Family & Relationships - 26 August 2007

You have around a 50% chance, that the ‘woman of your dreams’ will get bored, find someone better, blame you for everything, and divorce you. Then, as an added bonus, you get ***-raped by a family court, which is hostile toward men. When that's over, you have the pleasure of living a life of financial and emotional ruin. Where's the incentive?

2007-08-26 08:34:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i like this guy i met at a frat party a couple of weeks ago. the feeling is mutual but last week he told me his ex said she wanted to get back together with him but he wants to try and figure it out. i've been trying to give him his space about the thing but it's been a week....he should have some kind of consencus. it's not that i'm not keeping my options open but it's that out of all the guys i hang out with, i like him the most. we're supposed to see each other today so should i ask him what's up or keep quiet about it?

2007-08-26 08:32:20 · 16 answers · asked by thebodyelectric! 1 in Singles & Dating

I asked my husband if he would marry me all over again, and he said "probably not". I asked him why not. He said because he didn't get married to be alone most of the time.
I couldn't believe my ears. We do nearly everything together.
We are constantly travelling and going to events around the city and I rarely go out on my own. One problem he said is the matter of my health. I have had some health problems since we married but I try not to dwell on them. He is very unsympathetic. If I ever cry, it's "C'mon get over it!" We have been married nearly 5 years and I feel very unloved, but I am not ready to give up on our marriage. I think he would divorce me but for having to help me out. He is well off but watches his money closely.

2007-08-26 08:32:19 · 31 answers · asked by Lean on Me 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-26 08:30:46 · 17 answers · asked by NY Buzz 4 in Singles & Dating

my ex-wife and i have 3 children. my 6 year old son wants to live with me. we've been divorced for 2 years.

2007-08-26 08:27:30 · 15 answers · asked by devadevadasa 1 in Marriage & Divorce

a virgin over 30. (1)
pretty smells nice but doesn't have a bf (2)
is very shy (3)
is smarter than guys in general (4)
if you date her and she spoils you non stop (5)-not for anything special or to seek gratititude in return, she does it because she is sweet and nice, wants to show you are important, and she does it because that is who she is (6)
if the woman has more money than him (7)
if the woman doesnt know how to cook but can clean fiercely (8)
has a nice smile, carries herself well, guys and gals respect her and when she walks in a room she is treated like a respectful classy lady (9)
and (10) if she was very simple, maybe no make up, but was fashionable and had her own style of fondness, what would you think of her? who you ask this girl out? or would you admire her from afar? or would you think she had a bf and wouldnt even bother approaching or talking to her.
if you were interested, what would you say to this girl and what would you want her to say back to you? =)

2007-08-26 08:25:40 · 1 answers · asked by H20_Falls 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm 16,pregnant and the guy lives out of town?
I know,I should be ashamed of myself I have heard that a few times here and there.I don't need people to yell at me,I just need some advice. I am 16 yrs old,and met this kid who lives out of town it's only about 45 minutes away from where I am from.We both are 16 yrs old.We knew each other a little while before deciding to have sex.Actually I didn't post some of this info in my last question but we knew each other for about 2 yrs.We both were 14 when we first met.He lives with his grandfather and friend.He comes to my city every couple weeks and stays a few days with his friend.We had sex and I went to the doctor and I found out that I am 9wks .I told him about it on the phone and he said that I can move in with him.I like his friend and him a lot..Would that be legal if I am not 18 yet?

2007-08-26 08:23:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

It's an on going fight between the two of us, because he "pays the bills and does so much for me" so that he feels like if he decides to use a little bit of cocaine every once in a while its ok because he's "not a crackhead, and he still takes care of his family and does what he has to do for us". I totally disagree, I don't care how much he does for us, it still doesn't make it right for him to do that. He knows I hate it, and he knows that when he does it I feel like he's cheated on me, that's how bad it upsets me. He'll hide it from me thinking I won't find out and when I do, it always goes back to him saying "I don't appreciate anything that he does for me". Because of this, I will go out with friends and I don't even like to be with him on the weekends when he's able to be with me, because I just feel so disrespected by him and I have so much anger towards him because of past times when he has done it. Does anyone have a similar problem? If so, how do you deal with this? Thanks..

2007-08-26 08:14:21 · 26 answers · asked by Chrissy 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I can't stop thinking about him!! We had a great time, slow dancing, talking, flirting. Is there some rule about waiting to call? Do guys just ask for a phone number with no intention of calling?? We are adults here, early 50's in age. I don't want to play games, but don't want to look foolish either. What to do?

2007-08-26 08:13:25 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm talking about Eva Longoria/Christina Aguilera body type shapes?

2007-08-26 08:13:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

he's a great guy & all. he's such a sweet heart but sometimes i feel like he could be cheating? like i dk he's basically gorgeous looking & all the girls in his town seem to be after him so like i dk if he means what he says ? & i'm just kinda confuseedd? so someone plz help

2007-08-26 08:11:28 · 8 answers · asked by Janina 1 in Singles & Dating

i see my kids 3 days a week and i would like to have my twins over night one of those days each week but she seems to have a prob with that

2007-08-26 08:11:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Here's the situation. I'm mvoing to a new city for work and I'm looking for ways to meet new people. I don't like going to the bars except to play volleyball, which I've already found a team.

2007-08-26 08:10:06 · 3 answers · asked by ffjim73 1 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend get's mad if i dont answer my phone on the frist ring like yesterday i had his car all day and he called me and i forgot my phone in the car. so of couse i couldnt answer the phone and he got mad and was yelling at me like "what was you doin bring me my car back " and all i was doin was puttin my grandfather's grocery's up stair's in his house . sooo why do he get mad when i cant answer his phone call right away?

2007-08-26 08:09:02 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i am in love with a man i never met, we are both mature adults and grandparants, we have been around the block. we have been corresponding 8 months, he is very honest, we are both married. i am an abused negleted wife, but always put off leaving him the marraige councelor agreed there is no hope in my marraige, she met him he did not want to continue with counceling. the man i am writing to is accross the country, we have no future plans to meet yet. we speak on the phone several times a week, we exchanged photos, he is seven years older than me and has health problems. he is honest and upfront with me about his home situation, his wife is ill. i am madly in love with him, and i am sure he feels the same, at our age, we have nothing to hide. i want happiness and he wants a partner to share his love and affection with. he would like me to move where he lives, but i do not want to leave my grandchildren and family behind. i am stuck, do not know how to manage this. thanks for your help,

2007-08-26 08:08:44 · 11 answers · asked by smart girl 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Men, i would like to know what do you perfer a skinny women or thick women?? Be honest

2007-08-26 08:07:51 · 3 answers · asked by Angie 1 in Singles & Dating

i have been on here so many times cause of problems with my husband. we are moving this week back to family,2000 miles away. anways my husband invited some of his friends over last night to party cause were going to be moving. anyways his brother called after he got done at the bar around 2 and said im having a party at my place. we agreed that we wouldnt go anywhere with uout each other to partys and bars.anyways him and his friends left and he had me stay here cause we have alittle girl who was sleeping. i was crying so hard cause by that time it was 330am, way to late for a husband to go out. one guy stayed that i knew, he is a really nice guy and was supporting me cause he knew i was crying and knew it wasnt right that he left. i asked him if i could go over there and be back in 20 min cause i wasnt sure if i could trust him(i have cought him on single sites and telling girls to take off there tops,porn,ALWAYS lie where he is at and i have to here it from other people, doesnt....

2007-08-26 08:06:08 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

what do guys really want from a girl? what things do you like from the way she looks to the way she dresses..to her goals and her personallity? what do you want out of a relationship? etc etc..what are some turn ons and turn offs?

2007-08-26 08:05:21 · 2 answers · asked by Fit 4 A King 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

The four letter word no one can live with out

She sits in the corner of her room. Thinking of ways to die. She is to scared to kill her self. Expessally over this one guy. Instead of takeing it out on others. She finds a diffrent way. She begins to slit her wrist. Slowly and Painfully it begins to bleed. Wheres a guy when you want one in your time of need. Someone to tell you they love you and complement your every move. Haveing those two hour confersations hopeing you will never have to say good bye. At least not for to long because you might die.

She thinks to her self as she sits on the ground whats one person out of this whole world what would happen without little ol me.

She notices that there is blood on her pants and runing down her arm on to the ground. She tries to find a rag but there none to be found. She is looseing to much blood shes losseing control. She accedenlt cut to deep and got the vain. This had never happend before she didnt know what to do. She knew she was going to die So she desides write one last note like a final goodbye.

" To that one special guy I loved,

I dont know what I did to you to make you stop loveing me. I shoufnt have been so pushy should have let you be in control. I really did love you I thought you did to but I guess I was wrong. Maybe just maybe there is a chance I might live its a 1 in a million but theres still a chance.

Do you remeber what I wrote on that one note?"

I wrote "I love you so much and I dont know why. I just cant tell what it is it your laugh,smile, or big blue eyes? Or maybe your personality or big heart I reall dont know? But... I am certan of one thing if i lost you i would cry and if you stoped loveing me i would most certainly die.

Thats when it hit her! The escrusiating pain! Silent tears ran down her cheeks

As she blocked out her bad thoughts and thought of the good times she was with that one guy.

Right then she heard a far away noise she opend her eyes a little and saw his faint face. He saw the knife and called the ambulance. He knew that they wouldnt get there in time and it would be to late. He knew there was nothing he could do so he knelt down on his knees and held her in his arms as he read the note before he could finish he felt her body grew heavie and she closed her eyes. She whisperd softly

"I LOVE YOU AND GOODBYE"

2007-08-26 08:04:34 · 4 answers · asked by scoolnerd1111 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

my cousin [hes 23] was watchin tv and my little brother kept annoying him and messing around. even i said to my cosin to slap him one cos he was messing around. but something snapped in him anhd he picked him from his hands and literally flung him downwards...with force...and my brother fell face first onto the carpet...i heard the thud i was there. this worries me even though my cousin has never ever done such a thing before, hes also never shown such anger or force with anyone. i cant beleive what i saw. i was shocked. im not sure if im exaggerating cos hes my little brother or not. but this is what i saw.my cousin is normally and everyone says so , of a mild nature....im surprised cos my brother didnt deserve that.
since, he hasnmt said a word [ the cusin that is] this happned last night, he hasnt spoken to me.i dnt want to talk to him so pls dont tell me to.


thankyou

2007-08-26 08:03:57 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I am thinking about getting married on the beach of Lake Michigan. Either in Chicago, IL; Michigan City, IN; Holland, MI; or Grand Haven, MI... Does anyone know any good reception sites that would be close? I want a sunset wedding and an evening reception in May... but there isn't a date set yet, I just want lilacs so it would have to be around Mother's day for the flowers to be in bloom. I was thinking it would be really cold still on the beach and windy in May. Has anyone had experience with weddings on Lake Michigan in any of these areas? I would like to know what kind of rules there are for the ceremony. The reception would be at a different location near the beach, but inside because it will definitely be too cold to be outside at night in May. Thanks!

2007-08-26 08:03:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

If,after my wife left me over two months ago,and i had access to her e-mails should i wipe off the hundreds i sent her and she still has after she`s told me to wipe hers off or what? is this a game cause it`s destroying me as i still love her and always hope for that day she may come back.we live in a small town with very little to do,she goes to work and i still work on building the house.
should i just let it all go and go back to the UK...yuk!

2007-08-26 08:00:44 · 6 answers · asked by steve 2 in Marriage & Divorce

his name is brian.
the point is i like him. i really like him. i like him so much and i know we would be good for eachother. his family is friends with mine (he has two older sisters) we all get along real well, it wouldnt be akward with the whole "meet the family situation." its perfect right?

well here is the thing...
he has never been in a relationship before.
he is kinda shy and unexpierenced when it comes to girls.
so this summer i decided to go ahead and hang out with him a lot more, really get to know him and hang out ALONE. our friendship has finally reached the point where it is causal and we are comterable with eachother.
ive heard he likes me from several sources, but even though it was good to hear i am not completely convinced.
he told his best friend that he just didnt know is he was ready to be in a relationship?
so im stuck. what should i do? how can i change his mind?
i mean i know he is scared but so am i, i just want to find a way this can work!

2007-08-26 07:58:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok!! Debate in my household...

We know its tradition for the groom not to view the bride on the day of the wedding... I've noticed on a lot of bridal shows on TV, that a LOT of people completely disreguard this tradition lately. I *the bride* think its bad luck for the groom to see the bride on the wedding day. He *the groom* thinks its a bunch of "horse poo".

How do you feel about the tradition, personally?

2007-08-26 07:58:31 · 27 answers · asked by loki_only1 6 in Weddings

I kinda know what she wants but I dont want to make a mistake because this is a long term thing and also expensive. Im not going to buy the ring on the spot or let her know when im going to pop the question, it's just so I can get a better idea.

2007-08-26 07:53:18 · 24 answers · asked by ER 1 in Weddings

It's amazing to me. Most American men have never been outside of the US, but it is a completely different world out there. A lot of women, outside the US, treat a good man like gold; while here in the US - he get's treated like crap. (Note, I said a lot - there are exceptions.)

2007-08-26 07:52:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am getting married about two years from now. I have briefly discussed wedding ideas with my mother. I have expressed that we only want to invite parents, grandparents and siblings to the ceremony AND reception. She has told me that I need to consider that some family will want to share this day with me. My fiance says that people should only be invited because we want them there, not the other way around, it's OUR day. I also know someone who might bring their own siblings if they are invited, I do not want this. We have a VERY small budget, like 1500 as it stands now and I want to keep the guest as minimal as possible to avoid added stress and choas on my special day. Any suggestions?

2007-08-26 07:51:39 · 19 answers · asked by Amber 1 in Weddings

my siblings constantly talk back & disrespect me when i am watching them, its getting to the point where i want to move out & they are not doing anything but stressing me out. they should respect me im there elder. but the thing is they do it to my parents..they talk back to them also. i have tried EVERYTHING i thought of to make the situation better but everyday seems to get worse. they are like "demon children", they fight,cry,yell &talk back & they even fight with eachother, they make so much noise & pick on the baby &make her cry. this house is a constant reck like a hurricane blew through with all the mess they make. sometimes i just want to shake some scence into there heads. they are far to old to be acting the way they do& making the mess they make the oldest is in 8th grade, they seem to be so immature. i tell them to clean up& they tell me "why dont u do it". or they huff&puff. Why cant i just have a peaceful day with nice children that can keep the house clean? what do i do?

2007-08-26 07:51:23 · 2 answers · asked by Fit 4 A King 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

When I do the laundry, its just gross, she is gross, she is a slob and after 3 years of marriage I might divorce her!

2007-08-26 07:49:26 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-26 07:46:30 · 8 answers · asked by Bu Tran 6 in Singles & Dating