Family & Relationships - 23 June 2007

Ive been living at home for 3 months, hasnt been working out. My parents accuse me of not helping out, plus they seem to think i have personal problems. My mom kept telling me i need to move out...so i am. NOW that i've decided to move out, my mom doesnt want me to. It's like, oh well if you can get along you can stay, blah blah. I dont want to stay. I am going to be 29, i dont feel like i have a life with them. At the same time i like having her approval and now i feel guilty about moving. What should i do?

2007-06-23 06:54:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

From when I was 6 up until I was taken into the foster system at 16 my mother abused me emotionally, verbally, and physically. She traumatized me and left me with PTSD and severely stunted social skills. She ruined my life.
Now, three years later, i'm 19, I wrote a letter to her to see how she's doing, tell her how I'm doing, answer questions, etc.
Yesterday she called me and sounded like a completely different person. She just called and acted as if nothing happened, as if we had just talked the day before! She just rambled on about her day, whats on tv, etc. as if nothing happened. She wants to "forget the past" and says we "need" to get along.
I'm confused and taken aback. I've always resented her for years and convinced myself I hated her, but when she called, for some reason I was happy to hear from her.
I don't know how to react, what to do, how to feel. She wants to meet up but my boyfriend is very weary of her because he knows what she's put me through.
What should I do?

2007-06-23 06:50:30 · 10 answers · asked by orangeflavoredfairy 2 in Family

2007-06-23 06:47:48 · 7 answers · asked by hi 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-23 06:43:21 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been faithfully married for 19 years to a wonderful husband and father. I recently noticed that I have been having more than ususal discharge. So of course I went on the internet to see what could cause this and all my symptoms pointed to chlamydia. I was devistated because I only had one partner so this obviously ment that my husband cheated. I was so afraid and ashamed to go to my gyno and have her tell me my results so i confronted my husband and he said he did not cheat but i knew somthing was amiss he then told me he did something stupid. When I asked he told me he was extreemly stressed and was blaming me for all his problems and was mad at me and went to a strip club. So i was shocked that he would even consider having sex with a stripper he told me he did not that the stripper came very close to him and held his head to her private and he felt something wet. He he left right away! What should I do i find this hard to believe what do u think?

2007-06-23 06:43:20 · 20 answers · asked by Lisa E 1 in Marriage & Divorce

recently ive became very close friends with a shop vac, is this wierd or am i just overreacting

2007-06-23 06:39:20 · 8 answers · asked by mikey 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Okay. Long story short. My boyfriend and i have been dating for 5 mo's. We get along great,make each other laugh,good conversationetc.. We have a great sex life, very cant keep our hands of each other. -----Today he went to work, i slept in. I went online to check my e-mail and fine i looked at his history, i know that not the trusting thing to do but at least i wasnt digging through his drawers, anyway the boy looks at porn EVERYDAY. An average of about 15 sites a day. Videos,stories,personals, everything.Porn, even on days that i must have just left him after having sex. I am a little weirded out, I must say. I can admit that i have never seen him go to the sites and it hasnt hindered with anytime we spend together. Just kinda weirded me out. Is that okay? That much porn? What does it mean when you have "successful" sex with your girlfriend and when she leaves you go to the porn?

2007-06-23 06:39:07 · 12 answers · asked by paisley 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-06-23 06:32:43 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

what should I tell him?

2007-06-23 06:31:19 · 20 answers · asked by em_the_gem 1 in Singles & Dating

First let me start by saying, I'm not asking what I should do about my ex, I am asking how to get his jealous wife from harrassing me. Now here's the story:
I don't know what to do. I was in a relationship with a man for 5 years, we almost got married, but things ended because we both needed to concentrate on our careers which were going to send us in different directions. Since then we've kept in touch periodically. About a year and a half ago he became "friendlier", we began dating again, we started sleeping together again, and then he disappeared. A few months later he called me to ask me out for coffee to tell me he had gotten engaged. We still talked periodically, e-mailed back in forth, and recently we went out to dinner to catch up. I asked him how married life was treating him, and he said he had broken his engagement because he didn't feel he was ready to get married. About a week ago I sent him an e-mail to let him know I had run into his best friend from college. Yesterday I got a NASTY message from his wife. Calling me sad & pathetic, someone who couldn't take a hint, and just attacking my character.

2007-06-23 06:29:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've dated my fiancee for 3 1/2 years and I've been engaged for 18 months. I moved into his home to get married (didn't want everything to happen at once-stress) and I found some mail that indicated that his ex wife is his beneficiary (they've been divorced for over 13 years). Due to this, questions popped up and I went through his cell phone (didn't know what I was looking for, but didn't trust "something"). Upon looking, I found the name of his EX-Mistress (he was cheating on his 16 year marriage for 9 NINE years with this woman). I've made it clear early on that I wouldn't be able to support any contact with this woman. I'm being told that he just never changed his beneficiary information because he forgot or just didn't do it type of forgetting. He's saying the same about deleting his Ex-mistresses phone number. There is another girl that he dated in his cell phone too (not worried about her though). Could a man forget so much business-he's usually on top of things finacial..

2007-06-23 06:29:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My sister n law is jealous of everything I do. For instance, since last year I have been looking for a small resonably priced car that gets good fuel mpg, and she knew this, so while i was gone on a trip, she went out to buy a 07 toyota hybrid fully loaded.She fingered I couldnt afford anything pass that. So in Mar I finally found me a 07 jeep compass. From that moment on that all she could talk to me about was jeeeeeeps. Then here recently she traded in her car(5 months old) for a jeep wrangler 4 door. I havent seen it yet but dont worry she called me on my trip to let me know about it, the only time she called. The whole time she was putting down my jeep. So i'm suppose to come home and i know she cant wait to rub it in my face. im happy for her but i dont know how to be about this situation. She's hoping i'll be jealous, but i'm really just aggrevated.

2007-06-23 06:21:40 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

she was staying w/her step sister at her step sisters mom's house and they snuck out and this is the 2nd time they did this. the police pulled them over. there were 3 unknown boys in the car and them and another girl. 1 of the boys was drinking and the boy that was driving got his license taken away for numerous charges etc.. i am very upset at the fact that the girls snuck out and were running the streets after 3am! like i said this happend while she was staying there for an over night visit. what sort of disipline should be applied on a situation like this? she wants to go to a bon fire party tonight with her boyfriend and i said no and she is ANGRY yes ANGRY at me because i old her no since she snuck out. she thinks that I am being unfair. i on the otherhand think that is fair to not let her go since she pulled that 2 days ago. i feel sorry for the boyfriend because he is NOT like this and he was not there w/them and those other boys. he feels like she cheated on him. what to do?

2007-06-23 06:20:57 · 15 answers · asked by NEWPORT BEACH GIRL 4 in Family

I have a public exam in November. I tried studying alot but my marks are still just average. I dont know what else i must do. I think i need a motivation but i dunno what can motivate me. Pls help

2007-06-23 06:18:02 · 4 answers · asked by Fr3e@K3D 1 in Singles & Dating

im 15 and my brother is 6. when im nice, he is mean. i used his movie and he spit on me. then he hit me and i spit on his shirt. help! he is being a brat and wont share his cotton candy. he had a huge bag and only gave me a tiny peice. how selfish! he is being a brat when i am being nice or wanting to play. help! he is being gay. even when i go by him, he starts spitting on me or screaming. he blames me for his messes and then i get blamed for it. then he sits there and laughs while i have to clean it up! i dont want a brother! help!

2007-06-23 06:14:40 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I have lived in a foster home for 4 years.How do I get out of it?

2007-06-23 06:11:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-06-23 06:10:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-06-23 06:09:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-06-23 06:08:25 · 10 answers · asked by sconyers_a 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a friend thats having a affair with a married man.His family knows that he is having this affair and his family wont tell his wife.They have had this affair for 3 years and he has been married for 10.Why wont he leave his wife or the mistress?

2007-06-23 06:07:12 · 20 answers · asked by missylynn2005_1829 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Is it abuse when my older brother (24) spanks me(11) for doing something wrong?

p.s. I live with him cause my parents died

2007-06-23 06:01:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

she's turning 40 and wants something less than $5. she's also having a competition.

any ideas?

2007-06-23 06:01:17 · 8 answers · asked by Guy B 1 in Family

what is going on here? i answer questions with honest rational answers for dating so who hates me? who is sending me nasty hateful im's? step up and be a man! i'm willing to take on the challenge!

2007-06-23 06:00:45 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Heres what happened: Everytime I try to speak my opinion, to her she'll only hear hers! Its quite annoying if you know what I mean. Im only 16 and I know Im not the smartest person in the world, but I do know my way around. She makes me feel stupid about everything. She thinks Im totally incapable of things she isnt. She doesnt even trust me. And Im not one of thoes delinquints. I do my homework. I get straight A's. What do I do? How can I proove to her that Im not as immature as she thinks?

2007-06-23 06:00:32 · 3 answers · asked by laurenisthebombohyes 1 in Family

This girl is not a nice person she generally has to get her own way, and spreads rumours. i know this from personal experience as she broke up one of my friends relationships. I don't know whether i should say something as i don't want him getting hurt.

2007-06-23 05:59:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

....or can you just kick back and relax?

2007-06-23 05:59:20 · 16 answers · asked by Amy K 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, so my long term boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 years now. We have been through a lot, and off and on sometimes. We are miserable when we are NOT togther. He's 31 and I'm 24. We have so much togther and already live together and everything. I love him more than anything and would never to anything to hurt him. There is one concern I have. Why won't he marry me? I mean, we each have little flaws about each other, but I know that he loves me, and whatever it is we can get through it together.
I think about this everyday. I'm almost to the point where I think I should move out soon and move on, cause I'm tired of waiting for something that will never happen. I mean, if he really wanted to be with me there would be no question right??? I just don't understand. It's soo hard because most of mine and his friends are either engaged or happily married. I just needed to vent and an outside perspective.

2007-06-23 05:59:01 · 12 answers · asked by lizbabe01 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband, who is very critical and quick to point out everything wrong with me (hair, weight, clothes, you-name-it) has made every computer password "Sarah36D". For the record, I'm Sarah36B.

He's harrassed me for years to get implants (I won't) and refuses to change the password, saying, "It's got letters and numbers, it's easy to remember, and I'm a tit man."

Everytime I have to type the darn password, I feel slapped in the face, like my breasts aren't good enough. Am I just being too sensitive, or do I insist he change it?

I'd love to hear from both men and women. Thanks!

2007-06-23 05:58:23 · 42 answers · asked by Sarah D 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-23 05:57:25 · 8 answers · asked by Eugene H 1 in Singles & Dating

well I do!!!!!!!!!!!!! does any1 else she is sk8ter chick?

2007-06-23 05:55:28 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family