Ive been living at home for 3 months, hasnt been working out. My parents accuse me of not helping out, plus they seem to think i have personal problems. My mom kept telling me i need to move out...so i am. NOW that i've decided to move out, my mom doesnt want me to. It's like, oh well if you can get along you can stay, blah blah. I dont want to stay. I am going to be 29, i dont feel like i have a life with them. At the same time i like having her approval and now i feel guilty about moving. What should i do?
2007-06-23 06:54:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok i dont think it's that unheard of to a be a 29 (actually 29 next month) year old female and living at home. I was married at 23, divorced at 24, lived at home 6 months, then moved out for 3 years. My roomate was a selfish slob so in March I moved out. I"ve only been at home 3 months. I have a great job, great social life and i'm in grad school...not like i'm some loser who sits on her parents couch smoking pot. Thanks...
2007-06-23 07:11:58 · update #1
Move. At 29 you should be self-supporting. But, until you do, help out and make an extra effort to get along with everyone in the household.
2007-06-23 06:59:41 · answer #1 · answered by Sammie's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lucky because you have this opportuniy, just go and face the life, it's good to be independent
I should stay with my parents for the rest of my life, it's not that bad, but I would prefer to live alone, to manage my life the way I want, to planify everything the way I say things, on my own view, not somebody's view,
I can't even chose the colors of my room, I can't watch the TV channel i want, I should eat when they eat, I can't have a shower the night because mom thinks it's not good for the walls of the house, When I wach dishes I should do that the same way as mom do it,
when I buy a new dress, I should expect a long conversation like "you should your money for soemthing more iomportant bla bla bla...."
I'm really fed up, I want to have a life, my own life...
if you have this opportunity just do it, you will learn a lot, and you will feel human
2007-06-23 14:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by curious girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crazygal? Your name alone speaks volumes and your age tells of an adult woman who at the expense of having fun has neglected to carve a future for herself. At 29 you should have zero need to be living at home with mom and pops. The only reason they are afraid to let you leave is because they are afraid that like in the past they will have to bail you out when you have problems. I don't think its their approval you want so much as the comfort of them taking care of you. Crazygal, you know what I am saying is true. You have run home before and when you are there they sacrifice money, time and space for you. You love being there but you hate them telling you what to do. I say you move out and the sooner the better if you want to salvage your relationship with your parents.
2007-06-23 14:08:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 29 move out. Your mom has mixed emotions but it is time for you to go. Can't believe you would live at home at that age anyway. If money is tight find a roommate. Don't feel guilty.
2007-06-23 13:59:37 · answer #4 · answered by bluebird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a grown woman and have no business living with your parents unless you are unable to take care of yourself. Stop being passive aggressive with your mom and get a life.
2007-06-23 13:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its time to cut the ubilical cord both you and mom are co dependents on each other go with your gut feeling you know it is really time. yes being in grad school and having to foot all the bills isnt easy but it will make you stronger. grow the hell up
2007-06-23 14:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by yasten69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can afford it, move out
2007-06-23 13:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by sexy joker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋