My bf cheated on me, used me and had sex. Abused me mentally and verbally. Talked nicely sometimes. After 2 years when marriage time came, ran away saying I am not beautiful. I am not fair. I am Indian girl with a decent look. He kept cheating me for another girl and always tried hide me. I found the truth and made him to tell me the truth. which he did, when I said I will call the other girl and tell everything. he got scared and said he likes her a little. Now he tries to seduce her, he will use her also. I feel so bad, whom I trusted so much, gave everything he cheated on me. Feeling like killing him to death. mOVE ON, with so much wounds, its diff to go on like this. I cry every day. My bf is not bothered. He talks to her and enjoying his life. How can some one do this to me? what should I do? Infront of everyone and even the other girl he is very good. what is he in real I know. How to take revenge? what shd I do? plz help me..Thank you so much...
2007-03-20 17:37:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have always believed that the best revenge is to move on, let it go, and get happy. (And yes, it CAN be done - I know from experience). Whining, crying, and wanting to hurt him will only feed his ego. If he realizes you don't care anymore, it will bother him more.
2007-03-20 17:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by Beckers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me (w/ an Indian guy also.) And you know what i did? I ran into another relationship with another indian guy to take revenge. Unfortunately, i got pregnant in a week and now my whole life is ruined. So do yourself a favor, DONT TAKE REVENGE. you'll get over this guy eventually. Just be a good person, focus on yourself, your studies/career and have a good life until the right man comes along.
2007-03-20 17:43:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is not always good, you would get a better eye opener out of him if you moved on and found someone else.. instead of sitting at home and cring act like it dont bother you.. we are human we always want what we can not have... and there is no legal punishment sorry, if there was half the world would be in jail or paying court costs... Good luck but move on please, if he dont want to be with you dont waste a day of your life thinking about the man that dont want you and try to find the one that does.. we are only here once so make it count...
2007-03-20 17:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still with him?? Dump him now! You deserve SO much better than him! But before you dump him, you should get revenge by cheating on him with one of his cute male friends.
He didn't do anything illegal, unless he committed a crime such as vandalism, physical domesetic abuse, etc sometime recently during your relationship with him. But if he costed you money--such as by vandalizing your stuff, stealing, not fulfilling a joint financial obligation he had with you, you can DEFINITELY sue him in civil claims court(DUMP HIM FIRST THOUGH!). I did that to a messed-up ex that cheated me out of money before. I recommend paying the extra money in court fees(fees come to about $100 total, at least in PA) to have a constable hand-deliver the court paperwork to him at his work. Not only will this humiliate him, but a constable guarantees that it reaches his hands. Now the ex has an option to simply blow off court or default on paying you back, but keep in mind that if he does default, his credit will be ruined and you will be able to obtain wage garnishment! :)
But yes, you must...dump...his...a$$...now! Why have you stayed with such a scumbag for so long? Don't worry about being alone, because a confident strong woman does not need a guy, and you will probably find another guy soon anyway. If you don't dump him, he'll probably dump you first! He's done enough damage already, don't let HIM dump YOU on top of all that!
2007-03-21 02:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by buffalo_billz_2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot see anything illegal that he has done. He may be a very bad person, but that is not a crime. It would be best if you just walk away, do not try revenge, it will not do you any good and it could hurt you. It will be hard but many people have done it. Good Luck
2007-03-20 17:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why bother with revenge? It is truly a waste of time and energy...But don't fret too much. Be comforted by the fact, what goes around comes around. Your ex will face his own punishment in due time...
2007-03-20 17:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is not the answer. You must learn to forgive him in your heart whether he deserves it or not. Once you learn to forgive him you will be at peace with yourself and then you can safely move on.
2007-03-20 17:44:21 · answer #7 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sympathies, but PLEASE, no getting even! You are better off without him. What he thinks of you is not important. It sounds simple, but DO move on. You have nothing to gain from wallowing in the past. He IS NOT WORTH IT!
Your only chance to find happiness is to get away from these people and these feelings as fast as you can.
2007-03-20 17:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋