everytime i think i have a bf by 3 or 4thdate they dump me why ask me out for a 2 date if you are going to leave me by 3 or 4th or 5th date i am 29 years old almost 30 i just want to find mr right and get marryed and have kids someday with the right guy but dont think that will ever happen everytime i think i have found mr right they leave me lonely and heartbroken sick of getting hurt but tired of beening alone why dose this keep happening to me how can i find a nices sweet guy and keep him in mylife what is wrong with me why cant i keep a man in my life help please thanks. ps and why they always say i am nices and sweet to them but they still leave. tell me what i need to do or can do to get a man and keep him?????? why me??
2007-06-28 16:15:32 · 8 answers · asked by betty m 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i tell them i want to get marryed and have kids someday because they ask or they have been marryed befor and my last bf had a son by his ex:s but they were not marryed he is 35 i date 20something or 30something years old man and he was from southaven ms and i am from winona we stayed 100miles away from one another. but i tell a guy if they ask i tell i am opened and i tell the truth about myself always.
2007-06-28 17:18:58 · update #1
i just want to be happy and someone to hold me in there arms while watching a dvd i like that alot and miss that when i dont have a bf.
2007-06-28 17:21:33 · update #2
Hi Betty,
The majority of men will fall into two categories : those who are just casually dating, those who are ready to settle down.
If you come across as being interested in the second type, the guys who aren't interested in long term will pick up on it instantly. Their radar is on to detect dependent or over-eager women and they will give little sign of this in advance.
Where are you meeting these men? If it is in bars, clubs, or cocktail parties, you are meeting people who want to have a good time and probably are not inclined to the long term.
I met an incredible woman thru Yahoo Personals. Emailed and spoke over the phone for a while before we agreed to meet. Got to know one another and the most important attributes we were searching for in a person, before we ever agreed to meet. Let it build slowly from innocent conversation. Left all talk of long terms plans, marriage, children, left all of this out of the equation.
She left an air of mystery. She always kept me interested and guessing and was careful not to reveal too much information in our conversations. It was like a challenge, to want to know more about her. She flirted and then would leave it up to me to search for the answers and follow my curiosity.
Be confident and keep certain things to yourself until you are certain the person you are dating is just dying to know the answer(s).
Best of luck to you ~
2007-07-06 09:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by yoak 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hope you can understand that I don't mean a single harsh thing....
You're 29... the cream of the crop is mostly gone.... atleast it is by that age down here.... that's most of what your problem is. The guys that are single at 29 are usually single for a good reason... but on the same notion, they might be thinking the same thing about you.
Don't let yourself give up, but do realize that a guy you're age that's a legitimate good guy is hard to find. I have heard that if you live in places like New York City it's easier to find them (because it's typical for them to marry a little bit later in life). But I'm from Tennessee....that doesn't happen here. If you don't have someone special in your life by 25, you might start looking at getting a cat or two.
2007-06-28 16:27:15 · answer #2 · answered by Matt B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you why just from what you're typing and how you're typing it.
If I can pick up on the problem from a bunch of text, you can imagine that the guys you're dating are picking up on it too.
Guys probably view you as too needy or too clingy. You're telling us that your main focus is to get married and have kids, you probably give off the same feeling to guys who want to date you.
You're 29, and you're getting up there in years. I understand you want to find the right person, but you can't let them know that. The only people you will ever find are the men who are as desperate as you are. Do you want that?
Try looking among your friends. Think about some guy friends who have loyally been your friends for years and years. That shy, quiet guy who has always been there for you.
Remember, you're looking for a husband now, not a boyfriend to sweep you off your feet.
2007-06-28 16:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by Kleptin A 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't ever put your self down for any guy that did not know what he had ...i am sure you are smart and pretty girl there are many fishes in the sea just go out to night clubs and dress up really nice go out with your friends and you will find a guy soon...soon you will find Mr Right you can meet a nice guy try the dating websites good luck
2007-07-06 15:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't tell them that you want to get married and have kids! It is embarrassing to them!They r trying to be nice to you saying that you r nice and stuff. They r uncomfortable and you r too clingy. You have to back off and see if they want to have a really strong relationship just like you want to.
2007-07-06 12:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by mabekah m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be yourself and u will find the one 4 u .Nomatter what people say or do be your self.Thats what i would want in a girl .tell people the way u feel sad,happy or mad.And dont forget 2 pray everday and nite.GOD BLESS i hope u find the one
2007-06-28 16:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by Chris B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me you are giving them too much info in the short amount of time you are with them.when they ask you if you have ever been married say no, but I will not rule it out in my future and leave it at that. you are scaring them off by sounding so desperate
2007-07-05 11:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by cheri h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch your mouth, what you speak and things will be great.
2007-07-06 15:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by D.R.M.M's Fairplay's Man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋