have a friend who is with a married man and has been for over a year. The guy claims that he is going to leave his wife however about 2 month's ago he bought a house and truck with his WIFE. I keep telling her that he will never leave her because he has to much to lose. About a week ago this same guy hit on and tried to take things further I 1st and foremost told him no because he is married and my bff is his girlfriend also. So what my question is......Is this guy really in love with my friend for is he just using her for sex? Can he really love her and go home to his wife everynight and then hit on me?
2007-08-30 13:39:16 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Could it be he knows I love her would never tell her anything about him hitting on me?
2007-08-30 13:39:57 · update #1
How is it at all possible for a grown woman to be so stupid.If he loved her he would leave his wife it's that simple.He is getting a little sex on the side that's all she is to him nothing more.Of coarse he tells her he loves her how else is he going to get her body.Tell your girlfriend to stop being used by this married man and start using her brains.
2007-08-30 14:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
So this guy has a wife, a mistess and now he wants another woman on the side. Does he love his wife or your friend, his mistress? What do you think? He certainly loves himself more than anyone else.
Loving your friend means that you need to come clean and tell her what is going on with her married boyfriend. You may not be the only women he is coming onto in addition to having a wife and mistress already. Clearly, he has no scruples and is is most likely cheating on all his women. Your friend could be in danger of not only a heartbreak when she finds out how empty his promises are, but she could also be in danger of STDs. Perhaps you can ask her why she would want a man who has an affair behind his wife's back and then tries to come on to you behind her back. Does she really think that he would be faithful to her even if he did divorce and marry her?
2007-08-30 13:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by jules 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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have a friend who is with a married man and has been for over a year. The guy claims that he is going to leave his wife however about 2 month's ago he bought a house and truck with his WIFE. I keep telling her that he will never leave her because he has to much to lose. About a week ago this...
2015-08-23 07:56:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, TELL YOUR FRIEND! She needs to know. If she finds out later that you kept this from her, then she will feel betrayed by your cover up also. Kind of a no win situation, but she is already in a horrible place.
If this man wanted to leave his wife, he would have done it already. He tells her he is wanting to leave, but 'can't' to keep her hanging on. If he was thinking of leaving, then he wouldn't have bought that house.
To make himself look better, he will villianize his wife. Poor guy, he is ' so unhappy', yeah sure, then why stay?!? He isn't staying with his wife because of what he will lose financially, he is staying because he wants to!
He is lying to his wife over and over. Why to then the other women believe that he will not lie to them?
Your friend is being forced into playing second best to his wife. She has to wait around for his scraps of time. She keeps his secrets and believes his lies. He goes home and crawls in bed with his wife after he leaves her. Don't believe for a second that he isn't sleeping with his wife also. Any difficulty he might have in leaving his wife would be settled soon enough in court, so don't believe the "I can't" excuse.
Your friend needs to draw the line and if she expects him to leave his wife, then give him a limited time frame to start the process or she is gone. Stop just being his booty call until he leaves his wife. She will find out soon enough what she means to him.
Your friend deserves better than this. Have her seek some counseling to why she allows herself to be treated this way. Encourage her to get STD testing, some cheating men will have multiple women on the side. Since he hit on you also, he might just be a serial cheater.
2007-08-30 14:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by joyh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible to be in love with two or more people at once, but it is not culturally acceptable and this is why you get responses like, "No and he won't leave his wife." While it's true he probably won't leave his wife and a man who does leave his wife for his mistress isn't trustworthy, he could very well love her, but that doesn't mean he needs or should be with her and without his wife.
It's more likely your friend is using him and loves it and he the same, not just for sex, but for emotional and psychological needs as well.
2007-08-30 14:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well what kind of friend are you to lie and not tell her he hit on you in the 1st place? , truth hurt's but her love for you will last longer then her lust for the 1 she know's deep down she cant and will never have.
You answered your own question , he is cheating on his wife , but bought a house and a truck with his wife , he hit on you , this man has NO idea what love is and all your girl friend is , just sex and lust to him thats all she ever will be.
be a true friend and tell her what he did and when then have him stand in front of you both and repeat your accusation , he'll lie and abuse you but if you truely care for your girl you'll do it , she knows him or claims to know him she'll realise he's lying and probably end it quicker with him so she can move on.Although I can bet she knew he was married when she got with him so quite frankly , she deserves the pain that is coming.
Takes 2 to tango and neither he or she is innocent in this little game of lies.
2007-08-30 13:49:58 · answer #6 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This guy is 100% asshole. 2 women ? You can tell right away that he's not serious if he hits on you too. It is possible for married men to lose affection with his wife to someone else but not do anything about it in case it'd ruin him, but in this case, doesn't sound like it, especially if he's making broken promises to your friends (not truthful at all) and isn't telling her everything (like buying the house and truck) AND majorly hitting on you, he's an asshole, and you should let him know that. And his wife should too !
2007-08-30 13:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by Cyndee 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
1. He IS NOT going to leave his wife he has too much to
loose you said it yourself.
2. He is having his cake and eating it too, two(you).
3. If the (2) two possibly (3) three of you are comfortable with
the situation, he certainly is! I'm sure his wife does not
know about you or maybe she does. Weird.
2007-08-30 14:06:55 · answer #8 · answered by Titus12 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you honestly have to ask that question? He doesn't even know what Love means!
There is no way that loser is in love with his wife or your friend. He is just playing those woman for complete fools whenever he wants to get laid.
If he loved his wife, he would never need to go have sex with some stupid broad that is letting him use her like a piece of meat.
Woman today are letting men treat them with such disrespect. No man could ever use me for a good time. My husband had to work really hard to win my heart and when he did, that's when you make love. Making love is so much more excellent than sex with a married man. Tell your friend that she doesn't know what she's missing.
2007-08-30 14:03:10 · answer #9 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
He's a jerk! As long as he's getting what HE wants, he has no reason to change. She needs to get away from him. You can tell her about him hittin on you, however, she may not believe it and may not speak to you. Buying a house with his wife should show your friend how much he plans on staying with HER. He'll promise your friend whatever she wants to hear, but he has no intention of following through. I've seen too many women fall for it, wasting their time and sanity! (If you can record a private conversation with him or get pics, go for it...she needs a wake up call!) Good luck.
2007-08-30 14:01:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋