My husband was extremely verbally abusive, mentally abusive, and sometimes physically abusive. I am a pretty 5'8 125 pounds latina woman and today I asked him for a divorce because I found condoms in his shoes and that was the last of what I am willing to accept. Although, I am not looking for another relationship I am wondering if what he said is true. He said that no guy out there is going to want me because I am 37 years old and been married twice. Is this true? First marriage we were both too young. I don't have any children. Yes, my husband has done a lot of damage, but will I be labeled the scarlett letter? Be honest if my husband is right about no one ever wanting me.
2007-08-30 13:22:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband is wrong!
A 37 yr old latina cutie will have NO problem finding another guy! [Looking for a 33 yr old white guy?] ;)
As for the scarlet letter? That would be if YOU cheated!
2007-08-30 15:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Matt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A. Not true at all. B. 5 8 125 lbs latina woman. no kids... um sweetie you will have 0 trouble finding someone that will treat u good. And believe he knows that. C. condoms or not there is n o way at all u should be abused in a marriage. Get out now before he does u any more harm. Hes more worried about paying alimony than treating u like a lady. hope all goes well. p.s. alot of people have been married more than once your strong point is that u dont have any kids with him. guys dont care if u hve been married more than once just care if he can make u happy.
2007-08-30 14:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by robo3544 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all due respect, your question is a little bit irrelevant.
If your husband is verbally, mentally and physically abusive, the question you should be asking yourself is, "Do I want to stay?" (which you obviously do not since you asked for the divorce). It sounds to me that being on your own is much more preferable to staying with him, regardless of whether you meet someone new or not.
As for your question, I am 41 years old. Assuming that I was single and interested in meeting someone, 37 years old would be fine with me. Therefore, I would probably ask you out if I was interested in you. I'm sure at some point during the conversation, your two divorces would come out. While that would be a red flag to me, I would ask you more questions about the nature of the divorces. If I was satisfied with your answers (was too young the first time and husband was abusive the second time), I would probably be satisfied with those answers and continue to date you.
I wish you well.
2007-08-30 13:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 40 and about to married for the third time to the best man I've ever known. FIRST, you have to get yourself mentally healthy and then you will attract a good man. I went to therapy twice a week for two years before I even considered dating. Good luck and believe me the right man is out there for you, just take care of yourself first!!!
2007-08-31 03:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is full of it....Your are beautiful and would imagine that you would have no trouble finding the right guy one day. I was divorced from first husband. I am 5'7 122 lbs. I am also 41 years old....My husband is only 34...and we have a 8 month old baby girl. So don't believe you cheating *ss husband.
2007-08-30 13:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband is trying to control you...its an extension of your current pattern of abuse-Run, don't walk to the nearest battered women's shelter. You will need to heal spiritually and mentally before you venture forth and date. He's lying, and apparently from the condoms its not the only thing he's lying about.
2007-08-30 13:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by bikinibabewannabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! 5'8" tall and just 125 lbs. Latina! You sound sexy to me lady. If I wasn't married, I'd look you up! Are you HOT looking? I think Latinas are just naturally sexy looking, with their dark hair, exotic eyes, tan skin, I'm getting hot writing this.
2007-08-30 13:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by K M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to his BS. You aren't the one who was abusive and unfaithful. Consider what he has done. He has no credibility. He is just pissed because he got caught and wants revenge and in his limited capacity to be intelligent, cutting you down is all he has in his arsenal. You get out and try to spend the rest of your life happy and feeling safe. YOU GO GIRL!
2007-08-30 13:37:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is soooo wrong. Don't listen to him, he's just an insecure idiot trying to make you feel the same way. There are many people who are divorced once, twice, three times and they are all still worthwhile, wonderful individuals. Be happy, do what you need to do.
2007-08-30 13:31:36 · answer #9 · answered by girlielikesfun 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please get some counseling so you can free yourself from the lies and control your husband has over you. You are a beautiful woman who deserves a man that will treat you like a woman.
You will not be attracted to that man until you heal your low self esteem issues.
Good luck. I will pray for you.
2007-08-30 13:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋