I would really rather not, the whole idea grosses me out. And this one guy was all huffy about it, so I dumped him. We weren't really close so it didn't matter, but am I going to continue to run into this problem down the road? Is this something that men really like to take part in? Is it even healthy? It's not like the most sterol area....
2007-07-25 06:34:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe some people enjoy casual sex. It's a fun enjoyable part of life, and its not like we didn't know each other, it was more like we weren't in love. But the morality of the topic is not the point.
2007-07-25 06:39:10 · update #1
PS. It's nice that you are concerned about not letting guys pressure me, but I have no problems with that. This is not the issue either, I have self confidence and I take control when things happen that I don't like.
2007-07-25 06:41:47 · update #2
yo it's like unhealthy. disease and stuff. don't do it.
2007-07-25 06:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by shoefly 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If he is nice guy he will respect your values and tastes. Let him know you don't fell comfortable with it and if he doesn't accept that he's probably a bastard in general. If you were refusing to show him any affection maybe he has grounds to get stroppy, but as long as youhave some way of being close that should be ok (idealy just a hug should be ok).
As long as you do it safe (condom and lube) it probably isn't that unhealthey, some random tips for if you give in:
1. always use a barrier (condom AND lube) the rectum is far more suceptable to catching disease (including HIV and warts to name just two) than vagina.
2. If you switch hole, always change barrier. What is a perfectly friendly bug in one part of your body can be horrible in another. Even if you don't have any disease there are bacteria in the lower gut to help digest food that just don't belong anywhere else.
3. size does matter and there is such a thing as to big, need a good angle probably,
4. if it hurts it's probably bad for you, change nagle, add lube or give up.
5. while i'm on the topic, probably best to wash hands after removing condom.
2007-07-25 15:32:09 · answer #2 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing about dumping the guy. NEVER do anything that you don't want to do. If he has a problem with that then he doesn't respect you and is not worth your time. Yes, guys for some reason seem to like this act. I think its a tightness thing. Maybe someday you'll change your mind and want to try it. But if not, thats okay too. Guys should respect what you will and won't do.
2007-07-25 13:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by *Cara* 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's "sterile" (not sterol) and although I've met plenty of guys who were open to it over the years, none have made it a deal breaker or been pushy about it if their partner wasn't interested...
It's not unhealthy if done properly and you can look up information online re: keeping clean. It's simply a preference for some...to each their own. âº
2007-07-25 13:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have been asked that 2 times by man one told me because i would not do that he did not want to be with or talk to me anymore i am 29 and just dont think i can do that it looks like it hurts bad but yeah you may i mean i have by 2 guyes and i told them both no you do what you think is best and that you like you dont have to do anything you dont want to if he cant take no for a answer then let his *** go i dont know why but most man like to have sex in the *** i think it is sick but that is just me good luck hope this helps.
2007-07-25 13:44:02 · answer #5 · answered by betty m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you having sex with people you aren't "really close" with?
I dont know about butt s3x but I know that I (as a guy) like a woman who's close with me and actually loves me before she has sex with me. I'm probably weird though.
2007-07-25 13:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by sspence966 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Open your minds people. I enjoyed it with my fiance. Don't judge me for that; I'm sure you do things I would find disgusting. I'm a molecular biologist and know that as long as you follow a few basic guidelines, there is nothing wrong with anal sex. If you are not comfortable with it, then don't do it. Your partner should not pressure you to do things you aren't comfortable with. for the love of god, if you don't like anal sex, keep your trap shut. there are those of it who enjoy it. you are all so judgmental....and that is what is wrong with america these days. everyone thinks he/she is right!!!!
2007-07-25 13:41:11 · answer #7 · answered by beautifulirishgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let someone pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do.
I have been asked this several times and I am right with you on thinking its disgusting.
My question is how can this be enjoyable? To me having them give it to you in the butt is remeniscent of gay sex..
so does that mean they secretly want to do it with a guy??
I don't know..
2007-07-25 13:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by tout petite 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes men really do like doing this hitting dat from da back. but if u dont want to dont do it. itz your body. have u ever had it in da back?
2007-07-25 13:39:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart don't do ANYTHING you are not happy doing! it's your body hun n you have to live with it physically n mentally. Be happy sex can be great when you are happy with the person you are doing it with n you'll know.
2007-07-25 13:41:01 · answer #10 · answered by no1 really 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
its the girls desicion!no guy should pressure us
2007-07-25 13:37:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋