I ve been seeing this guy for almost 2 years we have a 1 year old and i am 5 months pregnant he says he loves me but he still lives with his ex that he has a son with and takes care of her 3 other kids that are not his . I love him a lot and when hes away i cant stopp thinking about him , But deep down inside i know things are always gonna be this way . Some times i think i have to leave town if i really want him out of my life we breake up for a couple of months then he calls and i let him ;come back because i miss him so much how do i stopp these feelings and move on with my life it seems that no matter how i try i cant tell him no and stick to it
2007-03-20 17:37:22 · 4 answers · asked by Sd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't understand why he would still be living with his ex AND taking care of her children (who are even his) while he already has a 1-year old with you, and especially while you are pregnant. I think it would be stressful and depressing to be in your position where the man you are deeply in love with is living with another woman. If he really loves you, he'll take your feelings in consideration and move out of his ex's home to spend more time with you. Maybe there is something that I'm missing here but it's definitely unnecessary for him to be making you feel this way.
2007-03-20 17:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by obs3ssive beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it looks like that.
You have to decide first what you really want, cuz you can't have it all...you want to let go of him, tell him...but it's also very difficult cuz you have his kid and getting another one.
It's not easy, and the kids have a right to know their father and be able to see him.
So you have to find a way to deal with him without going back.
Maybe your family can help you there, call your mum or a sister or brother, and ask them to be there when he's comin over, or try to meet him in public places, or with a good friend.
I don't want to tell you what to do, i just want to give you an idea of what your possibilities are.
But if you can't stick to your NO, then you need somebody to help you sticking to it, if you really want it to be the final NO!
2007-03-21 00:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by twisted_352 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are different ways of saying no and it comes from your internal feelings being expressed through your outward actions. In your mind you have to clearly make the decision to remove him from the love aspect of your life. There can't be any if and or buts in this decision. When you have finally made this decision you have to stick to it and explain this to your guy. Tell him that you have thought long and hard about it and there is nothing that he can do to change your mind and if he truly respects you he will follow your wishes.
2007-03-21 00:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by lil e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question you need to ask your self why are you allowing this man to continue to disrepect you, you deserve better then
this, you have 1 child and one on the way. he living iwth someone else. that crazy, you need to cut him to the curb
like yesterday.. time to move on,AS LONG AS YOU ALLOWED THIS MAN TO KEEP DOING THIS TO YOU
HE WILL CONTINUE TO PLAY WITH YOU. TIME TOGET
OFF THIS ROLLER-COASTER RIDE ONCE AND FOR
ALL, HE NOT WORTH IT AND UNTIL YOU SEE THIS FOR
YOURSELF. YOU WILL NEVER BE FREE.
2007-03-21 00:45:21 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋