If I did'nt suggest the dates we do have I think I'd hardly see him, as in I'm the one who always suggests we meet up. I get that I could become less available to him but is'nt that what a relationship is all about? Being together?
2007-03-16 02:52:15 · 32 answers · asked by . 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After he said it he took it back saying " Oh my God, I totally take that back it was probably the worst thing I could have ever said" but it's too late he said it and It stung.
2007-03-16 03:05:51 · update #1
Look your very best and ignore the crap out of him.
2007-03-16 02:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by babe 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you have the house to yourself and are wearing nothing but a smile.
If that doesn't make him want to come to you I don't think anything will!
In reality though, "you've gotta make me want to come to you" sounds like some guy crap to me. He's not really that bothered and expects you to put all the effort in. It shouldn't be up to you to make him want to see you and suggest all your dates. If this relationship is going anywhere, he should be desperate to see you and spend time with you and take you out. I was only joking in the above statement and I think he Best thing to do in this situation is totally ignore him. Let him ring or message you. If he doesn't you know he's a waste of time, if he does, perhaps he is interested and prepared to make some effort after all. Good luck.
2007-03-16 03:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should run in the other direction if a guy says that to you. What it means is you've got to do something to make him want you.
1) He's not interested in you & he's really not that into you. He doesn't want to be with you unless there's a carrot dangling somewhere and that carrot ain't you. You're the one always initiating. If he was really into you, he'll be biting and wanting to see you more, not saying those words. .
2) And why on earth would a guy say this to a girl he's not attracted to? Now, don't lower yourself cos he wants to see how far you will go to get him. Bottom line, if he's into this game, it's for the sex and for his ego.
3) It is not a relationship.
4) He thinks he is too good for you.
My view : Don't waste your time on someone like him. For it will not last. He will play you, use you, then leave. Don't date a guy who doesn't want you.
Oh, as for your additional note, he means it alright. You don't say something like that by accident!!! He probably realised he pushed too far with those words which could probably end his game for good. But he means those nasty words for sure.
2007-03-16 03:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take a back seat! Imagine your relationship is like a boat - at the moment you are rowing and trying to direct where your headed. Stop rowing and see what happens - he should take over...if he doesn't, the boat will grind to a halt and the relationship was probably not worth it anyway.
If a guy likes you HE WILL COME TO YOU!! let him do some of the suggestions and asking to meet up with you...stop filling in the "blanks" and let him have a go at showing you how keen he is. Good luck.
2007-03-16 03:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by long_luscious_lashes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are doing all the work in this relationship .. then HE IS NOT WORTHY OF YOU!!! Get it!!! In a relationship its give and take and not no onesided ride. This what you have with him is not a relationship. Its him having what he wants at your expense. He doesnt care and really isnt bothered and if you took off tomorrow i'd doubt he would be rushed to ask you why. Save yourself for someone who is worthy and is prepared to be a part of a real relationship where he would suggest places to take you out and stuff to do. And who has respect for you too.
2007-03-16 07:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by chiccigyal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want someone that thinks they are so good you have to earn their time and affection? If he is not attracted to you enough to want to spend time with you then don't jump through hoops for him. He's just an attractive young person not a God and you're an intelligent young person with some dignity. Move on there is someone out there who will appreciate you for yourself and won't require you to do tricks to get their attention.
2007-03-16 03:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with babe.
I dont think you have a relasionship and I think he is messing you around. Really amke an effort to look good for the next few months and dont go near him. In fact I wouldnt go near him at all. Sounds like a male's private part!
2007-03-16 02:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't make anybody do anything they don't want to do. And if he doesn't want to come to you, why in the hell would you want him to?
Stop playing stupid games with this chump and walk away.
EDIT: What he said afterwards **doesn't matter.** Actions speak louder than words. If his behavior matches the initial statement - and it sounds like it does - then he's just worried about how his TRUE THOUGHTS make him sound when spoken aloud.
Don't be fooled.
2007-03-16 02:57:08 · answer #8 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've noticed that men often like the thrill of the chase, I wonder whether this dates back to their 'hunter gatherer' instinct. If you do too much of the chasing, he could lose interest, as it can take away some of his feelings of masculinity. Let him be the one to phone you, suggest dates, don't always be free. This might sound rather false, but it does seem to work.
2007-03-16 03:07:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, any guy that said that to me... my reply would be "ok, see you around" - then I would go off and start doing everything on my own.
Show him you are independent and desirable to other men. He'll get the message - either he'll come running or won't be bothered - either way, you'll know!!
Live your life for yourself love - if he's playing games, leave him to it before he grows up. If you continue to pander to him, he'll keep taking advantage. It's difficult, I know, but you have to be strong!!
2007-03-16 03:02:49 · answer #10 · answered by PrettyKitty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a complete tosser, why would you want to be with someone who makes you play stupid games like that and make all the effort.
If he really liked you he would want to see you, end of story, wouldnt need you to "make him want you".
I think you should forget about him, he sounds like an immature player, dont waste your time on him you can find someone better.
2007-03-16 03:34:22 · answer #11 · answered by rebecca j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋