How do you plan an escape from a control freak husband with no job, money and car keys???

Question

Since my father inlaws death almost 2 yrs. ago, my husband has lost a screw or two. Friends and family members voices speak to him all the time all at once, telling him strange info. He thinks i can hear them as well and gets upset when i say i dont. He thinks a few personal items from his father have magical powers or sprits trapped inside them. The house, yard and bushes are filled with sprits and he will be the one to save everyone cuz Jesus will use him as a host. His mood swings are terrifying bcuz i have not done anything but hes sure that i did "the voices said so" Im doing things behind his back, I dont have his back. Its getting worse, he hides my car keys and i cannot leave the house. Does anyone have a car that i can work off (barter system) the price? i had my own cleaning service and managed a title co. for 12 years, when i had a life. I am desprite and dont know what to do, no living family and hes kept away any friends. Please help! Ive suggested counciling, he says no

Answer 1

Honestly I had a friend do the same thing... she was pscysophrenic. That definatley sounds like what is going on and those people can be severely dangerous. You need to get him help. If you have a camera record him saying some of this stuff and then call the police and ask for help... let them know that you truly believe your life is in danger. Gather up stuff and go to a shelter... call a local church and ask for help. I am telling you... be careful... you could really get hurt because he is not functioning in your reality.
Be careful and get some outside help quickly.

Answer 2

I have been through this with my mom and my step dad. He lost it as well. The best thing you can do is leave as fast as possible. If he is hearing voices and doing what they say it is hard telling what will happen next. If you feel that you can not leave on your own call the police. He has to sleep sometime. If you can't take your car run or walk. Go to a neighbor's and use the phone if you can't use your own. Just get out. If you have children make sure you take them with you. It is not easy I know. But, if you want out enough to post this question just go. You do not need a car. These things can be re bought. Life can not.

Answer 3

He is showing signs of being psychotic. Call your local human services department or call a local church and ask about going to a safe house. Whether it is intentional or not, what he is doing is abuse. A safe house will be just that, a place you can go without fear of him. They won't tell him your whereabouts, and they will help you gain your independence. Do it today, because without medication there is no telling what he might do. The wrestler that killed his family in Georgia this week was suffering from steroid psychosis and look what happened to his son and wife. Some say it was "roid rage" but the fact that he placed bibles next to the dead bodies of his wife and son shows a psychotic action. These people hear voices and sometimes those voices tell them to do terrible things. I'm not saying your husband does steroids, but sometime psychosis can happen for other reasons, including having bi-polar disorder. I don't want to scare you needlessly, but you have to get away from your husband TODAY! You have already seen that you can't reason with him. If he can't be responsible for himself, you can't assume he won't harm you somehow. Good luck and please take care.

Answer 4

Try to talk to him seriously about maybe getting some help... sounds like he had a nervous break down and is having scitzo tendencies...and from person experiance... you either want that person to get help or you want to get out... look for some mental healthcare providers numbers in the Yellow Pages and even call and ask them how to approach him about the subject... and if you believe he'll get violent... make sure someone is either there when you approach him or you have a phone near by to call for help... or you can just try and make a wuit exit of the house... not saying he's violent... but he surelly sounds paranoid...

Answer 5

I volunteer for a domestic Violence hotline and wherever you are (state, City, etc) there is a shelter to call whether he has hit you or not you are still in danger get out walk if you have to. make sure you always carry your id, passport, dl etc with you and the minute you get the chance run and never ever look back. You can take your life back and be happy. Just leave. Call a shelter or just pack a bag and go.

Answer 6

It sounds like your husband has paranoid schizophrenia. First you need to understand the difference. Schizophrenia is when a person is usually only harmful to themselves, but paranoid schizophrenia is when that person is harmful to everyone. Usually it is brought on by trauma and his father’s death sounds like the trigger. You need to find a family member or friend to come and get you and who will let you stay with them until you can straighten your finances out. If your husband is as dangerous as he sounds you need to make sure a cop is there just in case. He needs to be committed for the time being until they can get him into counseling and on some medication. You definitely need to get out of there as soon as possible before he harms you; don’t underestimate his disease. Good luck.

Answer 7

I know this will sound off the wall hon.There IS such things as demons and it sounds like they are tormenting your husband.Get in touch with a United Pentecostal preacher, they HAVE power to cast out demons in JESUS name and they can help your husband.Don't tell him what you are going to do, get the preacher to visit and ask the LORD to give you a sign if what I am telling you is right or not.You pick the sign.GOD is able to do it.I have known of people who hear voices and a lot of times it is demons.

Answer 8

I say when he leave you call the police and get the hell out of there Sweetie. You need to get in touch with woman suportive services and get some support going and an escape plan. They will help and so won't the poice. You just call and tell them what is going on and that he is gone and you need someone to come and get you NOW and bring you to a safe place..They will help...My heart goes out to you and my prayers are with you! Don't waist time..Get out while your till breathing Gods good air!

Answer 9

when he is out, ring the womens refuge and ask them to come and pick you up and take you to a safe house. I don't know which country you're in but wherever you are there should be a similar organisation. He can't touch you there and they can help you with any legal issues etc and get you back on track. Good luck!!

Answer 10

Most men will say no to counseling. What you need to do is turn to God and trust in him, but you have to have faith. Also, if you have children, try to network with the other kids parents, this way you can have some where to go if you need to. If hubby is been abusive, then do not wait for him to change, get help, for you and your children.