Family & Relationships - 25 July 2007

He and I been other about two years and i got pergant on some lonly night and now he has a girlfriend . She just like me. She going school like me and she belevile in that hocospoce and etc. But that not the issue, he love me and want me but he can't forgive me for what happen two years ago but i forgive him and that the issue What should i do with him?

2007-07-25 06:52:31 · 1 answers · asked by Cosandra T 1 in Singles & Dating

I would not do this normally, but my husband is doing things behind my back and lies to my face like its nothing. This has gone on my entire marriage and frankly I've had enough. The problem is, I have no proof and I need it. I cannot afford a P.I. and I really need some advice. Please don't bash me for it, I am down to this as there is no other solution in my case. If I were to elaborate I don't think anyone here would really blame me.

2007-07-25 06:51:23 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I knew thisgirl for awhile... we always date on and off. Well, I called it off AGAIN last night... she said she likes me alot... but I did not see either of us taking it to actually being with one another.

One thing I noticed is once we went from being flirts... drunken convos... to more serious... quite atmospheres... the convo went dead.

I have a sarcastic, goofy personality... and will talk if need be... but the closer we got the quieter she got.

She's had some BF's whom which I know I am more intelligent, and just overall have a better personality.... but the convo was dry at times ... it was either we had fun drinking, sleeping together, or making fun of one another...

Do you think it was because we got serious too quick b/c we've known each other for so long... I mean it was only a couple weeks and we were talking ..IMO.. wayyy too much everyday.

Anyway... what are some topics of convo to hit off everyday... I am more interested for future use than this past 1.

2007-07-25 06:50:13 · 1 answers · asked by Baby Bulls 2 in Singles & Dating

Only 4% of all couples ever swing. That means it is not normal and everyone is not doing it. I mean, geez, what does that say about the Y!Answers community?

2007-07-25 06:47:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

This guy who I really like is still pissed off at me even though it's already been a week and he's mad at me becuz I asked him if he could hook me up with one of his boys even though we were talking and interested in eachother, but the reason why I asked him that was because I thought he was ignoring me and I just wanted his attention and see if he's trying to play me or not..Because he was asking me if he can come and have sex with me and he said that was just a joke. I been emailing him and leaving him messages saying I'm sorry and stuff..But he's still ignoring me. He really liked me as much as I did though..I can tell. What should I do? I been crying over him and now it's like a living hell because I can't live without him and I have deep feelings for him..I try to move on but I can't..without him I just cant. But I havent told him about this feeling about how much it hurts. What should I do? All he knows is that I'm so sorry but he doesn't know how I'm feeling rite now.
Of course I wouldn't be serious about if he could hook me up with one of his boys. I just wanted his attention since I thought he was ignorin me and wanted to make him jealous to see if he was trying to play me or not

2007-07-25 06:46:35 · 3 answers · asked by NeNe 1 in Singles & Dating

My sister and I are located in Southern California and looking to start our own Wedding Planner Business. We are trying to see how many people in that area would be intrested in using one. Your answers would help a lot. Thanks.

2007-07-25 06:45:14 · 22 answers · asked by linkin120504 1 in Weddings

I am just getting back into the dating scene after a split w/ my ex-fiance two year so ofcourse I am rusty at flirting, dating, etc. I am an outgoing person & am not afraid to chat it up with a stranger. Several years ago, some friends of mine pointed out that I am friendly & talkative with men that I am not interested in and yet clam up & don't show any interest in the men that I am interested in. I recently noticed it & discover that they are right. I suppose it has to do with intimidation or shyness. I am comfortable with the men that I am not attracted to thus can talk to them for hours. The men that I am interested in barely hear two words from me, if that. My problem is that men get the wrong signals from me. Any advice? BWT I am in my late 20's. So please, adults answer only. Thanks for your input.

2007-07-25 06:44:57 · 7 answers · asked by Abby 1 in Singles & Dating

my husband once told me that i was controlling.when we met he used to drink all the time and never have money.when we married i told him he can drink,but occasionally.his friends invite him out all the time and i tell him i dont want him to go.i let him go,but with decent friends.he has many "male slut"friends that i have told him to boot.i dont tell him how to spend his money,but i do encourage him to save when he can.for these reasons,he says i am controlling.am i or not?

2007-07-25 06:42:40 · 12 answers · asked by fishin for answer 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-25 06:41:53 · 1 answers · asked by yas 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-07-25 06:41:35 · 25 answers · asked by mario_magic_66 1 in Marriage & Divorce

About four years ago my husband cheated on me and had a little girl by another girl and he apologized and after a year apart i took him back. a week ago i was looking through his phone and saw a picture of him and his stipper girlfriend, and pictures she sent to him of herself naked saying I love you ,your my baby. I confronted him and he did not deny that it was his girlfriend and said that he met her a week ago. Tried to blame me because i always nag because he never comes home . We have two beautiful children together, why would he blame me, i have been a great mom, all i asked him for was to do stuff with us, instead me and the kids did everything alone becasue he is never home.And he is from lebanon, not saying they are all like that at all but maybe we do have a cultural differences here. I disconnected his phone, i am devistated and he is still with this girl and I am hurt. i just need some advice, maybe from someone who has gone through this or someone to build up my strength

2007-07-25 06:40:40 · 17 answers · asked by smilesallthetime 2 in Marriage & Divorce

This one is a long one, but I tried summing it up the best I could.

I’ve been dating this guy for a 1 ½ year now. There was moment of bliss that turned out to be a strong bond and love for each other. I never felt so connected to someone, except for when I was with my first love when I was 18, I am now 31.

We never fought. I am the social butterfly and he’s the laid back type. We seem to fit like hand and glove.

A short time had passed after we first started dating. Then the bomb hit. I found out, he is a cocaine addict. I was shocked and so deeply hurt and disappointed.

How could something so real, so right, that I have waited for, for so long end up so wrong?

I cried like a baby. Every time I find someone, something has to be so horribly wrong with them! I feel cursed!

My past speaks for itself. I have dated a long line of losers and users. This one didn’t carry those characteristics. He wasn’t mean, he wasn’t trying hard to impress. He was just himself, and a sweetheart at that.

This is what made it so difficult for me to detach at that time. I saw potential in him. I saw so much good, and so I invested myself in him to hopefully make a difference. The other girls he dated were not of the best kind and I was the most stable “normal” woman he ever dated. His parents even agreed and hoped things would get better.

They did….for a short time. Then, just when things started looking up, just when he started doing better at work, got a car, caught up on bills and began repairing his relationships he’d screw up again!

It has been like a roller coaster and I feel so much empathy for his mother and father, for what he has been putting them through for years.

Just recently he checked himself into a rehab for a week. He then followed up with out patient care and meetings. He “graduated” from that, and has gotten a new job and new car.

Mind you it had been some time since he had a car last, and the last time he did, he totaled it on purpose and went on a cocaine binge.

The first day with the car, he disappears for over an hour, when he tells his father he is going to drop off a prescription. He comes back and of course, his parents aren’t happy.
There’s virtually no trust left, and I don’t blame them, because I have so little myself.

He took off again then came back a little later. I wanted him to come over last night, because I was going to be all alone in my apartment. I don’t like being alone. So, he was supposed to be on his way, when he never showed up. He called me at around 1:30am stating that he just needed to be alone and was just driving around. Mind you, his father had just given him $15, so you know what we all were thinking.

I was just so hurt and ticked! I couldn’t believe he was doing this. Just a week before we came back from vacation and he couldn’t wait to go home, or so I thought, but in reality he went out and used again!

He just seems to expect a lot, and wants everyone to turn the page. It isn’t that easy. I love this guy, but I can’t trust him and it frustrates me. I also have an 11 year old son. I know what I need to do, but my heart doesn’t know how to do it. I don’t want to be stuck in this crazy whirlwind anymore; at the same time my heart is broken. What should I do?

2007-07-25 06:38:59 · 18 answers · asked by Deni 1 in Singles & Dating

Boy, the girl who posted the question about her married lover got called all kinds of names, but the couple that wanted to swing...oh that's great! I mean WTF? Come on, cheating is cheating - atleast a secret affair means you actually respect the feelings of your significant other. And swinging? That means someone is going to use me for sex - exchange bodily fluids and yes, absord some of my DNA cells in the process. Ew! Boy people, I'm just saying, think about it before you let people sleep with you. . .

2007-07-25 06:37:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I've been married to my husband for 3 yrs, we've been together fo 8. Everything in our life is perfect except for in the bedroom. I'm just not interested anymore at all. I don't have any sexual feelings at anytime for anything anymore. We've tried just about everything to spice it up but still no luck. I know that its affecting our relationship, he tries to understand but i know it doesn't make sense. He thinks it's him and has started to get down on himself but it's not him at all. Like I said other than this our marriage is great but this is a big part of it and I know its affecting both of us.
Please Help!!!

2007-07-25 06:35:34 · 21 answers · asked by Cally_2332 2 in Marriage & Divorce

all i have is 20 bucks and i am artistically challenged so making a card is out

2007-07-25 06:34:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Explain this to me? I have been on Y!A long enough to see this Q over and over.. I just don't understand. Please explain why you think it is "hot" or "erotic" to see your spouse with another person (especially the opposite sex). I would freak out if I had to watch my man with someone else..

2007-07-25 06:34:02 · 13 answers · asked by Wildflower 6 in Marriage & Divorce

I would really rather not, the whole idea grosses me out. And this one guy was all huffy about it, so I dumped him. We weren't really close so it didn't matter, but am I going to continue to run into this problem down the road? Is this something that men really like to take part in? Is it even healthy? It's not like the most sterol area....

2007-07-25 06:34:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i know some ppl like to keep tis private but could u tell me everything about ur first kiss?? the whole scenario :]

like how it happened, and soo on.

2007-07-25 06:33:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

This guy who I really like is still pissed off at me even though it's already been a week and he's mad at me becuz I asked him if he could hook me up with one of his boys even though we were talking and interested in eachother, but the reason why I asked him that was because I thought he was ignoring me and I just wanted his attention and see if he's trying to play me or not..Because he was asking me if he can come and have sex with me and he said that was just a joke. I been emailing him and leaving him messages saying I'm sorry and stuff..But he's still ignoring me. He really liked me as much as I did though..I can tell. What should I do? I been crying over him and now it's like a living hell because I can't live without him and I have deep feelings for him..I try to move on but I can't..without him I just cant. But I havent told him about this feeling about how much it hurts. What should I do? All he knows is that I'm so sorry but he doesn't know how I'm feeling rite now.

2007-07-25 06:33:31 · 1 answers · asked by NeNe 1 in Singles & Dating

What does it mean if someone says you are a controlling person.

2007-07-25 06:32:44 · 2 answers · asked by J.J. 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

What does it mean if someone says you are a controlling person.

2007-07-25 06:32:26 · 19 answers · asked by J.J. 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I feel like everytime me and my girlfriend hang out, it's like i always want to.

of course i don't mind not doing it, as long as i'm with her, but when we don't, i feel kinda disappointed.

i feel addicted, and i think it's best if i get rid of that.

2007-07-25 06:31:59 · 10 answers · asked by eckstralime07 1 in Singles & Dating

his girl that I like lives in my apt complex. I like her and i think she is very attractive. When i'm coming in from work we bump into one another as she leaves for work. We have said hey, whats up to one another. I have hold the door open for here a few times she has said aww thanks im very sweet. Last friday when i was coming in as she left she said that im very nice and charming and cool. we formally introduced ourselves to one another last week, and I saw her on the phone as i was walkin towards my car she said hey whats up while she was on her phone. i havent seen her with a guy in da complex but one time a long time ago. does that mean she is single? what should i do next? does she like me? thanks

2007-07-25 06:31:07 · 25 answers · asked by tbg1982 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-07-25 06:28:44 · 19 answers · asked by louise d 6 in Friends

I told her how much I like her finally... told her that I would be always her... but she said she is already engaged... which I am not sure... but I got the answer :( :(.. anyways... just told her in the end that I would be always there for her & I am very happy that she is engaged.. but on the other side a lot sad too of losing someone that you like more than anything else... she told me that she did not even think of me as Friends.. anywyas... I will be always there to help her..
But since telling her... I am really depressed... just can not imagine my dream of being with her someday is over :(..
Please tell me if I did right thing by telling her ? Sometimes I feel it could have been better if I had not tell her... coz atleast I could have helped her... now she might hesitate to ask any help from me... Please help me ! :(

2007-07-25 06:27:40 · 8 answers · asked by Dhruv 1 in Singles & Dating

I feel so sick like somebody jus ripped my heart out stepped on it and put it back in my body. I also have the worst stomach pains ever like i have to vomit every minute. I can't even eat like i want and i cry like every hour. Is this normsl after a break-up?

2007-07-25 06:25:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i am worried that he may be giving bad advice to people or perscribing the wrong medication to people!....he tells me he mostly tells people to "just stay home, get plenty of rest, and drink plenty of fluids"? he dosnt know anything about the field hes in....is there anything i can do to help society? i dont want to hurt my friend!

2007-07-25 06:24:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i think its stupid that they only like our boons why cant they like us for something else

2007-07-25 06:23:25 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i caught my exboyfriend in bed with my bestfriend and we breake up a month later i meet someone else we are going out for two month and he want to propose to me for my birthday what should i do im not sure if i still have feeling for my ex but my new boyfriend treat me very good and want to married me

2007-07-25 06:22:58 · 17 answers · asked by unforgetable 2 in Singles & Dating

afer serving 21 years and never had a girl friend what do i do

2007-07-25 06:21:10 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating