Family & Relationships - 16 March 2007

I was in a relationship where I was forced to have sex. This is how it started. When I was pregnant with my 2nd child, I absolutely hated sex, I was young and tried to please him in the beginning but then for a couple of months I stopped. Then he started forcing me, I would cry and then just try to be happy later. I was lost and confused. He would say sorry and then do it again. After this I hated sex with him, no matter how hard I tried to save out relationship, I hated it. THis went on for about 5 years of being forced to have sex. Then I left him, after breaking up and making up so many times. I was with another man becasue i thought is was me and not him. I blame myself for letting it happen to this day. Now he has changed, I admit, it has been 2 1/2 years. But he wants back in, my kids want him in their life but I am the only one who would be unhappy if I did this. I am considering this but I don't kno what to do.

2007-03-16 02:53:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Every time i make a suggestion/comment about something she comes back with either a straight NO or with a reason as to why i am wrong. Sometimes I feel like we are getting on but other times I feel like she is putting me down and i dont know what to do. Confrontation is not an option as she is the 'Social Butterfly' of our work place which consists of a lot of lads who fancy her and a lot of people who like her in general. I feel like a Z List friend if you know what i mean.

2007-03-16 02:52:33 · 5 answers · asked by Jude 3 in Friends

my husband has a co worker that texts him stupid message when she's drunk like, "is it bad that i'm drunk at 6pm", and "hey" what is that crap about?

2007-03-16 02:52:17 · 15 answers · asked by MamaLady 2 in Marriage & Divorce

If I did'nt suggest the dates we do have I think I'd hardly see him, as in I'm the one who always suggests we meet up. I get that I could become less available to him but is'nt that what a relationship is all about? Being together?

2007-03-16 02:52:15 · 32 answers · asked by . 5 in Singles & Dating

I like this guy who is nearly 6 years older than me (17) he is a good friend of my brothers and he has been talking and staring at me alot more lately. But he doesnt hug or touch me really so the signals arnt too strong i like him bu what should i do to find out if he likes me ? or should i just ask him? help xx

2007-03-16 02:51:22 · 20 answers · asked by Zalia 1 in Singles & Dating

i know ive asked a lot of questions about it latley but were great together until one little thing happens that he doesnt like and he gets really mad and upset. the person i lost my virginity to he hates and i accidently brought it up last night because my cousin was asking me about it and now he says hes not mad at me but hes mad period and i dk what to do anymore help me please.

2007-03-16 02:51:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

days later she told me she is not engaged , whats in her mind?, what to do?

2007-03-16 02:51:11 · 8 answers · asked by firasfrsa 1 in Singles & Dating

However, we always seemed to have some sexual activity when we went out. He left to go back to college (which was only 1 hr away) and he told me he would be back. I thought he would call and he did but it was several months - I think it was about 4-5 months at least. We he did call once again he did not leave a phone number so I could call him back. I had found someone else anyway that would actually call me and take me out on real dates. Years later I ran into this guy and he told me that he had always loved me and when he got back I was gone and he could not find me. When I asked why he did not call he told me that he did again and again but my messages were not passed on to me. He also told me that when he was away at college he was busy just going out and having a beer with the fellas. When I talk to him he talks about the sex we had a lot. Now he has given me phone numbers. He kills me with his words because I still care for him but I became very leary of him. HELP ME!!!!!

2007-03-16 02:51:01 · 3 answers · asked by formy p 1 in Singles & Dating

Your 17 year old even though you have been a good parent is plaining on moving out as soon as she/he turns 18.

2007-03-16 02:50:12 · 11 answers · asked by Sunset 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

YA BUT what about those times that you are not open?

2007-03-16 02:49:51 · 14 answers · asked by lowroad 1 in Singles & Dating

How do I handle this when I enjoy my friendship with her and see her frequently but she has asked for us to come over and have dinner and I give excuses (she doesn't know that my hubby now knows they swing). My hubby is disgusted with her husband , because I notified him of her hubby hitting on me(even though I told him "get the thought out of your head it will NEVER happen") He says it is complete disrespect her husband showed towards him. Now I am curious as to how I smooth things over with my friend whom I have to see on a regular basis.

2007-03-16 02:49:47 · 7 answers · asked by Joseph & Eileen D 2 in Friends

son has gotten dischrged is he lying that he had an option up to 6 months to change his mind he said he was depressed or somthing but he didnt want to go to japan i think because of his gf and now hes home and i think he is a coward and what do you think the discharge was he said it wasnt dishomorable? he had joined the navy

2007-03-16 02:48:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My boyfriend and I have been together almost 4 months and things have been wonderful. The past few days though, I've felt a little distance. We always talk on the phone before bed, but last night he went out for a drink with some friends. We've also been discussing moving in together, but he made a passing comment last night about how one of his friends wants him to get an apartment with him. And earlier he called to say he wasn't sure he could see me tomorrow, because of a big snowstorm we're supposed to be getting. I feel like he's slipping away, but he swears everything is fine. Am I overreacting, or is this something to worry about?

2007-03-16 02:48:30 · 8 answers · asked by curlyblue11233 1 in Singles & Dating

I don't want to go to the doctor. My mother tends to worry over nothing. i was gonna ask someone in work but i work in a office full of women so its a little embarassing. should i need to worry?

2007-03-16 02:48:18 · 40 answers · asked by dennis 1 in Friends

2007-03-16 02:48:17 · 9 answers · asked by pookie 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

If you dated a girl for 3 years,risked your life for her on several occasions,gave her everything you had and she still took you for granted for the best part of those 3 years what would it take for you to give her another chance?I assure you I know what I had now that I lost it and will never make the same mistake again if given a second chance.What would it take?

2007-03-16 02:48:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We had the happiest 1 month and half together. Then I had to leave Kuala Lumpur because of work (it got me there in the first place). I still really really like him, and I know he still has something for me. I really miss him. We chat reguarly which kills me even more. We can't have a relationship because he's there, I'm here. If it weren't for the distance, I know we would've made a great couple.

To keep a long distance relationship would only destroy what we have because we are both young (20-somethings) and focused on things like business and career. We can't. We're better off not being together despite knowing what we feel for each other because, admit it, reailty bites. Long distance would only work if we had the same plans but at this stage, that's not going to happen.

But where ever I go , when ever I turn on the radio, or TV,something ALWAYS reminds me of him.

How do I get over this? How do I get over him? Cut contact? I can't do that to a friend that I love...

2007-03-16 02:47:13 · 7 answers · asked by glittersmoke 2 in Singles & Dating

Due to the overwhelming response to my "Stay or Go" question, I need you to know more and then tell me what you think. We are a military family, married for 9 years, 2 kids (one on the way), and I've said tried toexpress how I felt many times before but it only brings a short change. I believe in marriage but how am I gonna hold on when every bit of me wants to run?

2007-03-16 02:47:06 · 3 answers · asked by smith_dynasty 1 in Marriage & Divorce

since I am unhappily married? The opportunities to date sexy black women for me have been increasing. I think some of these black beauties are starting to go for white men. I personally love their full lips, nice butts, and most of all they seem to make me feel good when I am around them.

How should I handle this being married and all?

2007-03-16 02:47:06 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i notice that when i put my attention over on the other person, a certain momentum i have for my own specific agendas suffers in favour of new shared agendas. It does not SEEM like a good thing.

I really struggle with this. How do you handle the shift from individual to coupledom and not suffer and have the experience of losing a part of yourself? What has been your experience?

AND PLEASE no theoretical idealistic two hearts beating as one answers! I am interested in, historically, what had been your actual experience only.

2007-03-16 02:46:33 · 14 answers · asked by lowroad 1 in Singles & Dating

i think i like my best friends bother, in fact, i know i do, and shes the one who put it in my head that we'd make a cute cuple and told me that we should but id still weired when we broke up and try tomeke he pick sides? should i go for it or not?

2007-03-16 02:46:21 · 5 answers · asked by mAnDiE 2 in Singles & Dating

Okay, Im at school (my college) and i see one of my girl friends. She's really pretty and at one point last semester i kinda liked her. anyway, we're eating lunch together and then as she comes back from takin her tray stops and whispers something to another girl (which just happens to be Jordin from American Idol). Then she comes back and sort of eases me down on by back and crawls on top of me. She then leans down and kisses me on the mouth and even uses some tounge. Naturally, i kiss back. We make out passionately for a while and then we go to the opening round of the NCAA mens basketball tounament where Memphis hits a game winning shot and the fans go crazy (i dont attend Memphis). Oh yeah, My friend's name wasnt her real name but rather Rachel (a friend of mine that I wanted to be more than friends with that same semester. we went out once to a concert that was required for one of our classes but when i asked her out again she said she had a bf). so whats it mean?

2007-03-16 02:45:51 · 3 answers · asked by packerswes4 5 in Singles & Dating

Ok...There's this girl, who I have known since I was about 5. I am now 17 and she is 16. Her brother and I were best friends, Her brother got married so me and her started hanging out, we've gotten really close. We talk about everything, were not in any kind of relationships, we both talk to other people she tells me about her guy friends and how she Hates Relationships, but the thing is I really like her more than a friend, and Im sure she knows this. I would love to be in a relationship with her, but I never even attempted to ask, because of what she said about relationships. Its weird b/c we talked about having sex with each other but it just never happened. We hang out alot but knowone is making any moves, and I really would hate to get rejected by her, b/c I dont want to ruin our friendship. She means alot to me Can anyone help, or give me some kind of tips & advice. What should I do??

2007-03-16 02:45:43 · 7 answers · asked by RKF 2 in Singles & Dating

My question is about Illinois Child Support. Now me and my fiance is getting married next year but I receive some papers saying they about to start taken money from my job because of support. I've always been there for my child and me and my fiance live together. She haven't filed a claim on me or anything. How come they can just come at me like this. And why? Should I seek legal advice?

2007-03-16 02:45:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

...for all the little insects in my garden. I`m using the shiny side of a CD as the Ice Rink. All the little bugs can`t wait, one little ant is so excited she keeps weeing herself, it`s an embarrasing problem for her, what can she do to curb her excitement and stop her wee weeing?

2007-03-16 02:44:00 · 6 answers · asked by fried or boiled? 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

this was an arguement we had last night:
Brad: Oh yeah i read your chemistry book.
Me: oh yeah, that's cool.
Brad: It looks so easy.
Me: No, what are you talking about? it's hard.
Brad: No, it's not you just have to get into it.
Me: WEll, if you know it so much why don't you teach me?(i was mad because he doesn't know any of it)
Brad: all you have to do is find the slope of the two...
Me: wait a minute, brad, chemistry has nothing to do with slopes,we deal with the peroidic table
Brad: yes it does.
(in my head) what the ****!! he really makes me mad, and what's worse is i have higher classes than him he is still in algebra and he makes up stuff like that!! what should i do??? he was titally lying about slopes because i was talking about balancing reactions that happen with atoms)

should i ask him hard chemistry questions?
he barely goes to class and he thinks he can do better than me but he claims that he is only lazy. he's trying to always say that he is smarter!! help.

2007-03-16 02:43:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

people think i look very good attractive sport nice person,but am alone ! i have no girlfriend! is it tru what my friends say? cause they change girls like gloves,and now am confused!

2007-03-16 02:43:49 · 5 answers · asked by mamostano 1 in Singles & Dating

Yeah, every guy I go out with cheats on me with my neighbor. Can someone please tell me what is wrong? Is it me or is she just too much competiton? Help?

2007-03-16 02:43:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My wife thinks of me as a mule, a source of financial stability, and the children are ungrateful. I have been working for thiry two years now and am just tired. It's never enough. I'd leave her with all the money, the cars, my custom bike and the house with everything in it. I just want to leave and never come back.
Is that illegal?

2007-03-16 02:43:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What would you do if your husband sneeks out of the house, and dissapears till 5am. She has 2 small children, and she feels like she is his mother.

2007-03-16 02:43:11 · 20 answers · asked by chez006 3 in Marriage & Divorce