Family & Relationships - 2 August 2007

We had talked about an hour before and agreed to go to the gym, but when I called her home 3 times over 40 minutes, she didn't answer. I figured her plans had changed and she was ditching me for some good or lame reason. She has done that before. I didn't try her cell phone because she has ignored messages from me in the past, and I'm kind of tired of spending my whole evening pursuing her all over town and not getting to do what I want to do. So I left for the gym without her. Then she called and was upset and acused me of being passive aggressive. I apologize because I missread the situation, and I was sorry I hurt her feelings, but I felt like she has given me just cause to do what I did. I didn't intend to hurt her, but she feels I did want to hurt her. Who is right? Was I passive aggressive? I suppose I could just try to ignore my conditioned triggers, and call her home and cell phone, and give her a half hour, then go without her if I can't reach her. Would that work?

2007-08-02 19:41:11 · 12 answers · asked by Bill X 2 in Singles & Dating

its not exactly double timing that he wants to do thoug....he fancies this girl but he loves me and all our friends and family members know that...some of his recent friends tell him that we should break up and is trying to influence him....i'm doing as much as i can to tolerate all this but i just cant anymore....i want my love with me......i cant share him with any otherperson.........never........how do i keep him under me now.....how....plz advise.......cuz i really need it.....

p.s.......we r soulmates n r to get married in 2 years....
i'll never be able to accept him if he ever goes to any girl....n he noz that......but he says that he wants me......i'm really confused about this matter........should i kill myself??????????

2007-08-02 19:40:34 · 5 answers · asked by faseehar 1 in Singles & Dating

Please dont say join a club or something, I cant be bothered.
Is there an easier way?

2007-08-02 19:37:52 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-08-02 19:34:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

hey. im 15 years old and my dad just started working at this new company thats still starting up. hes been working pretty hard lately and he comes home late. when he talks to me, he usually talks about very general stuff like the news...or my classes and stuff but nothing about his work. my older sister, who is 19. just came back from college for a few weeks. and she tells me that my dad has been telling her everything. all the projects hes working on that is supposed to be "top secret". my older brother is also an active participant in their discussion and hes only two years older than me.
im sry. but it kinda hurts u know? im not that much younger than them. does he think i cant handle business? do he think im too young? what else is he not telling me? im really disappointed cause im usually very open about everything in my life. i dont want to confront him about it cause i know hes tired....what should i do?

2007-08-02 19:34:08 · 2 answers · asked by xSELENEx 2 in Family

or that's your partner has left for you?

2007-08-02 19:33:52 · 1 answers · asked by dingoboy 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I met this guy, he is a guitar player in a band. We were smiling at each other throughout his whole concert, and the next day we were smiling at each other and winking etc. Well, I signed the bands guestbook online, and by the comments that I left, he figured out it was me, and emailed me right away. Now we have been emailing continuously for almost 3 months and have gotten to know each other quite well via email. He is married, and never mentiones his wife, anything the do together, or anything at all. They have no kids. I dont know if this is like cheating or not. We do flirt in our emails, but dont do like sex emails or anything. I dont know what to think because I am really getting to like him, and i'm going to see him in a few weeks and he wants to meet with me. What do you guys think???

2007-08-02 19:28:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-08-02 19:27:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Okay i'm gonna try to keep this short:
-this guy broke my heart when he broke up with me over a year ago
-I kept hope that we would get back together
-We both got into different relationships
-I didn't want him to know I had a new boyfriend, not because i had any wrong intentions, only cause i was afraid for some reason
-After months and months i finally put a pic of me and my boyfriend up on myspace and sent my ex a message saying hi
So my question is, does this on some level mean i've moved on since i don't care now if he knows about my boyfriend or is it some thing else?

2007-08-02 19:25:22 · 12 answers · asked by umbrella 3 in Singles & Dating

How many of you that have been in a relationship for longer than five years have NEVER forgotten the birthday of your significant other or your anniversary.

I say everyone has forgotten at least once, but my friend disagrees. Just trying to get a feel for how many have been perfect in this regard.

Honest answers please.

2007-08-02 19:22:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What is your relegion? What does it means? I know whats relegion means but i mean does she like me? how come she's asking me that allready?

2007-08-02 19:20:46 · 9 answers · asked by Jamsky 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-02 19:17:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I had several friends in CA. I went out everyday to clubs, bars, mall, and etc. Its a dramatic change now livin here in Texas. I went from popular to Loner. Actually, Its now just me and my boyfriend. But he made friends at his job. We only have one car, so whenever i do go out its mostly with him.
I tried making friends on local sites, but i come off desperate and lookin like a weirdo-LOL! I want some friends..please! HOW???

2007-08-02 19:17:21 · 4 answers · asked by Janet L 2 in Friends

My ex and I are not good. I want to be with her but she keeps on telling me not right now...that later on she will make up her mind on whether she wants to be with me or not. I still do all the things a normal boyfriend does but there is no title. We made an agreement to still tell each other what we're up t but she keeps on lying and leaving her house late at night and not telling me where she goes. I still tell her where I am and what im up to...like seriously even when i go to grocery store because thats what she wants. But she refuses to admits that she lies even though i have caught her multiple times. Whenever I try to talk about it she just hangs up or tells me im being stupid. I wanna let her go but i lover her too much and feel strongly that she will come back to me. Am I stupid for thinking that?

2007-08-02 19:16:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

On regular basis goes and buys things we can't afford or even need and doesn't even tell me. We had an agreement at the beginning of our relationship that anything over $200 we need to ask each other, but he has NEVER done it. And he always buys stuff only for him, not for the family or things for the house. For example, just this week he decided he wants a boat and he is going to get it this weekend whether "I like it or not". He says " I don't care what you think. I am going to be out on MY boat and you can sit at home with the kids and watch TV". These kind of arguement are continuous. About three months ago we had $6500 set aside to put an addition onto our house and he has spent more than half of it on a new car stereo, gave $1000 to his sister and says he doesn't know what the rest of it went. I don't want to treated like this, I want to leave and file for divorce. The hard thing is he refuse to go to counceling. For me that a deal-braker. Should I leave him?

2007-08-02 19:16:39 · 12 answers · asked by muffin 1 in Marriage & Divorce

on what i should wear the first day...you know first impression is the main thing in high school...im a sophmore and would love if you kould give me good tips

2007-08-02 19:15:20 · 6 answers · asked by mexican_boody 1 in Singles & Dating

but didnt do it again after a year or so.


It's clear that she's not a virgin anymore. But could men tell or not?

2007-08-02 19:10:22 · 39 answers · asked by . 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Well..is it? In terms of relationships.....

2007-08-02 19:09:52 · 6 answers · asked by Cosy 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband had an affair with a HPD officer that would come around "for a safe place to use the restroom". Husband's response is... everybody does it. It's just the industry and work environment I'm in. I am just curious to know if their truly are upstanding, strong Christian fireman that stand on their faith in the midst of their bretheren at work

2007-08-02 19:08:44 · 12 answers · asked by amberlina906 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i have like 10 bffs but, their is one that is like my bfff. she has this bf and she is totally in love with him. He is know around school for being 'perfect'; his grade, his looks, his sports, and his personality. At first when they started dating i was jealous but, i quickly got over it bc i saw how much he ment to her. A couple of hours ago he was over my house and it was just us. I tell him how happy I am that he and my friend, lets call her Jenn, are going out and how cute they are tougether but, then he tell me me that the only reason he asked he out was to get to know me becasue apparently im ' hotter, smater, and more popular' than her. I Then he tells me that he wants to go out with me, so i say no and start leading him towards the door and ont he way out he tell sme that he really likes me. I think that I like him but, idk what to do bc she is me bfff and what he did was wrong. what should i do?

2007-08-02 19:07:45 · 9 answers · asked by Kasey 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-02 19:07:34 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ive been told im cute...

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2007-08-02 19:02:50 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I was just now crying & my friend let me hug on her as long as I want & just cry. My family wouldn't even let me do that. When they see me sad, they think I just want attention, when I don't. & they do things to make me more sad & laugh.

I can tell my friend Kristina ANYTHING & EVERYTHING, & she'll keep it a secret. She never uses my problems against me & throws them in my face, she doesn't beat on me & take my money. She motivates me & helps me out & gives me good advice.

2007-08-02 19:00:59 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My husband & I have been together for 6 years, married for 3. A year into our engagement he started showing some behaviors that conserned me. He was abrassive, rude toward me, my family, his friends and his family and had outbursts of anger at almost anything even the smallest situation would be a big issue for him. I thought it was just stress from planning the wedding but we've been married for 3 years now and it just keeps getting worse. I feel I have to walk on egg shells around him because I don't know what will make him tick that day. We use to have fun and be layed back now he's up tight and blaming me for it. We've been goig to counseling but his attitude has not changed. He says he wants to make this work but his actions are showing the opposite. HELP I'm at the end of my rope.

2007-08-02 18:59:46 · 14 answers · asked by jarosi 2 in Marriage & Divorce

ok...i love my side of the family..
bfore i met him, i would go over to my families' house all the time and we just show up whenever we want. my house or theirs...we'll do laundrys at each others houses when we visit or whatever..it's all ok with us.
now that i'm married, my hubby(peter) doesn't like it when they come over or anything. he's always giving me excuses that his too tired for company, which i understand at times..but everytime they want to come over? i have children from a preivious marrige..and when they come over he'll give me all this excues too, that he don't want them over too much or blaa, blaa, blaaaa...a few times my kids came over to do laundry and he told them they can't do laundry at our house anymore...i was so mad but i let it go.2 days ago my younger sis came over to ask me to help her with something..he told her he doesn't want her or anyone asking me to do things for them anymore, cuz they should do it themself.i am so frustrt with peter..Help!!

2007-08-02 18:58:13 · 10 answers · asked by sosad 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am 23 I lost my best friend to a drunk driver almost 1 month ago shortly before he passed he asked me to Take care of his pregnant wife and 2 year old son, i assured him that I would and he was gone a few moments later. He was also 23 and so is his wife, we have all know eachother and been the best of friends since preschool. His wife Tonya is a stay at home mom with little to no family, and was left with no money only debts. I told her she could move into my 3 bedroom house with me I live alone, I should mention me and Tonya were a couple back in highschool. I have all at once found myself a father to a toddler, the sole bread winner, and emotional supporter. She has been wanting to sleep next to me at night (she wants to be held) nothing intamate, I feel very guilty about doing this. My life has changed so fast and in so many different ways, I feel I am doing the right thing, she has noone, how could I do any less? Am I crazy for putting myself this far out? I dont know how to feel

2007-08-02 18:58:04 · 17 answers · asked by NIck 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm 21 and my guy is 31. He has one child from his ex-wife. He says he still want's another child with me. I'm Not sure if I want any at all And if we do...when we do...is he still going to be active enough when he/she is young and stern enough when they are a teenager? should we get started now? or not have any?

2007-08-02 18:56:24 · 14 answers · asked by Nessa 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-02 18:54:24 · 29 answers · asked by odangitsxkristal 1 in Singles & Dating

I get this emotional peaceful warmth about him and I really enjoy his company. Sometimes, I even stay home all day and cancel plans to see if he'd come. At times, I wait for him to message me back and I wait every second pretty much [alot of the times]. I get disappointed when he has to leave home [we live two blocks away] and just.... idk. I guess he is on my mind. Sometimes I realize Im daydreaming about him. And in my mind the kiss will feel good. But when I think of reality, it isnt so good.... like bleh. The thing is, Im not so physically attracted to him. I dont want to go out and I have put myself in that position with him and I get like "=//// Blah." You know what I mean?
I just dont understand what Im going through.

2007-08-02 18:53:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

even tho i said i was sorry!
y would he continue being mean to me?
what should i do?

2007-08-02 18:51:11 · 11 answers · asked by ♥ 1 in Singles & Dating