i like this guy i met at a frat party a couple of weeks ago. the feeling is mutual but last week he told me his ex said she wanted to get back together with him but he wants to try and figure it out. i've been trying to give him his space about the thing but it's been a week....he should have some kind of consencus. it's not that i'm not keeping my options open but it's that out of all the guys i hang out with, i like him the most. we're supposed to see each other today so should i ask him what's up or keep quiet about it?
2007-08-26 08:32:20 · 16 answers · asked by thebodyelectric! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should ask him out because hes problby embrassed
2007-08-26 08:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its funny how many people think if the guy didnt jump in and want to be your boyfriend that he's lame or cheating or stringing you along. Maybe he's like me and is extremely shy about asking anyone out. The only relationships I've been in the girl had to confront me and say he I like you do you want this to go anywhere and I agreed I had liked her and wanted things to go to the next stage. I've lost alot of relationships and chances at them from being so shy. What they didnt seem to understand that even though I liked them and could be all buddy buddy with them I wasnt able to express my like with words and just hoped they would get what I was saying with body language. Sometimes girls can be so blind. Just confront him say you want him to be honest and ask him about it. Tell him you like him and would be interested in persueing a relationship with him but that if he doesnt feel that way you'd like him to come out with it so you can go about your way and not be led on. If he got back with his ex accept that and stay friends knowing you'll just be friends or go your own way and leave it be. Do not try to break up a relationship if they are back together because deep down he'll resent that.
2007-08-26 15:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by reverandmaniac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just keep quiet about it or you won't get your answer. You can either confront him, stay friends, or tell him that you like him as more than a friend. Do you know this guy well enough to know what his motives are? Cuz either this guy is playin with ya, or is just confused. You have already given him plenty of time to ponder this, go ask him!
2007-08-26 15:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend sometime with the guy. Don't try to put a lable on a relationship when you don't really know what is going on. If you guys have real chemistry, then the decision will make itself. If not then you've invested nothing and lost nothing.
2007-08-26 15:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by James L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably isn't sure about his progress with the old girl friend and is keeping you as his back-up in case she dumps him again. I'd ask him right out if he is still trying to keep all his options open. If he is--- forget him and move on.
2007-08-26 15:43:33 · answer #5 · answered by sailorboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds rough, but it's the truth. If the guy really wanted to pursue things w/ you, you would already know. I can understand him saying he wants time to 'be alone' but basically what it's sounding like is that he is 'flipping a coin' do you want a guy who has 'think about it'.
You sound youngish so don't wait too long.
2007-08-26 15:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by PeachJello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through something just like that ;There's this boy I like and he's taking forEVER to ask me out. He's doing it on purpose I think.. Well he likes me I like him too. You should ask him if he really likes you, I know you probably don't want to be the one to ask him ut since its supposed to be the other way around [ boy asks guy ] but try it; you never know.
2007-08-26 15:39:57 · answer #7 · answered by ijustwanttoknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are blessed to have a person who thinks before commiting.
Guys are generally too lame, and jump to relationships too quick.
A week is too long, you should ask him directly, not threateningly, and possibly dont try to lure him away from his ex or fight his decision.
2007-08-26 15:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by Ev!lOnE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's been a week and she's his EX for a reason. ask him about it in an understanding kind of way. tell him that you're interested in his problem and that you wanna help him work it out.
2007-08-26 15:37:22 · answer #9 · answered by smarttkdgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask him out ,but if it takes him that long to make his mind he probably doesn't like you that much and you deserve better. you probably won't have a future with him anyway. find someone else.
2007-08-26 15:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by Elizabeth D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋