Ex-Hell Clarification?

Question

First let me start by saying, I'm not asking what I should do about my ex, I am asking how to get his jealous wife from harrassing me. Now here's the story:
I don't know what to do. I was in a relationship with a man for 5 years, we almost got married, but things ended because we both needed to concentrate on our careers which were going to send us in different directions. Since then we've kept in touch periodically. About a year and a half ago he became "friendlier", we began dating again, we started sleeping together again, and then he disappeared. A few months later he called me to ask me out for coffee to tell me he had gotten engaged. We still talked periodically, e-mailed back in forth, and recently we went out to dinner to catch up. I asked him how married life was treating him, and he said he had broken his engagement because he didn't feel he was ready to get married. About a week ago I sent him an e-mail to let him know I had run into his best friend from college. Yesterday I got a NASTY message from his wife. Calling me sad & pathetic, someone who couldn't take a hint, and just attacking my character.

I e-mailed her back apologizing, letting her know that I am not trying to undermine their marriage and that he had never mentioned he was married. Again she responded that I was sad and pathetic, and accused me of trying to make her paranoid about her marriage. I don't really understand how telling her there is nothing going on constitutes me trying to undermine the marriage. It kind of ticked me off, so I told her that I'm not a threat but I'm also not a liar. So I told her, that we had dinner and he charged it on his AMEX, gave her the date and place, and noted that if she had his cell phone statement she could see numerous calls to my number. Her response was "He was right about you". I didn't respond to that because its not worth it. I can't defend myself, but what do I do, she is now harrassing me through e-mail, and repeatedly calling my phone calling me a whore and a liar. How do I make it stop? Why didn't he just tell me he was married when I asked him?

Just to clarify, when I asked him how married life was treating him, he said he had broken the engagement, when in reality he has been married to this woman since 2005. He told me he wasn't married 2 weeks ago. So he lied to me. Second, I did respond to her e-mail and tell her that I wasn't interested in her husband, and that I was not aware he was married, but she responded that I was pathetic and was trying to ruin her marriage, not she's harrassing me. She says she doesn't believe me but now she keeps e-mailing me calling me a whore, and a liar, and calling my phone at all hours. How do I make it stop!

Answer 1

Your ex boyfriend seems to be a man of weak moral character and do be careful about getting deeper into relationship with him.

As for his wife, she is probably pathologically jealous, but do have some compassion, for, she must be feeling very vulnerable and dsperate with her marriage crumpling around her and we do not know what stories her husband is telling her about you.

As you already told her the truth, just send her a short email saying you do not want anything more to do with her or her husband and change your email address. If she then adopts any intimidating measures you may have to ask for police help.

Answer 2

Wow, I'll bet you are glad you didn't get together with your nasty ex. What a creep.

Try to feel a little sorry for his wife - after all, she is stuck with the guy! And no doubt her hostility toward you is about feeling betrayed by him. Chances are that you are not the only woman he is courting who is not his wife.

BUT her behaviour toward you is outrageously inappropriate. Let her know that if the messages and calls don't stop, you will call the cops. And call the cops if they don't.

Answer 3

Dear Victim,
I'm sorry this has happened to you. You could take this woman to court if you wanted to. Record her phone calls save her e-mails and you could sue her *** for harassment.
Or you could simply get a new e-mail address, which is easy with Yahoo because it's free. Change your phone number, and the locks on your house. This woman could be dangerous. Take precautions.God Bless you,
Sunshine

Answer 4

It's easy to stop this harassment. 1) Block her e-mails or at least don't open them. 2) Block her calls. 3) Have nothing more to do with your former friend.

Answer 5

You should just tell her to shove off and to stop being a sadistic b***h and if she doesn't stop harassing you that you will call the cops and press charges...if she still bothers you after that...either talk to your ex, or call the cops, seriously!

Answer 6

You change your phone number, get a new e-mail address and avoid him and any contact with him whatsoever from now on. You sound really mature and intelligent, you deserve better.

Answer 7

Thanks lots once again for the "Clarification" Block her as I said before, and you may as well Report to the police about this going on.. Belive me "They will put a stop at this" She has to agree to them that she will stop, if she dosen't she may be fined or taken in to a new place to stay, ( if you know what I mean)!! Wish you well, Thanks again..
Have a good day..
Ciao

Answer 8

well you need to change your number. that simple.
this person is gonna keep harrassing you.
With the email just delete.
good luck.

Answer 9

Get on with your life dont worry about her.

Answer 10

file a police report.