Family & Relationships - 20 March 2007

He leaves on the 1st flight out on Monday morning and returns Friday afternoon. We avarage sex 1 time a month and it almost seems that I always have to ask for it. He tells me that he is under so much stess with work and takes lexapro which decreases his sex drive. I feel like I am meeting all his needs and in return he doesnt and wont try to meet my physcial needs. I have asked him if he is seeing anyone and he tells me no.. but how does a 35 yr old man not need or want sex.
This is causing major problems. Am I missing something?!?

2007-03-20 17:41:04 · 15 answers · asked by Liz 2 in Marriage & Divorce

her not making me maid of honor is very understandable and acceptable, but why would she not make me bridesmaid?
we have been so close. we have cried in each other's arms. we share our problems, joys and grieves with each other...
and what makes me feel even weirder is she chose one of the girls from bridegroom's family to be one of the bridesmaids.
That doesnt even sound fair... lol
I know I am acting all immature, but i have been really close to both the bride and the bridegroom... I feel weird just being a guest.
I was almost considering not going to her wedding, but then I am not sure.

2007-03-20 17:40:55 · 16 answers · asked by rose 1 in Weddings

I usually find him in conversation with different girls. He's tryingto hide the window whenever i pass but i accidentally see some. And i know that their exchanging pictures.

I'm worried coz i know that he's flirting with them. Is that ok?

2007-03-20 17:40:54 · 9 answers · asked by joyap101 2 in Marriage & Divorce

not like stalking them, but if it's the person of your dreams then isn't it harder to start a relationship?

2007-03-20 17:40:27 · 7 answers · asked by psst..its me 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

She will not get better she will be blind but we don't know when. How can I help with this transition. She is already legally blind. She is married with two young children. It hurts me to see it happen But I am always there for her, I am just afraid of not being there enough or in the right way when it happens. How can I support her in wonderful way when she goes totally blind.

2007-03-20 17:39:53 · 5 answers · asked by Chrissy #1 4 in Friends

2007-03-20 17:39:32 · 10 answers · asked by hachifusa 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Her male pen pal is in wayne county jail and may be released this year.She has strong feelings for him,and feels it may be her destiny to meet him.He has commited 2 violent crimes and served 10yrs..Our 17 yr marriage is on a knife edge;not because of this pen pal though.I have failed to keep work/life/kids/interests balanced.I am taking action.Shortened working week,anxiety medication,counselling for temper,ceased smoking,helping at home with teens and chores.i.e.being the husband she's missed.She's looking for a way out and I don't want her to.
She speaks to pen pals family regular.They paid for his advert on the web so he had outside mail coming in(should have served 40yrs).I understand that would keep him sane.But with imminent release back to his family,why would they want my wife there?Obviously I am making assumptions.It could be just to say thank you.

2007-03-20 17:39:30 · 2 answers · asked by maple166 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Need the contact person of the Counsellor / A Psyciatrist.

2007-03-20 17:38:56 · 2 answers · asked by shankar_hv 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My bf cheated on me, used me and had sex. Abused me mentally and verbally. Talked nicely sometimes. After 2 years when marriage time came, ran away saying I am not beautiful. I am not fair. I am Indian girl with a decent look. He kept cheating me for another girl and always tried hide me. I found the truth and made him to tell me the truth. which he did, when I said I will call the other girl and tell everything. he got scared and said he likes her a little. Now he tries to seduce her, he will use her also. I feel so bad, whom I trusted so much, gave everything he cheated on me. Feeling like killing him to death. mOVE ON, with so much wounds, its diff to go on like this. I cry every day. My bf is not bothered. He talks to her and enjoying his life. How can some one do this to me? what should I do? Infront of everyone and even the other girl he is very good. what is he in real I know. How to take revenge? what shd I do? plz help me..Thank you so much...

2007-03-20 17:37:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I ve been seeing this guy for almost 2 years we have a 1 year old and i am 5 months pregnant he says he loves me but he still lives with his ex that he has a son with and takes care of her 3 other kids that are not his . I love him a lot and when hes away i cant stopp thinking about him , But deep down inside i know things are always gonna be this way . Some times i think i have to leave town if i really want him out of my life we breake up for a couple of months then he calls and i let him ;come back because i miss him so much how do i stopp these feelings and move on with my life it seems that no matter how i try i cant tell him no and stick to it

2007-03-20 17:37:22 · 4 answers · asked by Sd 1 in Singles & Dating

So there's this guy that used to be interested in me (I'm not sure if he still is in the way he was before). We talk online often and see each other between a class every other day and chat for a bit.
I really want to hug him because he's a nice and supportive friend, but I can't seem do it.
Recently he approached me as his class was ending and mine was begining and I felt him get close to me ( I thought " perfect hug opportunity" online this was infront of a lecture hall of 30-50 something of my closest aquaintences) and this akwards elbow hand thing was going on as if he wanted to give me a hug or something he kept swaying towards and away from me.
I want to give him a hug, but i don't want to like him.Maybe my awareness of his past interest or me starting to like him is keeping from hugging him? I really don't know?

So i pose the question when its not your best friend yet, a family member or an introduction or a member of the same sex,How do you hug?

2007-03-20 17:37:20 · 2 answers · asked by Stefi J 2 in Singles & Dating

I lost my bracelet at school. I know I will never find it . It is real. I cost about $200. My mom bought it for me. she does not know that I lost it. Now I feel really bad. I can not do any thing . I just want to cry all day. Please cheer me up.

2007-03-20 17:37:01 · 6 answers · asked by OMG 3 in Friends

My cousin is getting married in June, and she plans to wear her wedding ring to the outside of her engagement ring. My cousin argues that the engagement ring is placed on first, so it is supposed to be worn to the inside. When I got married, i didn't wear my engagement ring at the ceremony, because I thought the wedding band was supposed to be placed and worn at the base of the finger. Therefore I wear my wedding ring to the inside.

Does anyone know the proper way it's supposed to be worn?

2007-03-20 17:36:28 · 11 answers · asked by missy13d69 2 in Weddings

Ha, i know about ten million guys have already asked this question but some advice would be nice. Thanks.

2007-03-20 17:36:13 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-03-20 17:35:43 · 9 answers · asked by jmarsey74 1 in Marriage & Divorce

because he kept talking about two peas in a pod and being connected. Well, today as I drove home I happened upon him and I made an impromptu stop just to chat, he introduced me to his son which kind of threw a curve ball at me, I hadn't noticed the child in the back seat... I must say I am kind of confused... why would he introduce his son to me?

2007-03-20 17:35:22 · 6 answers · asked by majibu 1 in Singles & Dating

after that because of his ex he brokeoff with me, even i ignored him and cutoff with him for 6 months,after 6 months he contacted me said sorry and tried to make our relationship but suddenly his behavior changed , he started treating me as his friend only(there is no one in his life right now neither his ex).he told one of her friend(who is my friend as well) that he thinks things wont workout between me and him because of his family and all, his family knew about his ex and the mess she made with his family and all, he says its not possible for him to take a serious step, after hearing all this i started ignoring him and i started creating distance between us,after so long i wan online on msn yesterday, he messaged me asked me how i am and all i asked him how was he and all, he passed compliment on my pic said looking cute i like this colour you are wearing i just talked to him for minutes i said i m busy bye tc , what he wants?when what should i do? should i wait or move on?

2007-03-20 17:34:33 · 3 answers · asked by Ashiii 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a skin condition that there is no cure for ,but it isn't contagious.However,it covers a large part of my hands and is very unsightly.Everyone seems to avoid me like I was a leper or something.I usually lie to people and tell the I was burned when I was younger.
I don't have any friends outside of my family and when I muster up enough self-esteem to talk to women they look at my hands and it seems thier whole perception changes and my self-esteem plummets again.I rarely ever go outside my house except to work because of this.I also have some of the rashiness on my ears also so that just makes things worse.I truly feel there is nothing in this life for me anymore and I've talked with doctors about the issues of my skin and there is really nothing that can be done they say.
I just don't understand why women can't just look at my personality and not the faults of my skin.I can't help I was born with this stupid s**t.
I'm so tired of being depressed all my life.IT SUCKS!!!!!!!

2007-03-20 17:33:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

would you wish you had a sister or a brother and why ?

2007-03-20 17:32:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Ok me and my bf have been dating for about 2 months now. And recently me, him and his mom and my parents all went out and had lunch together to get to know each other. My mom says he is on the road to marriage and freaking out that im getting this serious with him..i said its just lunch and thats all. His mom also i found out put us in a prayer book and said like she was happy that he found someone to make him happy and hoped that we would be happy and stuff like that. I know we are getting serious and stuff but im not ready for marriage..is he getting this serious?

2007-03-20 17:32:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I told my mother that my significant other and I will be getting married after meeting him for 4-5 mths. She went bulistic, started threating me with my father, telling me he would not help me in any way, might even take back the car he gave me, which is still in his name. She constantly asked whats the rush? Why do you want to get married so soon? Are you pregnant? I told her "no". In fact, I am pregnant, but did not want to tell her b/c I know how she reacted about the marriage. Should I go ahead and tell her anyways, knowing that this is the result? Or should I keep it to myself and run off get married to the guy I am in love and pregnant by and let her find out later after marriage?

2007-03-20 17:32:04 · 15 answers · asked by Amenity 3 in Family

An ex-friend of mine (the friendship ended about 6 mos ago) has sent me numerous cards "anonymously" from cruelcards.com, gone onto MySpace and pretended t be someone else in order to cause trouble bw my boyfriend and I, and has sent things to my home by logging onto websites and filling out my info. (no credit card info.) -- just signing me up for all sorts of things and bills are coming even though no cc info. was used to sign up for the accounts. She has also done this to my other friend because we were a three-best friend trio, until we both had to cut the friendship with her for necessary reasons...six months ago, and this is still happening. She always uses anonymous names to send the cards and on MySpace, and then my name to order things so it's hard to prove it's her. Any ideas on what I can do???

2007-03-20 17:31:24 · 1 answers · asked by Ariel D 1 in Friends

We live three hours apart. The phone is the only way for us to keep in touch. She told me she would call me in ten minutes and I didn't hear from her for two and a half hours. I was somewhat annoyed with this, but didn't really say anything. She could tell that I was upset a little. Since her call, I've tried calling her twice to talk about this but she didn't answer her phone. She's 28, I shouldn't have to play these childish games anymore. Should I be annoyed with this situation?

2007-03-20 17:31:14 · 5 answers · asked by Chris B 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-20 17:30:47 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My friends wife left him after a 17 year marriage for a coworker they have been together for about 4 months now. I told him she is still in the lust phase and another 3-4 months she should realize her mistake. What do you think?

2007-03-20 17:30:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my boyfriend of 2 years is currently undergoing cancer treatment, he didn't have cancer while i firstly met him. Now i try to do the right thing by 'sticking' with him, he has stopped working so i pay for most of the food and bills, he has to go to the hospital twice a month so i take time off my work and take him there, i also have to endure his depression and sad mood, i feel lonely and depressed, we are both 28 years old. Recently i feel alot of resentment towards him and his situation, i know its not his fault that he got cancer, but i feel very hateful of my life, what can i do to stop feeling this way?

2007-03-20 17:30:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I have been trying to get my partner to counselling for over two months of pure hell. Ou relationship had alot of probelms before this but he wouldn't think about therapy, even when i suggest pre wedding counselling. For some reason he cant tell anyone any problems he has everything has to b behind closed doors. One prob was that i felt really controlled. Before we married I was given an ultimatum about cig smoking saying he wouldn't marry me unless i gave up. So i agreed bec I didn't want to loose him but it was always a prob how that was done. I have since been smoking when we argue, but so does he. His excuse was he never made a vow about it. the last straw was when he refused to go to counselling unless I satisfied all these coditions, which I thought was crap bec if you need help u need help. After aying I couldn't go on without going to therapy, i went by myself when he was ment to come, i went out with friends that night as i was miserable. when I came home there was a note....

2007-03-20 17:29:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Day light changes from night to day
But somehow forever our love will stay

We went through alot of things
Gifts always were just watches or rings

But now it's all ended and we are no more
And my heart really doesnt want to be sore

So here is a poem saying how much im still in love
And I wish my soul could finally be as free as a dove

I miss your smile I miss your charm
I miss my fast beating heart when you would gentley touch my arm

I know we agreed to move along
but my in my head is still the beat of "our song"

I just hope now and pray
that I can get over you in some quick way

Our love forever will it be
even when my heart is lent out to other company

So remember our laughs,our talks,and our cries
and i wont ever forget the love i saw in your eyes.

2007-03-20 17:29:05 · 21 answers · asked by Kaitlyn P 2 in Singles & Dating

I was recently in a situation where I asked my girlfriend why she loved me and she said she didn't know. Is this common? Should I leave her?

2007-03-20 17:28:57 · 20 answers · asked by Romahn G 3 in Singles & Dating

why do guys cheat on girls all the time and can never be trusted?

2007-03-20 17:28:05 · 7 answers · asked by just_like_me_for_me 1 in Singles & Dating