Family & Relationships - 28 June 2007

After our 3rd child, my wife started take anti-depressents / anti-anxiety drugs. This may be why she has absolutely no sex drive. Prior to #3, the sex was good. I do love my wife.

Dear Abbey once said "when there is no passion within the marriage, there will be passion outside the marriage". I haven't been looking for passion outside, but I finally told my wife that if some came my way, I probably would go for it. Well, I did. Now I've got this strong emotional desire for a co-worker. We've been friends for over a year, and the three of us have gone out several times.

My wife left for a 2 month vacation with her family, and my co-worker invited me over, and it happened. And it was GREAT! We sat and talked for about 6 hours one night. I have not had that kind of companionship with a woman since 3 years before I hooked up with my wife. Let me be truthful -- before the sun came up, we knew each other Biblically.

I don't want it to end with my co-worker. What should I do?

2007-06-28 17:12:10 · 23 answers · asked by Steve G 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm 16 and i'm a boy, by the way. I don't think either of them know about this...i spank myself somtimes, but only when i am home alone, i've been doing this for about 4 years now. I doubt either of them would have a problem with it, but i don't want to take chances. I've never told anyone about it. They seem like they'd be fairly tolerant of this sort of thing, but you just never know. Do you think i should tell them? Do you think it's even any of their business? This is silly, but it would be a relief to tell someone about it, since i've been keeping it a secret. Even though i've kept it a secret, i'm kind of surprised no one had figured it out...do you think someone could know and just hasn't told me?

2007-06-28 17:07:24 · 17 answers · asked by FMEXICO 1 in Family

Would a cell phone make a diffrence depending on the style and brand of the cell phone? Like for a example who would your rather go out with a guy that has a regular R-zar Motorola phone or the guy with the high tech Black berry phone?

2007-06-28 17:06:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I would say 1) Confidence 2) Etiquette and 3) Self-Reliance.

What are your picks?

2007-06-28 17:06:22 · 9 answers · asked by SloBoMo 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

Anyone know of a great birthday comment for friends .. I would love to see them

2007-06-28 17:04:42 · 1 answers · asked by ? 2 in Friends

Do you like a little brother or a little sister?(I would prefer a little sister beacuse they don't bother you as much and they can come to you for advice,But little brothers don't like coming to their big sister for advice.)

2007-06-28 17:03:34 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

ok i have been engaged with this guy, we were having some issues on how i'm dealing with his son. we couldnt work it out so we broke up. for like 3 days. on the day i was going to come over to talk to him his daughter called me and told me to hurry up and come over cause his exwife(the boy's mom) was there!! so i came over and found out that since i broke up with him she broke up with her husband. and she had earlier told him she would divorce her husband to marry my guy. AGAIN. me and him are back together but how am i suppose to deal with her if she keeps saying stuff like that to him he said if we were broken up for good he WOULD get back with her. i have a 6 mo old not by him but he is the only father my son will ever know so i cant just up and leave and i dont have a job cause he told me i didnt have to work if i didnt want to. PLEASE HELP I NEED ADVISE QUICK!!

2007-06-28 17:03:26 · 6 answers · asked by jennifer m 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Long story...
-4 years ago i found out my mother was stealing money from her friend (her friend asked her to get money for her at the atm and took some for herself, this happened consistently totaling $15-20k as the friend claims)
-mother took it b/c she's a single mom trying to get by, not for drugs or alcohol -don;t ask but somehow the friend accused me saying my mom stole for "my drug money" which pisses me off (NOT TRUE!)
-other sibling signed to give the $ back if my mom couldnt
(which is now a very stupid thing to have done)
-mother paid back some and then stopped-now feels she shouldn't have to pay back b/c she only makes min. wage and felt the ex-friend should have understood
-ex-friend harrasing mother to pay back or they will sue
-i now have issues trusting my mother with my money and i pay rent with her, not to mentioned my mother is in at least $25,000 of credit card debt and having trouble paying min. payments
-mother wont admit shes wrong
-what the hell do i do?

2007-06-28 17:02:10 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

how can i keep this relationship!

he respects me for not doing them and does not push it on me!

but kids have told me that i would have to start what hes doing if i was going out with him!

ha when pigs fly!!

2007-06-28 17:00:01 · 23 answers · asked by 3lo 2 in Singles & Dating

My dad's in trouble with the governemnt. Not serious going to jail trouble its just his construction company is at the threat of being shut down... Its been like this for about 6 months.. My dad's really stressed my mom's really stressed.... My dads made wonderful income and also he might have to pay a fine in the hundreds of thousands to millions... Im only 14 my parents have also been fighting alot... Not hitting, but just FIGHTING alot verbally.. Aruging, I really feel for my dad. Sometimes I feel my mom nags him too much and thinks hes doing something wrong... What should I do? To get away from this? I dont want to get involved cause I get in trouble and scolded if I get involved... I feel scared and worried that my dad will commit sucide because hes being driven crazy by my mom sometimes. I feel like my mom is the culprit. I love her and all, but shes just so overprotective and so on with my dad.... I just dont know what to do... I feel stressed out....

2007-06-28 16:58:58 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I just got engaged and I couldn't be happier. I ADORE this man. I've loved him for 4 years and couldn't imagine sharing my life with anyone else.

Problem: my family HATES him. For those of you who have seen The Notebook--think of a couple like that who kind of fought a lot when they were younger. All my parents think of are all the negative things I EVER SAID about him during our little fights. So they think I deserve "better."

Also--he isn't exactly the same religion as my family, and my family is strictly religious.

But I know I would be miserable with anyone else and have failed each time I've tried even dating others in the past (we've been on and off for these past 4 years).

I wish I didn't have to keep the engagement secret. I don't know HOW to handle the marriage.

As stupid as this sounds, it will truely break my close family members hearts when they hear the news. Mainly b/c of religion.

I don't know what to do!

Be cut off from my family, or lose THE LOVE of my life?

2007-06-28 16:47:05 · 17 answers · asked by littlewisher 1 in Weddings

2007-06-28 16:46:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

yo break a promise to a friend who really counted on you but you didnt know it was the same date as something you had to do wiht your family and they say its ok but deep down you know there past and you know they've been let down and you feel so guilty??

2007-06-28 16:41:37 · 6 answers · asked by liveitup 2 in Friends

I just typed the longest ******* letter to you all . I was trying to say that I know the last thing anybody wants to here is someone else crying in their beer.I do my best to make my life simple I try not to take on too much because I am an addict.I sit here all day and answer question from people that probably dont want to here from me anyway.I listen to my husband so much all day about all the details of every car that he has worked on .I have even tried to answer some of yall questions about cars through him.But there comes a time and point that you cant please any one so this is it yallI dont have nothing I mean nothing to live for .I cant even find a friend here that is too afraid to trust some one. I cant even figure this stupid little question sight out. Never mind it doesnt matter anyway.I am just depressed yall and could use some good advice!

2007-06-28 16:38:27 · 2 answers · asked by ღOMGღ 7 in Singles & Dating

I was married 12 yrs.Have been divorced 3yrs.I started dating this great guy last Sept.He had been married 20 yrs.We got along so well and had so much in common and the same thoughts on most things.The first time we ever talked on the phone it lasted 14 hrs.We have both been hurt in the past.In March of this year he decided we was getting to close and he broke up with me. He thought we should date other people and see if down the road we still had the same feelings.We are still friends and he will call or text me everyday to see how i'm doing. He told me a few nights ago the feelings hadnt changed on his part. They havent on mine either. Should i just wait and see what happens? Or try and get over the love that i have for him?

2007-06-28 16:36:21 · 14 answers · asked by Pamela S 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-28 16:36:06 · 20 answers · asked by Alisha 3 in Marriage & Divorce

o.k its kinda hard to explain!

there is this fuy that i have liked for a couple of years now. and just this year he has showed signs that he likes me! I just wanna know if im overreacting or if he really does like me!

1. he told me i had pretty eyes
2. he drew a picture of me (hes a great artist)
3. he was always trying to be near me but never could cause this other guy that liked me was trying to keep us apart
4. a girl was trying to figure out who he liked and another girl would only give her hints. well one of the hints was he liked me or two other girls.

So, do you think im just crazy or do you think he really likes me?

2007-06-28 16:33:53 · 6 answers · asked by Morgan A 3 in Singles & Dating

He goes into these jealous rages and accuses me of cheating just because our first child isn't his, but I was a victim of date rape before I've even meet him. A while ago he did some crazy stuff. He brought his ex-girlfriend in to help him beat up my family and destroy my whole house. I asked for a divorce but know he will try to come back but what should I do?

2007-06-28 16:33:11 · 48 answers · asked by HoneyBuns 2 in Marriage & Divorce

E M
S Should i call??? There is the boy I liked but on saturday we kinda got into a little dis agreement.But anyway?
On sunday i sent a text but he was short but anyway now is thursday and i want to call but i dont know if I should(my phone fell into some water on monday so i dont know if he has called or text me since monday..he hasnt called or left a voice mail though.)

2007-06-28 16:31:19 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Since my father inlaws death almost 2 yrs. ago, my husband has lost a screw or two. Friends and family members voices speak to him all the time all at once, telling him strange info. He thinks i can hear them as well and gets upset when i say i dont. He thinks a few personal items from his father have magical powers or sprits trapped inside them. The house, yard and bushes are filled with sprits and he will be the one to save everyone cuz Jesus will use him as a host. His mood swings are terrifying bcuz i have not done anything but hes sure that i did "the voices said so" Im doing things behind his back, I dont have his back. Its getting worse, he hides my car keys and i cannot leave the house. Does anyone have a car that i can work off (barter system) the price? i had my own cleaning service and managed a title co. for 12 years, when i had a life. I am desprite and dont know what to do, no living family and hes kept away any friends. Please help! Ive suggested counciling, he says no

2007-06-28 16:25:13 · 30 answers · asked by sexiewitch 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Hard circumstances, he had a fling when we weren't together, a pregnancy, and now a baby. No relationship with the other girl. How do I accept this child my fiance has, and how do I handle it with our 3 year old. This baby represents a lot of hurt and I don't know how to do it? ANy suggestions. I just keeping wishing it would go away.

2007-06-28 16:19:43 · 10 answers · asked by confuzed 1 in Family

He is my step-son and he's 18 years old now. I know he has been peeking in my bedroom late at nite when I am laying in bed asleep and also noticed several times that he will peek into the bath when I am taking a warm bath or a shower. He always massturbates when doing this, and on more than one occasion while we are watching television, I have noticed him looking out of the corner of his eyes at me, and its obvious that he has an erection under his shorts. I dont know how I should approach him about this.

2007-06-28 16:15:57 · 3 answers · asked by justa_typical_mom 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

everytime i think i have a bf by 3 or 4thdate they dump me why ask me out for a 2 date if you are going to leave me by 3 or 4th or 5th date i am 29 years old almost 30 i just want to find mr right and get marryed and have kids someday with the right guy but dont think that will ever happen everytime i think i have found mr right they leave me lonely and heartbroken sick of getting hurt but tired of beening alone why dose this keep happening to me how can i find a nices sweet guy and keep him in mylife what is wrong with me why cant i keep a man in my life help please thanks. ps and why they always say i am nices and sweet to them but they still leave. tell me what i need to do or can do to get a man and keep him?????? why me??

2007-06-28 16:15:32 · 8 answers · asked by betty m 6 in Singles & Dating

I really like this boy, I think he likes me back, he kinda flirted with me but Im still not sure if he likes me? Sorry if this is a silly question.

2007-06-28 16:12:30 · 4 answers · asked by MelissaGoBoom! 1 in Singles & Dating

My mom asked me if I would go with my dad to drop her off to help him with the drive. I really dont want to go but I feel bad not helping him out. All my weekends in July are busy this will be my one free Saturday. Should I go? I feel guilty not helping. He is getting old.

2007-06-28 16:11:18 · 10 answers · asked by confused26 2 in Family

We are now engaged, we also have a 3 year old. He has had limited contact with the mother during pregnancy and only a few emails since the baby was born, a dna test proved he was the father. We live 3 hrs from the mother and haven't seen the baby, we have a consultation with a lawyer for visitation. The mother is pushing hard for him and his family, whom she has never met to come see the baby. He wants no contact with the mother, but is willing to see the baby, even though he thinks it would be better to just sign over the rights to the child instead of passing him back and forth and having to deal with the mother. What do you think is best for the child. The act was a mistake and there was no relationship between the parents. Should we be involved in his life, how often, or just sign him over and let her other sons father adopt him. we want to do whats best for the baby and our family too, me him and our daughter. He is very torn

2007-06-28 16:10:47 · 21 answers · asked by confuzed 1 in Family

i'm 28 years old and was living with my husband's house together with my sister in law and mother in law. Since i gave birth, they are the one's who kept spending most of the time with my baby and it was more of a routine schedule that everytime my sister in law goes home from work, my mother in law would eventually get the baby from me even though sometimes he is sleeping and just gave the baby in favor of her. At first it was an enjoyable time but how can i bond with my baby when all they got to do was spend most of the time with him?i don't want to hurt their feelings i tried talking to my husband and he ain't got problem with it. I was like having a separation anxiety with my baby. Is this normal?i do have work the whole day and goes off at 5pm. i was thinking of dropping off my baby to my family who lives nearby everyday and just get it after work, will this hurt their feelings?i need advice please.....

2007-06-28 16:09:34 · 15 answers · asked by nicole 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i waited nearly 4 years to tell him that i loved him and we are only really good friends...and i told him almost 3 months ago...we havent talked about it at all...but it went well and he was very happy...i live 1000 miles away currently but will be moving back soon and will go to his school...i told him and he said hed be waiting for me...wat does he mean...i really really love him...everyday more and more...and im not one to give out my heart...and everyone that knows me sayd when i meet the one...i will know...well i know...there is so much more to this story...but i only have like 400 characters left...so...well...

2007-06-28 16:09:25 · 6 answers · asked by catiegraham 2 in Singles & Dating

My mom asked me if I would go with my dad to drop her off to help him with the drive. I really dont want to go but I feel bad not helping him out. All my weekends in July are busy this will be my one free Saturday. Should I go? I feel guilty not helping. He is getting old.

2007-06-28 16:08:50 · 3 answers · asked by confused26 2 in Family

if you hada mother who was losing her mind literally and was really mean with psychotic epsides. and you felt obligated to stay in contact becuse seh is going through a rough time and all that BUT on the other hand you were about to be a single mom and give birth to a baby and not under the best finanicial situation and you ahd enough stress in dealing wth that and need to make you baby the focus of your energies and you feel like dealing with the crazy mother woudl take away from what you ahvet o give to your innocent baby. would u feel bad about just cutting the mother out ofy our life?

2007-06-28 16:05:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family