I met this guy, he is a guitar player in a band. We were smiling at each other throughout his whole concert, and the next day we were smiling at each other and winking etc. Well, I signed the bands guestbook online, and by the comments that I left, he figured out it was me, and emailed me right away. Now we have been emailing continuously for almost 3 months and have gotten to know each other quite well via email. He is married, and never mentiones his wife, anything the do together, or anything at all. They have no kids. I dont know if this is like cheating or not. We do flirt in our emails, but dont do like sex emails or anything. I dont know what to think because I am really getting to like him, and i'm going to see him in a few weeks and he wants to meet with me. What do you guys think???
2007-08-02 19:28:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he's probably happy enough in his marriage, but takes his opportunities with hopeful girls when he gets them. Musicians have their allure, but if you're not into getting involved with cheaters, then this guy is probably not for you. This is not "like cheating" unless they have an open marriage, and I wouldn't believe it were an open marriage until I heard it directly from his wife. Even then, you might want to ask yourself if that were something you want to get involved in or not before getting into it.
Think about it this way: If it were something above board and not cheating, then you'd be able to call him, go places with him, be seen in public with him, etc. If it's a completely public and totally open relationship, and you meet all his friends and family, then it's probably not cheating. If it's secretive and email, no phone calls, and not in public, then it's cheating.
2007-08-02 19:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not leaving his wife for you and you're potentially a dart board. When men get married, their ego says other women don't want them anymore. So, they have to test that. Chances are his wife doesn't know about you. If you meet, he'll feed your dog a snausage, then quickly lose interest after you return home. You'll find that the emails drop off sharply. Let his wedding ring be your Kyptonite and keep the hell away. Don't be another married man's victim. There it is.
2007-08-03 02:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by Golum27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to know why you are okay with being second best to someone else. I mean why do people cheat on each other? Don't you think enough of yourself that you would want to be the most important person in the other person's life? I mean all you get is sloppy seconds, you don't even get to spend any holidays with them because they are with their family. So please people stop destroying other peoples families, and their lives. There are a lot of single people in this world. Stop playing in someone elses backyard. One final note: If you are seeing someone who is currently married or with their mate, and they are seeing you, trust me when I say that if you end up with them in the end, that it is only a matter of time before they will do the same thing to you..Remember Karma can be as ugly as it is beautiful.
Leave him, band or no band. You are probably one of many he is writing too.
2007-08-03 02:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I hate to say it, but I think he just wants to have a one night stand or a sex buudy. He does not mention his wife because he knows that you will eventually ask him if he loves her and if he will leave her. If he was going to do that, he would have said it from the beginning. Because he told you he was married and you still flirt with him, I'm pretty sure he's just wanting to have sex with you, and yes that is cheating on his part, whether it be just flirting or actual sex. I hope I am wrong for your sake, but I don't think I am. Good Luck
2007-08-03 02:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love may be deceiving for woman especially, you want him and you ask that makes you reached a stage where you require an assurance of what you want to do next. I am a man, I will say go for it but his wife may say no. Ladies should know better and man always play a victim part.
2007-08-03 02:39:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him what's the deal with his wife...does he still love her? If not, would he consider leaving her for you....
The reason i'm asking these things is it would more or less tell you if he is serious with you or he just wants to have a little fun outside his marriage. If I were you, make sure what he expects with your relationship before jumping into anything else.
2007-08-03 02:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by geisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to consider this:
How would you feel if your husband did that with another girl?
Not a good situation.!!! He is not in the position to give you what you will eventually want--a relationship. He will only hurt you in the long run. Those guys get so many girls after them, Don't even fool yourself, or let him fool you into believing that you are special--you never will be.you are just one of many!
2007-08-03 02:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may want to have sex with you, but he doesn't want a relationship with you. That is if you're sure you are flirting.
If he was unhappy with his wife, he wouldn't need you to leave her. He would leave her.
Whether or not he has kids doesn't make what you're doing any less skank like.
2007-08-03 02:33:01 · answer #8 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop it! He is a married man!! Would you like it if he was your husband and he was doing what youre doing with him?
2007-08-03 02:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by sosad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put yourself in his wife's shoes would you want some girl to meet with YOUR husband? don't do it you are asking for trouble
2007-08-03 02:33:10 · answer #10 · answered by Katie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋