I have a skin condition that there is no cure for ,but it isn't contagious.However,it covers a large part of my hands and is very unsightly.Everyone seems to avoid me like I was a leper or something.I usually lie to people and tell the I was burned when I was younger.
I don't have any friends outside of my family and when I muster up enough self-esteem to talk to women they look at my hands and it seems thier whole perception changes and my self-esteem plummets again.I rarely ever go outside my house except to work because of this.I also have some of the rashiness on my ears also so that just makes things worse.I truly feel there is nothing in this life for me anymore and I've talked with doctors about the issues of my skin and there is really nothing that can be done they say.
I just don't understand why women can't just look at my personality and not the faults of my skin.I can't help I was born with this stupid s**t.
I'm so tired of being depressed all my life.IT SUCKS!!!!!!!
2007-03-20 17:33:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Have you ever tried getting to know someone before you meet them in person, say online, maybe? You sound like a very nice man, and if you got to know a woman before you meet her and be upfront with her about your condition. I'm not saying anything about lying. Maybe if you shine though and get to know someone this way, she'll be able to see past this condition?
2007-03-20 17:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may not seem like it now but, please believe me, there is plenty in this life for you! I have suffered from depression myself and I know the feeling of hopelessness. You're right, it sucks! But if you help yourself, it will pass. It would help if you did not depend on other people to make you feel happy. Do not allow others to define your self-worth. You have everything you need within you. If you love yourself the way you are, then others will love you - the way you are. You might want to consider where you're meeting these women. Also, how do you know it's your skin that's turning women away and not bad breath or a cheesy come-on? Have you ever seen that movie "Cast Away" with Tom Hanks? There's a very powerful message at the end about how miserable he was and how he just wanted to die but all he could do was just keep breathing and then one day the tide brought in that metal door that he would use to escape the island. "You never know what the tide will bring." I strongly suggest speaking with a good therapist to help find ways to make yourself feel good again...you deserve it! We can never tell what will happen to us in this strange medley of life...but we can tell how we deal with it and what we do with it...and that's what matters in the end. YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL HUMAN BEING!
2007-03-21 01:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok im asuming you are a grown man so i cant really compare my life to yours. I also have skin problems but not as serious as yours.
Ok NEVER EVER belive that there's no cure. With skin it's usually bacterial, or fungus, try EVERYTHING! Organic, chemical, formula's.
As fro why women only look at your skin, well that's becaus you keep meeting the wrogn types of people. There are plently of people out there who dont care about what you skin looks like. (Oh when you meet them let me know! LOL). I woudl stop worrying about finding yourself a woman. You need friends, my advice is to go out and get involved with a club or soemthing you enjoy you'll meet lots of people.
But as you knwo how much thsi bothers you, never ever judge people by appearences. Sometimes the most unlikely person can end up being the perfect person.
I really hope this helps, but remember God never gave us a burden too heavy to carry.
2007-03-21 00:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by Out of Reach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt feel sorry for u, you should feel sorry for the people who avoid you. Who in the earth hasnt any defect in their body??please!!!!
Think about it as you have been lucky coz they dont worth your friendship.
Try to think positive about everythings and things would do just fine, trust me.
You would find soon a person who wont care about it(should be everyone, but...i guess people are just dumb!lol), its not your problem or nothing that you have done wrong, seriously, i dont understand people who act like this....
but, as how i said before, dont worry so much about it, you will find as many friends as you want when you stop to think that much about your situation. It is not bad, at all, so dont think is your problem, please.
Take care!
2007-03-21 00:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by ellow14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun dont even worry. one of my best freinds has that on her hands too and shes self concious. I have a big keyloid on my chest(its like a ugly bump). I usally hide it, but people used to always ask me what it was. I feel so self consious in a bathing suit. plus I have white spots on both front teeth, its really ugly. but always remember 2 luv urself. if those ppl arent gonna accept you for what you look like F*** THEM!!!! lol. thats what I always say. no one is perfect. even god makes mistakes. dont worry u will find the right woman one day
2007-03-21 00:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by ~*SkAnDaLoUz*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, life's tough and not fair. What to do? Try therapy. Learn to come to grips with your own life and the universe. You are fighting the wrong things. You are absolutely unique, and if you can't learn to love yourself how can you expect others to love you? Counseling will help you learn to accept yourself. Again...Lille yourself, accept yourself and others will like and accept you. This is important. Takes work but it is worth while.
2007-03-21 00:39:54 · answer #6 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
can i ask how many doctors did you ask about your situation? i don't think there's no such cure about your situation. please try to improve your self esteem. i can be your friend and you can IM me if you want. i can help you and i assure you i don't look in physcical aspects.... personality is most for me... hope we chat sometime...
2007-03-21 00:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by honeyko_japan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first....stop thinking bout it...
second...take a deep breath , everything will be ok
third...no girl is worth your time...if they dont like you for who you are...if they cant see past your faults then there oviously not for you....youll find someone...dont give up just yet!
2007-03-21 00:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they can't look pass the skin thing they are not good for u
2007-03-21 00:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by Carmel15007 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋