Your 17 year old even though you have been a good parent is plaining on moving out as soon as she/he turns 18.
2007-03-16 02:50:12 · 11 answers · asked by Sunset 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would be proud that my child is eager to enter the real world and become independent, rather than another peice of trash living at home until I throw them out.
2007-03-16 02:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let the teen move out and you should just continue to be a wonderful supportive parent and be there for him/her every step of the way. I am 26 and just recently moved out on my own and it's hard. So them being even younger they will really see how the real work is. It's just that when you are that young, all you can think about is freedom, no rules and to be able to go and come as you please. I remember that feeling like it was yesterday.
So just be there, comfort you're child and if it turns out to be too hard for them. Let your child know that they can always come back home and start over. Sometimes it takes a big step to learn from a mistake. And if you really feel confident that you were a good parent, what are you so worried about anyway. You raised him/her right, right? Relax and take a deep breath. Also think about the bright side. Hope I was helpful.
2007-03-16 10:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by misscancer10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on the reason...if they are wanting to go to college and get a job and become responsible adult, then fine... but maybe help them in making the right decisions so that they live in a safe place and get a good job etc... but if they are just wanting to be rebellious and get out from the "opression" of parents then as a parent you need to be firm with them... they need to prove to you that they are capable of living on their own... so maybe let them get a job and start paying YOU rent, put their own gas in the car, buy their own food etc etc ... if they seem capable of doing that without a problem and in a mature manner... then Ja let them spread their wings. Being an adult is about responsibility for yourself... they may just find it very different from their fantasy view. Also if they are having issues then maybe some family therapy might help! Hope that helps!
2007-03-16 10:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by tarzanatvw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as a parent I would wish him or her well, and tell them that if they cannot make it out there the door is always open. The reason I say that is that I would not want to alienate my son or daughter so they would end up living with someone prematurely instead of coming home. It is a learning experience and some kids have to go through it.
2007-03-16 18:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AS a parent raising children we hope we instill good judgement,character,values,etc.... however; what the child learns and does with what we have taught them is up to them!!! We hope they don't get wrapped up in "peer pressure." Hopefully when you're 18 you have a job and can afford to pay for rent, food etc.... Also, depends on the situation as to why they want to move out. Think rationally when making that big step!!!!
2007-03-16 09:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by stoutunicorn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 17 year old and if mine wanted to move out on her 18th birthday...I would let them do it and be prepaired for their return. Make sure that they know that they can come home.
2007-03-16 10:18:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most of all children r moving out due to few reason ,when parent fight with each other,where children r not getting attention toward their parent,or when ur children gets bad company as friends, its on u that check out what ur children dis ired for,listened what the feel for their parent,don't discourage than all the time,give them time to sit with them and listen them and do fun with each other,always praised then, adopt positive think among then that the feel good and sporty, if u give hardship for their goods then encourage them also.go out with them,remember their special days as birthday,be always their where they want u.i m sure it help u,becz children in this age seek for their parent love,attention,care etc being good is not enough for u,becz it easy to live for urself but its difficult to live for other in life specially for children
2007-03-16 10:14:43 · answer #7 · answered by milli n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're either bluffing, or they're not. If you've been a good parent, then all you can do is pray for them and keep being a good parent. Also, it might be good to talk to them and figure out why they want to move out so bad. I hope that helps, thanks for reading. God bless.
2007-03-16 20:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess its time for her to go.... She always has a place to call home... Momma loves her unconditionally... Even though , she will make her mistakes.... She is my heart and noone will ever love her like me........
2007-03-16 09:58:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do nothing. i think it is wonderful that they want to declare their autonomy at that age. let him/her know that you will always be there if the need anything and cut the umbilical cord.
2007-03-16 09:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by evonne i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋