here since he was 6, no one in his family attended our wedding because they were under the influence that are marriage was fake, his sister ,his mom and brother ,uncles all act so nice to me in person but talk so bad about me behind my back. In the beginning of our relationship I even caught my husband numerous times the first three years of our marriage talking down about me to his family and friends. We now have two kids together ourselves, I am depressed because I don't feel he loves me sometimes though he says he just doesn't know how to express his feelings. When I tell him I am sad and thinking of leaving he tells me he has more things to be sad about, he tell me his parents and family talk down to him because of me, and he feels like its us against them, he tells me he is sorry for talking about me to them in the beggining of our marriage that it was a mistake, should I TRUST HIM?

2007-08-30 13:18:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I of 6 years cannot seem to agree on what kind of house to look for. I want to live on a hobby farm without neighbors/farther from town and he is wanting to live closer to town with a smaller "hobby farm". When we look at real estate listings we have very different opinions on what we each think is a good place. He doesn't like my decorating style either, which to me seems so trivial. How can we get past this roadblock and agree on a house together?

2007-08-30 13:17:54 · 7 answers · asked by summer98 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-30 13:15:46 · 7 answers · asked by rippedec11 1 in Friends