Dating this gurl for mnths and its serious quick! Played games like talking about kids and moving in. We have fun all the time and sleep together almost every day and love it!! But my gurl gets off on flirts by guys. Always checking out other guys when we're together. I've dumped girls for less. She looks great too. Yay or Nay?
Oh, but I look good and meet girls all the time. So toss her back?
2007-08-30 13:57:16 · 33 answers · asked by BEN C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I haven't flirted with ne1 since her. Not even a move!!!
2007-08-30 14:01:50 · update #1
Nay, dude. Any girl that gets off by flirting with other guys or checking them out is NOT for you. Not saying she's a horrible girl, just not the girl for you. Why? Because at the first sign of trouble, you're going to think she's off flirting with other guys. You're already expressing concern which will lead to insecurity (insecurity is a two way street by the way; a guy/girl can't feel insecure unless the girlfriend/boyfriend is contributing to that in some way most of the time).
Drop her like a bad habit. She wants to be single but doesn't want to be alone. I see this all the time. There are many great looking girls that will only have eyes for you. Trust me on this one, I've seen this way too many times. Do yourself a favor a move on. Trust me.
2007-08-30 14:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by Eddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you. Is it worth it all? If you don't like the flirting with the other guys then you HAVE to talk to her about it. Tell her how it makes you feel. Lay off on the sex some and make sure it's not completely a physical relationship. Do you guys resort to sex because there isn't anything else to do? Take your time on marriage and babies... You have plenty of time for that. You have to be 100% sure before you take that next step.
2007-08-30 14:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is your choice. I have been in a relationship for 10 years and I still enjoyed to be flirted with very much. I also have guy friends who I am very close with. They still come and stay and hang out. But I have never crossed that line and that is what is difference. If you feel like you can trust this girl then the choose is wether or not you can live with it.
2007-08-30 14:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by April F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting and cheating with other guys are two different things. Excessive flirting can be a sign of cheating, but if it's in front of you it might be to make you jealous.
I catch my guy checking out girls every so often. He hasn't cheated or left me yet(Been together for 2 & 1/2 years).
When you catch he checking a guy out or flirting confront her. Don't be agressive, but play it cool. "I'm not good enough to look at" "I'm not giving you enough attention. She how she re-acts.
If you really feel unsure then dump her.
2007-08-30 14:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by misstsukino 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how do you feel about her? If you really like her then no, really. Have you talked about it? You know, I think it's alright to maybe flirt with other people. My boyfriend showed me this article about how it's alright and good for the relationship. It makes her feel confident and good. She brings that back home to you everyday. Does she cheat on you? That's something different, but still. If you haven't, talk to her. If it's harmless flirting, then let it be maybe. Perhaps it does get you jealous, but she still goes home to you each day right?
2007-08-30 14:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by Jade. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a matter whether if you really have the heart to love her... there's a saying, that which you sow you also reap... maybe its becos you're always looking out or gets girls easy, which is why she's doing the same?? :P
Well if you're not really serious about this and only enjoys the fun times and sleeping together... it'll pass quite soon... so either ways its gonna end.. so choose your time. :)
2007-08-30 14:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by BeatenLonely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to ask yourself if you want to be exclusive or not. Then you have to let her know. If you do, then at least give her a chance to make a go of it. Maybe she doesn't know you want to be exclusive and she's keeping her options open. Just talk to her about it and find out where she stands too. You both may want more from each other but don't know it yet since neither one of you has talked about it.
2007-08-30 14:03:18 · answer #7 · answered by Butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she feel the same about you? Obviously not, I've learned a zebra does not change their stripes, you are going to have to decide if you can live with her the way she is. She is probably a social butterfly and this is probably what attracted you to her in the first place. Decide what you value in a partner, then move in that direction.
2007-08-30 14:14:33 · answer #8 · answered by shes_marie77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like neither one of you are ready to be serious yet. Your still playing games. Back off, spend some time away from each other, then see how you feel. And I am talking about how your heart feels, not your body.
2007-08-30 14:01:30 · answer #9 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...I say don't get rid of her just yet. talk to her first. and do you love her..I'm ussuming not. but anyways talk to her first. say honey theres somthing thats been bothering me. if were talking about living together and having kids you need to stop flirting with guys. your with me now. say how would you like it if I flirted with girls all the time like you do with guys. I can'y be with you if your going to be like this, I love you. (or If you don't love her don't say that part.) but if you do love her this will be a great way to say it. she'll know you really mean it and she'll immidiatly stop. you wouldn't like it. and if she keeps it up then dump her. well I hope i've helped, good luck ♥
2007-08-30 14:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋