I get this emotional peaceful warmth about him and I really enjoy his company. Sometimes, I even stay home all day and cancel plans to see if he'd come. At times, I wait for him to message me back and I wait every second pretty much [alot of the times]. I get disappointed when he has to leave home [we live two blocks away] and just.... idk. I guess he is on my mind. Sometimes I realize Im daydreaming about him. And in my mind the kiss will feel good. But when I think of reality, it isnt so good.... like bleh. The thing is, Im not so physically attracted to him. I dont want to go out and I have put myself in that position with him and I get like "=//// Blah." You know what I mean?
I just dont understand what Im going through.
2007-08-02 18:53:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's called a mature or real attraction. It's not based on physical lust, just respect and honest appeal. He could be a good best friend, but save your kisses for the guys who make your heart go pitter-patter when he walks into the room.
2007-08-02 18:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by jemrx2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just saying maybe, maybe he provides you easily something that you actually seek in a boyfriend ( tenderness, attention, attentiveness, man warmth ) and since you are not attracted to him he still has around 60% of what you are looking for. I'm sure if you were attracted to him you wouldn't be asking that question. The thing is I would still keep it as friendship if you are not attracted to him or maybe eventually you won't care and find him beautiful somehow. Just don't try to make yourself attracted to him if you are not, you'll have a not so good relationship and you'll wish you didn't do it because it would ruin the friendship. Also sex wise it would be horrible, how can someone get completion if what's on top of you doesn't turn you on. Sex is not supposed to be a big factor but it still is at around 40% so yup hopefully it helped.
2007-08-03 02:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by Grifter Cash 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not an uncommon situation. Just don't let this guy get in the way of some of your other needs such as work, your other friendships, etc...if you really like this guy, then don't ask him out, like on a date. ask him if he'd like to grab some ice cream with you or get a smoothie. the more you communicate the more you will get to know him and see if you really want to go on.
2007-08-03 01:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by Cherrrrrrr101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are using him emotionally to feel what you do not have yet. Do not lead this guy on. He does not deserve it. Just be patient and you will find the right guy for you.
2007-08-03 01:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...seems to me you only like him as a good friend....as your
best male friend !!!..no problem with that !!!..you ok
2007-08-03 01:57:53 · answer #5 · answered by Roberto D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
indecisiveness...
by the way... DO NOT PLAY w/his feelings
2007-08-03 01:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋