cousin flung my 9yr old brother on the floor, dunno if i should be worried?

Question

my cousin [hes 23] was watchin tv and my little brother kept annoying him and messing around. even i said to my cosin to slap him one cos he was messing around. but something snapped in him anhd he picked him from his hands and literally flung him downwards...with force...and my brother fell face first onto the carpet...i heard the thud i was there. this worries me even though my cousin has never ever done such a thing before, hes also never shown such anger or force with anyone. i cant beleive what i saw. i was shocked. im not sure if im exaggerating cos hes my little brother or not. but this is what i saw.my cousin is normally and everyone says so , of a mild nature....im surprised cos my brother didnt deserve that.
since, he hasnmt said a word [ the cusin that is] this happned last night, he hasnt spoken to me.i dnt want to talk to him so pls dont tell me to.


thankyou

i already feel guilty and i ran to my brother and tried to stop him crying..afterwards i was so numb i thought i had imagined it..went downstairs and my cusin had gone to slp. havent spoken to him since.

Answer 1

I think you should tell your parents. It is not acceptable to throw 9 yr olds about in this way. Be brave tell an adult you trust, for your brother`s sake as well as your own, If you do nothing your kid brother will begin to think it is aceptable for adults to do this, and I`m sure you don`t want that. 9yrs old...he`s too young to see violence like that being acceptable.

Please talk it over with someone. good luck.

Answer 2

Ok, kids of 9 can be annoying, however NO way could they deserve that brutal treatment.
What if unknown damage has been caused to your brother that if not treated causes real harm. How will you feel then?
I hope you do feel bad. You put the idea in your cousin`s head in the first place. True he went further than you expected but you are somewhat to blame too. Not so funny now, is it?
Make things almost right by telling your parents WITHOUT delay. Give them all the details & trust them to make a decision on what to do for the best.
If one of my kids had stood by & allowed this to happen to a younger one, they`d be in deep s**t, As would the one person who actually did the dreadful deed.
I trust you will do the right thing.
Next time try being more protective of younger ones.

Answer 3

Have you told your parents? This is what I'd do, tell someone bigger, older and with more authority; who can do something about it.

Your cousin is 23, your brother is 9. So, your cousin is an adult who has physically assaulted a child.

I know that you are shocked and a bit scared by what you saw, but if you keep it to yourself then he might do that to someone else. Who's to say that he hasn't done this before?

Your cousin is being a bully because your brother is far too little to stand up for himself.

He might have had a bad day or whatever, but that's no excuse for beating up a little boy.

Please take my advice and tell your Mum or Dad, or even a teacher.

All the best

Answer 4

Mild people are more inclined to be over violent when they do snap. Your cousin has a problem that needs to be sorted. The next time, and it is a dead cert that there will be one, he may not be so lucky in not hurting the one he attacks. I know three people who reacted to a situation well over the top of what even they expected. All three are now in prison for manslaughter.
You could try talking to him and suggesting that he seeks help with his temper but that could cause him to snap with you so I would suggest you do talk to his parents.
One thing you cannot do is just forget it ever happened.

Answer 5

Yes, you should be worried. Many times when a normally "mild" person suddenly acts in a violent way, then something physically or emotionally has changed. First, you should speak to your cousin about the incident. Should he deny it or brush it off, speak to another adult member of the family. Violence is never the answer, especially towards a 9 y.o. who probably just wants to be like his older siblings and cousins.

Answer 6

Well, don't worry...it is perfectly normal to be worried about your brother being hurt or anything thing like that. I would not confront your cousin but talk to your brother and ask him how he felt about it...is he mad? is he hurt? Did your brother tell your parents? because if he did, your parents will more than likely try to handle it or tell your brother not to mess with him anymore and stay away from him. If your cousin does it again though and you witness it, I would say something at that time and stick up for your brother. That may mess up the relationship with your cousin but more than likely bring you closer to your brother.
Good luck.

Answer 7

I do believe that he probably just go so flustrated that he wanted him to just get away. I think that he probably feels bad for doing so since he hasnt talked to you about it. I know I would. I think just some space and keeping the little one away from the cousin in that annoying nature for a while will be all the fixing you need.

Answer 8

No, don't talk to him. Talk to your parents NOW. No way he needs to be around you and your little brother, or any other kids in the family. Things make people violent...drugs, mental problems, anger problems...these are things you can't fix or deal with. Tell an adult. And stay away from him.

Answer 9

Good way for your cousin to go to prison for child abuse. Tell your parents about it and call the police. He could have charges on him for attempted murder. Your brother is a minor and your cousin is an adult.

Answer 10

i think u should take action and tell your mum or a grown up u trust about this this is against the law ur lil bro is 9 and ur cousin is 23 its illegal child abuse! he could have even gotten hurt really badly so take stand like a big bro and take action