I was in a relationship where I was forced to have sex. This is how it started. When I was pregnant with my 2nd child, I absolutely hated sex, I was young and tried to please him in the beginning but then for a couple of months I stopped. Then he started forcing me, I would cry and then just try to be happy later. I was lost and confused. He would say sorry and then do it again. After this I hated sex with him, no matter how hard I tried to save out relationship, I hated it. THis went on for about 5 years of being forced to have sex. Then I left him, after breaking up and making up so many times. I was with another man becasue i thought is was me and not him. I blame myself for letting it happen to this day. Now he has changed, I admit, it has been 2 1/2 years. But he wants back in, my kids want him in their life but I am the only one who would be unhappy if I did this. I am considering this but I don't kno what to do.
2007-03-16 02:53:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
STAY AWAY from that rapist!
2007-03-16 02:59:04 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do what YOU WANT.. It's your life. I'm sorry to read that.. What a bastard! No one should be forced to have sex. That's RAPE! Why did you stay in the relationship... Maybe in some weird twisted way.. you might of liked it.. since you continued to deal with it. I hope you make the right decision for you. You say he's changed... but most likely not... they don't change that fast.. He FORCED you... so maybe you should try some type of counseling to help you guide you toward the direction what is best for you. LIVE your life happy.. not miserable... My mom stayed in a crappy relationship with my dad for 25 yrs because of the kids.. but finally in the end realized that you have to do what's right for you... you can always split the kids... Good Luck!!!
2007-03-16 03:02:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you end a relationship with someone you have feelings for, you will have a desire to get back with them.
ALWAYS ask yourself what has changed. Ask yourself if the reason you left has ceased, or have you just forgotten the pain.
In the above case, I wouldn't get back with him if my life depended on it. He needs to be beaten to death with a 2x4.
2007-03-16 02:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT DO IT!!!! He can be in your childrens life without you being in a relationship with him, just as long as you keep it cordial for the children sake....feel me? But I commend you for getting out of that situation.....you do have children and you should always think of them as well. But continue to do you, dear, life is to short to be unhappy......you can do that by yourself, right? You go girl!! Peace
2007-03-16 03:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT let him in YOUR life. He wants to see the kids, fine. But you will resent the "sacrifice" you think you'd be making for your kids by letting him in your life. If you sacrifice your happiness for theirs you will ultimately sacrifice theirs as well.
2007-03-16 02:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by T S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be ridiculous!! Run as fast as you can!!!
If his children want to see him fine, get a court order.
But don't you ever get involved with him again!
2007-03-16 02:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about ur children before thinkign about urself.. he never laid his hand on u i suppose.. so whats so bad?? think baout ur children's future
2007-03-16 02:58:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋